What is something you wish cis people understood? (self.trans)

submitted 9 months ago by onevia to c/trans

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Personally, for me it's the idea that just because you don't experience something (dysphoria, or being a gender other than what society expects of you) that doesn't mean those experiences aren't valid.

I get sooo tired of the response "I just don't understand! I love being my AGAB! Why can't you just get over it?"

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[-] ada 75 points 9 months ago

I wish they understood that they don't have to understand to accept.

[-] zea_64 29 points 9 months ago

I wish people could do this with any personal choice. It's like empathy's backfiring, they're trying to put themselves in my shoes and utterly failing, but they don't know how to deal with that.

[-] ada 10 points 9 months ago

Yeah, exactly. The would be allies so often try and empathise, but when they can't, they don't know how to proceed

[-] TGhost@lemmy.ml 8 points 9 months ago

My coming outs are particularly unsatisfactory because of this and then the askings going with that...

Wtf for real.

I'm not here to teach them, what the hell. I'm just making an announcement. "Embrasse it or open fight me". But don't try to "understand".

We are not beasts in a zoo with panels for you in our brain.

😂

[-] onevia 5 points 9 months ago

Beautifully put. Thanks for sharing your insights :)

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