You just delete the text and type it in. But that being said, it should be fixed now

Played with the new drone!

The default server reset itself when we updated cinny. You can still type in chat.blahaj.zone manually until we get it fixed!

As soon as Jellyfin allows downloads for offline viewing

Time to jump ship then...

Jellyfin has had sync play for a long time

That's what the different sorting algorithms are for. Trying sorting by "active" or "scaled" and see how it goes

In a business context, ma'am is fine. I don't think a lot of women (especially younger women) love the term, but it's not insulting or anything. It's just a reminder of age

Amazon is creating a series focused on a future in which Amazon and its like do not exist, nor do billionaires? It will be interesting to see how much they taint that, especially given the initial perspective of the protagonist towards The Culture

Rather, they are American 4chan incel types, who consume that type of media in the first place and who are also transphobic.

Yep, it's exactly that context this triggered this discussion.

No one is blaming Japanese folk, nor even the term as used in Japanese. The context here is chasers that exist on lemmy that find and interact with trans communities, using terms like this

While ふたなり (futanari) can be used to describe a transgender person, it would likely be seen as either woefully archaic or just incorrect

It may be both of those things, but in English, it's still used a porn stand in for porn involving trans women

because of its use in porn and it's loan-word status in English is frankly a bit colonial

The conversation here is explicitly about the loan word in english, not about the way it's used in Japanese

Is hermaphrodite a slur for trans people?

Yes

Unfortunately, it doesn't matter what the history of the word is or how it should be used, because it has been popularised as a stand in term for porn involving trans women. And in English at least, that's how it gets used against us. The vast majority of the time, it's used in a sexualised and objectifying way that places the value of a trans woman entirely in her sexual characteristics.

The words means what people mean when they use it, not what it used to mean or what it "should" mean.

I have often times thought of myself as futanari.

Gender diverse folk and intersex folk can absolutely use the language that best fits our needs. When it comes to slurs and sexualised terms, reclamation and ownership of terminology is a tool of power. But it needs to be opt in. You don't use slurs and sexualised terms to describe folk you don't know, or as a general stand in term for the whole gender diverse community.

The term is universally objectifying and sexualised when used against trans people, because it defines trans folk by their genitals and does so in a sexualised way.

It's one thing for a trans person to use the term for themselves, but yes, if someone else comes along and uses that term at a trans person without explicit consent, it absolutely deserves a ban and will get one.

And from your perspective, this is the end of the discussion. If you come back with more arguments or pushback against gender diverse folk talking in their own communities about terms referring to us, you will be getting a second instance ban. It's time to take onboard what you've heard, and bow out of this conversation.