[-] cowboycrustation 2 points 1 day ago

Same here. I rarely talk about it IRL.

[-] cowboycrustation 3 points 1 day ago

Yep. It's been a problem for a while. I'm adore IT so I fit into the fediverse alright, but the subculture around it is exclusionary in trans spaces.

The cool thing about the fediverse tho is that you can usually carve out your own space if you post on it/promote it enough.

[-] cowboycrustation 2 points 1 day ago

Been doing pretty well. College has been really good for me and I feel happy in spite of all that's going on in the world. Thriving is resistance.

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submitted 3 weeks ago by cowboycrustation to c/ftm

Hey y'all,

I'm looking for more mods on this community. I haven't been super active because of school and I want to make sure there's other people looking out for this community in addition to myself.

Requirements:

-Must have a post history either with this community or related ones on this instance

-Must be trans

-Be transmasc (optional, but preferred)

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submitted 2 months ago by cowboycrustation to c/ftm

I'm curious how many active transmascs there are on here and want to get to know people better. Introduce yourself in the comments below. You can include anything you want.

Questions if you can't think of any:

-Name

-Gender identity

-How long you've been transitioned/if you've transitioned

-Things that give you gender euphoria

-Where you're from

-What you're looking for in this community

-Random fun fact

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Big resource (github.com)
submitted 2 months ago by cowboycrustation to c/ftm

Megathread of resources in case any of y'all need them. If you don't currently, save it in case you need it in the future.

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submitted 2 months ago by cowboycrustation to c/trans

The gender in question:

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submitted 2 months ago by cowboycrustation to c/ftm

I used to have an unhealthy relationship with food. I would constantly be feeling guilty about eating anything and was terrified of gaining any weight because it would make me look more feminine.

When I gain weight now I celebrate it. That means my fat gets to redistribute which means less effort that I have to put into passing which means that I can feel more free and comfortable in my own body.

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submitted 2 months ago by cowboycrustation to c/ftm
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submitted 2 months ago by cowboycrustation to c/trans

While this article does not explicitly mention trans people, this very much applies to all of us right now and is very important to understand.

What is your community like right now? Who are the people who you support and who support you?

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Fuck TSA (self.ftm)
submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by cowboycrustation to c/ftm

I have never had so much trouble with TSA (american airport security) until today. My crotch got flagged by their scanners and I had to get a physical patdown (surprise, there was nothing bad). Then I forgot to empty my water bottle so I had to go through it all AGAIN and my crotch was once again flagged and I had to get a physical patdown AGAIN (surprise, nothing bad yet again).

Then my other bag gets flagged after going through the thing again despite my not adding anything to it. The TSA guy opens up my bag and I'm assuming saw my packer which I kept in there to put it back in after I went through security. He then giggles and calls multiple of his coworkers over to look at it. Luckily he didn't take it out. This whole damn time I'm right there. Ugh. Considering getting a lumpy cloth packer just to avoid this ever happening again.

I'm assuming that my crotch kept getting flagged because trans? I've never had this happen to me before.

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submitted 3 months ago by cowboycrustation to c/ftm

These past couple of weeks I've felt such peace over my transition. I'm still not 100% in the place I want to be yet, but I know that those changes will come eventually.

It's done so much for my mental health to be in an environment that affirms me and to automatically be gendered correctly by most people. Being on testosterone has also done a lot for me because now I can actually bear to look at pictures of myself and think "oh yeah, that's me" and not some weird being that kinda resembles me but isn't.

I remember when I was younger and thought I was trans but was so afraid and second-guessing myself all of the time. I tried to convince myself that I'd regret it.

I don't know what the future will hold. But I'm so, so glad I transitioned. I finally feel whole.

[-] cowboycrustation 35 points 3 months ago

If you're perceived as a woman people tend to be friendlier and more polite towards you. My expierence with transitioning into a man is that people are generally more indifferent and cautious towards me now. I have to be a lot more mindful of coming across as "creepy" or "dangerous" than I used to be specifically with women who are strangers. I'm neither of those things, but the expectation of men being inherently threatening still prevails.

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submitted 3 months ago by cowboycrustation to c/trans

I read something somewhere that said that we're likely to enter another stonewall era. What exactly does this mean? I'm aware of the events at the Stonewall inn but don't understand the era part of it.

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submitted 3 months ago by cowboycrustation to c/trans

I've come across bad news that my home state has passed a really shitty law regarding trans people. Are there things I can do to help change this and all of the other shitty policies and attitudes at home?

[-] cowboycrustation 29 points 10 months ago

Cis men are heavily outnumbering even binary trans women right now...I think this leaked onto all

[-] cowboycrustation 52 points 10 months ago

I will do literally anything but finish the essay that was due two days ago

[-] cowboycrustation 31 points 10 months ago

Pro: faster metabolism, I can eat more

Con: faster metabolism, I have to eat more

[-] cowboycrustation 28 points 10 months ago

I was at a summer camp a while ago and there was this pre-transition trans man who was also there. Eventually as the camp progressed and everyone got to know each other better, I told some of the queer people there I was trans so they could relate to me better.

This person, I kid you not, said "Ha, I knew no one from cowboycrustation's state would have a name like cowboycrustation's name!"

I was like...wtf. My name irl isn't one of those names like fern or star that aren't common among cis people. My name is a somewhat common men's name. I literally have a cousin with the same name.

[-] cowboycrustation 27 points 11 months ago

I really hope that Nex will get justice and that there will be an independent investigation into this because this is a load of bullshit.

Do they think we're stupid? Even if the cause of death was suicide (which we don't know for sure, because the autopsy is shady AF.) it's a known fact that getting a concussion can make people suicidal. Either way, the girls who attacked him are responsible for his death. Pouring water on someone does not justify killing them.

[-] cowboycrustation 31 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I stink now. Wasn't expecting it to happen so soon (bout two and a half months low dose) Have to change my boxers more often than I used to and shower more (the horror). I smell more sour.

T made me more emotionally stable. I'm way less depressed than I used to be despite not changing much about my life. I used to wake up and the default would be sad, now I wake up and feel neutral (not in a numb antidepressant way, just in a normal way) most days. Worked way better than any antidepressant I've been on. Wasn't expecting that to happen. I've heard people say they're happier on T. Feels like I'm on default mode nowadays. Never felt that way before.

Occasionally I'll have dreams of... anger? I'll be asleep dreaming and feel angry, then when I wake up I'll be normal again.

Also I've been getting more bloated after eating or drinking anything. Apparently T can increase water retention.

[-] cowboycrustation 33 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I wish they'd listen to our voices instead of infantalize or demonize us. We're just people, not all bad, not all good, just like everybody else. Just happen to be trans.

[-] cowboycrustation 35 points 1 year ago

Basically people noticed the colors of Blahaj were similar to that of the trans flag. They'd take funny pictures of Blahaj in weird places. After the meme took off, IKEA made a couple of references and leaned into it, which made it even more of an icon.

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