I wish they understood that they don't have to understand to accept.

As a cis male, I wish other cis folk would realize that my nail polish and the fact that I like shows that would normally be geared towards women doesn't mean I am secretly trans, or closeted gay man.

Some people just want to be happy, and it really shouldn't be such a big ask to not stomp all over that.

Crowley: What has he said that made everyone so upset?

Aziraphale : Be kind to each other.

Crowley : Oh yeah. That'll do it.

That being trans is personal and that I don’t owe them an explanation for them to be supportive. I hate that most cis people only support us after we invest many hours of explaining what being trans is like. Why can’t they support us unconditionally?

Real answer: that everyone is entitled to bodily autonomy, and being autistic or bipolar or having whatever other neurodivergence doesn’t mean someone can’t also be trans.

Pet peeve answer: that cis is not an acronym and shouldn’t be capitalized.

I wish they'd listen to our voices instead of infantalize or demonize us. We're just people, not all bad, not all good, just like everybody else. Just happen to be trans.

Honestly, I wish they'd understand that negative experiences happen occasionally and that it doesn't invalidate or override the positives of transition. I sometimes feel like I have to present a manicured facade.

CISDad here: That there are as many genders as people. That a person's expression of gender is their own and isn't for us to police.

I'm sorry the dipshits are sapping your energy. I hope you find more supportive spaces.

What gender is. Most cis people don't think about it at all, they just live theirs. They don't even know it's a free variable.

Oooh, easy one I can snap up real quick ;P

Being trans has nothing to do with sexual orientation (meaning, which sexes/genders/whatever a person is "interested" in)! "Why would you want to be a woman if you're still attracted to women?" Begone with that "want to" crap but also this whole thing about sex, gender, and orientation all being a single thing with exactly two options is irritating. Basically, "this is about my own identity, not some game I'm playing to fit into your world. If I lived your way I wouldn't be trans, now would I?"

On that note, the idea that we're trying to play tricks on people is a particularly offensive one. That one can also go directly into the bin.

I don't think cis people understand the joy of finally embodying the correct gender. Maybe they do, but they don't have the comparative experience. I feel a little sorry for them that they won't ever experience it, and I think they'd be more understanding of us if they did.

I'm Agender and I've also heard the opposite of your statement at the end, especially from my mum. ' NOBODY cares much about their gender! What you're describing is just being NoRmAl!' There's not thinking much about your identity because you're cis in a cisnormative society, and then there's doing a LOT of soul searching and then strongly feeling that you lack a gender identity and would like to be seen as genderless by others. I know there's different ways to be Agender but the latter is me.

CIS here. The way I see it, bodies evolve in all kids of ways in the womb. Some grow blue eyes, others are brown, some are blonde, others are ginger, some are born with a sixth toe on each foot, some are even born with both sexes.

I can't see why people can't grow a female brain in a male body or vice versa. Or some have the "programming" of both. Some others might be missing that code altogether.

I don't try to understand it, it just happens. It just is.

That even if you think you are an ally you almost certainly have internalized transphobia

Presentation does not equal identity!

I already commented but more i just thought of

• Sex is not a binary, no one is the 'perfect' 'biological male/female' its a graph with two like, clusters of stuff that gather around little hills like flowers, most of them want full, bright sun but some of them fall in the middle where the cool, shades or partially sunny areas are (have many characteristics of 'both' sexes, are intersex) and pretending that it is a perfect binary excludes intersex people and also seems to fuck over disabled ppl in a lot of instances
• gender is a colonial construct and systemic oppression of trans/queer ppls is inherently linked to racism and colonialism, because it's presenting the specific social hierarchies and systems of colonizers to be Superior and Right and Good
• trans people come in all shapes and sizes. You do not know the gender or even the sex of someone by looking at them. I am beaming this one directly into my aunt's head because she still tries to sus out the AGAB of my trans friends.
• there are trans people in every country in the world. do NOT think that because e.g. Peru is in south america has very spanish catholic-y culture and is somewhat homophobic and transphobic, that there aren't queers in Peru fighting against that oppression. We are everywhere, and we have always been here.

the fact that just because i don't "look" like a trans person doesn't mean I'm not one. Like, yeah, i'm genderfluid/genderqueer in the cool xenogender way and if i got to control my outward appearance i would literally be a decomposing log, but that's not possible so i will settle for a brown turtleneck and funky earrings. Also, I use any pronouns, you literally cannot get it wrong even if you're trying to? you do not need to correct when you say "she"

My feelings lol,

Masculinism and manarchism everywhere 😣.

Fam, something that the George Floyd incident taught me (as a white cis male) is that I'll never be able to understand the plight of African Americans. Their experiences are so far removed from my own. The best judgement call is to simply believe them, communicate, and stand by them. The same applies to LGTBQ+. Even though I'll never understand your struggles, I do stand by you ❤️