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submitted 3 months ago by onevia to c/trans

Even if it's a small change in your attitude, what is that one thing you can rely on when having a rough day?

I have a few go to activities I can rely on, but they depend on how much time and energy I have to devote to them.

My favorite and most consistent activity is taking a long shower and shaving every inch of my body. Body hair has always been such a huge source of dysphoria for me since I was a teenager over 15 years ago. Weeeellll before I knew what dysphoria was. I would shave my arms and legs until my friends starting making fun of me for it. Didn't realize it was such a "weird" thing for me to do. I just hated seeing the hair and loved the sensation of smooth skin. 😅

Unfortunately this activity takes me a while if I want to do it right, but goodness do I feel like a new woman when I crawl into bed that night with soft silky skin.

So do you have a similar activity? Is it self care based like like or something different like listening to a favorite music album or watching a comfort show?

All the love, Olivia

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submitted 4 months ago by onevia to c/trans

So, let's keep it simple to start.

How have you been? Where are you in your journey?

I've been on an emotional rollercoaster of sorts for a while but we won't get into that.

I've just hit 6mo on HRT and last week I learned...

drumroll please

I finally love myself! Something that has taken me 30 years to learn to do. And that final piece of the puzzle was to embrace myself as Olivia ❤️

So, how have you been? What's on your mind?

  • O✌🏻
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submitted 5 months ago by onevia to c/trans

My family tends to be sprinkled throughout the different levels. My wife, grandmother and son, easily number 1 in support of my transition and identity.

Many of my cousins I grew up with are level 2.

Father and stepmother are level 5 - possibly level 6 when I was a child - still figuring that one out as new traumas surface.

Everyone else hovers around 3 - 5.

Just remember, I'll always be a level 1 for you ❤️

Level 1: completely supportive

Level 2: mostly supportive but lacking some knowledge, or some transmedicalist attitudes due to ignorance, not malignancy

Level 3: neutral, not supportive but not opposing either, or "supportive" transmedicalist

Level 4: leaning oppose, but no forceful interventions, or refuse to gende you correctly but used neutral pronouns

Level 5: misgendering, not accepting you as their daughter or son, but still pretend to be "loving" misgendered you

Level 6: disowning or physically beating or etc, most extreme measures

(Stolen, with love, from the user Cormier643 on Reddit. Felt like this was a great way to get discussions going again ❤️)

-Olivia ✌🏻

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by onevia to c/trans

Have you been in a codependent relationship?

My transition has helped me realize just how bad the codependency was in my marriage. Things are really rough for me currently as we try and untangle the destructive habits.

I have never had a sense of identity outside of my relationship with my wife. Now that is changing, it means my marriage must change with it... or not.

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submitted 7 months ago by onevia to c/trans

And how have they shown that support to you?

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submitted 8 months ago by onevia to c/trans

Been a while since I've posted here but missed you all!

I'd love for this to be a discussion question, but also I am legitimately asking.

I have a beautiful son who helped crack my egg when he was born. But I'm still struggling understanding what being a mom means other than "just how I feel"

I never had good blueprints for being a father or mother so all I know is generally "how to be a parent"

But I'm curious to those of you that have children. What does being a mother mean to you? What does being a father mean to you?

Thank you

-Liv

[-] onevia 30 points 8 months ago

For me, chemical x was testosterone.

It gave me dysphoria instead of super powers 😔

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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by onevia to c/trans

I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️

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submitted 8 months ago by onevia to c/trans

That last bit of defense before fully realizing your inner beauty 💜

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submitted 8 months ago by onevia to c/blahaj

She may be knockoff but she's mine 🦈

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submitted 8 months ago by onevia to c/trans

Here is mine ❤️ she may be knock off, but she's huge beautiful and her name is Gloria. I love her very much :D

[-] onevia 34 points 8 months ago

Unexpected E pro: Crying now actually releases my overwhelm and sadness. No more does it make me feel worse. It's truly releasing.

Unexpected E con: I have to cry a lot. And I mean a lot.

[-] onevia 26 points 8 months ago

I would say the most consistent source of gender euphoria or affirmation would be shaving my body hair. When I step out of the shower and every inch of my body is smooth, I feel so relaxed and sensual. It always puts me in a great mood and I try and time it when we do our bedding so I slip into this nice fresh bed and just kinda wiggle around 🥰

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Do you have "that one thing" that always feels affirming? Something that you continuously return to because you know it'll make your day better?

[-] onevia 29 points 8 months ago

Today, I went to an Easter gathering my friends family was putting on and his mom came up to me when I arrived and went "It's Olivia now right?" I'm like, "uh yes" (met before my egg cracked"

And she goes "Well, I just wanted to say welcome Olivia and thank you so much for coming as your true self. We're happy to have you here with us!" 😭

There is love and support for us out there :)

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This could be the biggest step that was hard for you to start. Or maybe there was a particularly stressful time during your transition that really weighed on you.

How did you overcome this and what did it teach you?

-Olivia ✌🏻

[-] onevia 28 points 9 months ago

It was just after 1am on a warm summer morning. My wife was told after 25 hours of labor she was going to need an emergency C-section. We were terrified as baby's heart rate kept dropping in and out of normal range all labor and he was struggling to move down the canal.

Nurse: Dad, this is the time to get your phone out and take babies first photo!

Me: She's not talking to me. I'm not a father. I'm not even sure what I am...

Nurse: This is it! Time to see if it's a boy or girl!

Me: Oh it's a boy we found out with the ultrasounds

Nurse: Are you sure? Those aren't always accurate. You never know! Nope, definitely a boy...

My son was born and I spent the first hour of his life alone as my wife had complications after the c section. We did skin to skin, him on my chest... Cue identity crisis.

Months of not grasping the concept of how I could be a father. Why did I feel more connected to the idea of being a mother. I googled "how to know I'm trans" and came across the Gender Dysphoria Bible that smashed my egg wide open at the tender age of 29

[-] onevia 26 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I haven't watched it yet... But I heard Nimona is really good! I believe it was written by someone who is nonbinary ❤️

[-] onevia 29 points 9 months ago

Back when I was pretending to be a boy, I had just hit 9th grade and moved to a new school. I was always a late bloomer in terms of my first puberty but it hit me like a freight train when it did.

All of a sudden my legs, arms, belly, nipples (weirdly) got hairy and I was terribly self conscious about it. Not that I had an obscene amount of hair, but it really felt like I did. It felt gross and uncomfortable. Never wore shorts or short sleeve shirts because of it. Even in the dead of summer.

After a few months of this curse, I decided enough was enough - stole one of my mom's super cheap bic razors and hacked away at my entire body. Took me a few hours to get every inch. Many cuts and scraped, but I finally felt like I could be a bit more comfortable in my skin.

Felt great about my decision until everyone at school noticed and made fun of me because it was really "weird" and I didn't have a good enough reason for why I did it other than "I felt trapped under all of the hair, I just really don't like it"

Peer pressure took over and I eventually stopped after a few months. A decade later, my egg finally cracked.

Can you guess what the first thing I did was after realizing I am a woman?

electric razor noises

[-] onevia 31 points 10 months ago

It doesn't appear in the letter, but is mentioned in the article. The letter also states that there are "more" policies that need to be defunded.

These policies encompass bans on pride flags, prohibitions on insurance coverage, restrictions on DEI programs, and even the defunding of children’s hospitals that offer gender-affirming care.

[-] onevia 86 points 10 months ago

A ban on pride flags? Really? You're scared of some fabric or colors?

Grow up and mind your damn business. We're just trying to live our own lives. Fuck

[-] onevia 27 points 10 months ago

Is that. Is that James Franco?

[-] onevia 32 points 1 year ago

"an example of packet loss" 🤣

[-] onevia 30 points 1 year ago

As a recent hatchling (about 5 weeks ago) my experience is no it won't be that easy. But it does get easier. Sounds like you may have gone at it a little fast but that's ok! Don't worry about how you look. Try and focus on how it makes you feel. It's going to take some time to explore and find out what you like and don't like.

Those moments of euphoria will come back. And you will have moments of dysphoria. For me, those dysphoria moments got more intense now that I knew what they were, but they're slowly becoming fewer occurrences.

It's a marathon girl, not a sprint. No matter how hard we wish we could just press a button and be a woman, it doesn't happen that fast.

Try and find those moments of your transition you enjoy and slowly build from there ❤️

Love yourself and explore what makes you happy and you'll find your peace. ❤️❤️

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