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Bored and feeling too nauseous to do much atm while recovering from surgery. So i wanted to hear about some of your experiences. I think mine was quite uncommon because i never identified my personal discomfort as dysphoria and rather found out through lying about my identity online (for anonymity purposes) that being seen and addressed as male felt incredibly euphoric and just right. Through that the discomfort in my day to day life becoming more apparent till i eventually had to consider the possibility of being trans and everything else kinda started from there. I was 15-16 during that time. The dysphoria i felt in younger years for me back then was just something i assumed is normal if youre a teenage girl

For the past few years I've been keeping my hair short but recently I decided to start growing it out. I haven't had actually long hair in years and I completely forgot how much of a pain in the ass growing your hair out is, especially when it's just long enough to get in your way but not long enough to do anything with. All of this isn't even getting into the dysphoria aspect. I just want to have an androgynous hairstyle that's long but I really don't know what to aim for and how to avoid it being too fem/too masc. Does anyone have any tips? Any suggestions for what to tell/show to my friend who's a stylist and cuts my hair? My hair is very straight and kind of a mullet currently. Just at my eyes in the front and down to the base of my neck in the back, the sides go a little past my jaw. I also have an undercut. My goal is to be androgynous and at least try to avoid the constant misgendering I get from trans and cis people alike.

I finally got top surgery today and i have never felt happier, i still cant fully believe it and havent seen my new chest but this felt impossible for so long. I was really worried about it before the surgery and scared i would experience depression but none of that happened. With this i consider my transition done for the near future, i feel like i can finally breathe again and quit chasing the next appointment

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Important to note: I have OCD, and I seem to have this obsession with the idea of me being transphobic. I am a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I have known this for years, and I try my best to support everyone. I have a lot of trans friends, I love them a lot, and treat them and see them as I would anyone else.

So, I feel like I’m transphobic. Is there any evidence of this? No. I’ve been a vocal supporter about LGBTQ+ rights for years (online), including trans rights, but I’ve recently become increasingly anxious at the thought of me being transphobic.

This likely stems from my questioning of my own gender, often times I feel that I am not quite male, maybe that I’m nonbinary or genderfluid. I mentioned this to my nonbinary friend, and they said “you don’t seem nonbinary”. This sent me spiraling, questioning my own gender and identity, and questioning if I was transphobic for believing that I was nonbinary (or possibly genderfluid, as at times I feel very comfortable being male, but at others I feel a lot more feminine).

At some point, I have to accept the fact that this is delusion, but I still really feel like I need guidance/assurance. I do not really know what to do about this.

(ANOTHER WORRY I HAVE is acting so paranoid and making it seem like I think trans people are going to cancel me and ruin my life if I say anything wrong, like a lot of transphobic people claim and act like. This is NOT AT ALL my intention, but I know I probably come off that way.)

Anyone in the UK on HRT and getting blood tests? I am going through the onboarding process for GAHT via Imago.tg.

Imago provide the full list of tests I need to take, but I can only contact my GP via their online intake forms. They do provide a space to ask for a nurse appointment for a blood test, but I'm a little cagey about outing myself to them if they will not actually help me. They don't have a way for me to just ask "can i see my GP" so i can talk to them in person.

As for private options, i only seem to see the off-the-shelf stuff at superdrug and the like, and none of their off-the-shelf offerings have the range of tests I need in them.

I'd love some advice from someone in the UK who's going through this process.

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It's not like Male pattern baldness or anything but when I was on Chemo for breast cancer I lost all my hair. It was heartbreaking for me and every day I avoid looking in the mirror because it makes me so sad and sick I almost throw up. I tried wearing a wig but it doesn't look convincing to me even if it does for other people. Also the feeling of the wig on my scalp makes my body feel gross and just reminds me of what I don't have anymore.

I know my hair will likely grow back but that's months from now and I need strategies on how to cope until then. Has anyone else been in this situation? How do you cope with something like this? It's just so hard.

Also this is my first post on Lemmy since I found my phone which was lost for months.

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Some things from me:

• Early on, darkening of the perineal raphe was quite a surprise (aka the "sack stripe"). It's not something I've seen mentioned in most HRT guides.
• How incredibly unreliable my own perception of how feminine I look is. People were treating me as a woman well before I could see even hints of it in my face.
• It's nice that women will sit next to me on the train now. As the carriage fills up I quite often find myself in the center of a cluster of women, which is very affirming.
• Makeup areas in bathrooms. I had no idea this was a thing, and they're great!

It sucks. I hate it. And I hate that I have no other choice.

I thought I passed pretty well and for a good bit now, and there where no indications that I didn't. I've been on HRT for over 1.5 years now and it has done a lot too.

Yet lately, especially at work, the misgendering has been getting worse and worse. Both from colleagues that knew me from back then and colleagues that are relatively new.

Why.... How... What changed.... I don't get it. What is that people actually think about me. I know what other people think of me doesn't change who I am but it's still just such a punch in the face every time.

Why couldn't it all just be different.... Why could I not have been born the way I want to.

Edit: I don't want to be trans, I don't want to hold the trans label and I don't even want anyone to remotely think about that. Not because I'm ashamed of it, just because I just want to live a normal fucking life the way I want to live.

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watched this the other day and hadn't really seen it mentioned before, so I thought I'd share it and see what others thought

EDIT: please heed the content warning at the beginning of the video 😊

I haven’t updated any of my documents yet, and I saw that the disgusting bill that’s pending in Indiana would make it impossible for trans people to change their gender marker. Although there has been an executive order stopping the department of health from processing court-ordered name changes there for the past year. I don’t think Indiana is ever going to do something that would help a trans person…

What are my options? Am I stuck with incorrect or mismatched documents forever?

A lil bit of positivity

I’m getting more confident in myself and starting to come out to more people, but I feel like I don’t know how to? It always feels awkward.

Obviously for some people it might need to be more of a conversation, but for friends that I know will be supportive, does it need to be anything more than a text saying “hey, fyi, I’m trans. This is my new name and pronouns”?

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Is it something that happens?

Not sure where to look for information or how to better phrase questions.

Sorry. Thank you for any guidance or advice you might be able to provide.

So, I was lately reading "Whipping girl" by Julia Serano, still reading, interesting book to read and recommend to others to read it but I am here mostly asking if there are any similar book from perspective of trans men. Something non fictional about life experiences, etc.

Thanks in advance, all best. :)

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cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/7404871

cross-posted from: https://news.abolish.capital/post/21425

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Early Tuesday morning, final appropriations bills for the Departments of Labor, Health and Human Services, and Education—and related agencies—were released, marking the last major funding measures to be negotiated in the aftermath of the record-breaking government shutdown fight in 2025. That standoff featured multiple appropriations bills loaded with anti-transgender riders and poison pills for Democrats, ultimately ending in a short-term continuing resolution that punted many of those provisions to the end of January. While other “minibus” packages funding individual agencies moved forward, the Education and HHS bills were conspicuously absent, as they contained some of the most sweeping and consequential anti-trans riders ever proposed in Congress. Now, with the final bills released, it is clear that no anti-transgender riders were included—meaning transgender people will largely be spared new congressional attacks through most of 2026 should they pass as-is.

As the government shut down on Oct. 1, the state of appropriations bills needed to reopen the federal government for any extended period was extraordinarily dire for transgender people. Dozens of anti-transgender riders were embedded across House appropriations bills, even as those provisions were largely absent from the Senate’s versions. The riders appeared throughout nearly every funding measure, from Commerce, Justice, and Science to Financial Services and General Government. The most extreme provisions, however, were concentrated in the House HHS and Education bills, including language barring “any federal funds” from supporting gender-affirming care at any age and threatening funding for schools that support transgender students. Taken together, those measures would have posed a sweeping threat to transgender people’s access to education and health care nationwide.

Those fears eased somewhat when the government reopened under a short-term continuing resolution funding operations through the end of January. In the months that followed, Democrats notched a series of incremental victories for transgender people, advancing multiple appropriations “minibus” packages that stripped out anti-trans riders as the government was funded piece by piece. As amendment after amendment fell away, those wins grew more substantial, including the removal of a proposed ban on gender-affirming medical care from the NDAA—even after it had passed both the House and Senate. Still, the most consequential question remained unresolved: what would ultimately happen to the high-impact anti-trans provisions embedded in the HHS and Education bills.

Now, the package has been released—and for the moment, transgender people can breathe again. The final HHS and Education bills contain no anti-transgender provisions: no ban on hospitals providing gender-affirming care to transgender youth, no threats to strip funding from schools that support transgender students or allow them to use the bathroom, and no mandate forcing colleges to exclude transgender students from sports or activities like chess or esports. The bills are strikingly clean. As such, they avert yet another protracted shutdown fight in which transgender people are once again turned into political bargaining chips—and, at least for now, remove Congress as the immediate vehicle for new federal attacks, should they pass as-is.

When asked about the successful stripping of anti-trans provisions, a staffer for Representative Sarah McBride tells Erin In The Morning, “Rep. McBride works closely with her colleagues every day to defend the rights of all her constituents, including LGBTQ people across Delaware. In the face of efforts by the Trump administration and Republicans in Congress to roll back health care and civil rights, she was proud to work relentlessly with her colleagues in ensuring these funding bills did not include anti-LGBTQ provisions. It takes strong allies in leadership and on committees to rein in the worst excesses of this Republican trifecta, Rep. McBride remains grateful to Ranking Members DeLauro, Murray, and Democratic leadership for prioritizing the removal of these harmful riders.”

This does not mean that transgender people will not be targeted with policies and rules that affect them in all areas of life. The Trump administration has acted without regard to law in forcing bans on sports, pulling funding from schools and hospitals, and banning passport gender marker updates. The Supreme Court has been increasingly willing to let the office of the presidency under Trump do whatever it would like to transgender people. However, the lack of passage of bills targeting transgender people means that these attacks will only last for as long as we have Trump in the White House, and a future president should hopefully be easily able to reverse the attacks.

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I used this little community as a pressure valve, a diary, a place to scream into the void and reorganize my thoughts, during the psychologically hardest period in my life: coming out and starting transition. I'm turning 40 this year so I've seen this many times before, where an account will come into existence, vent too much information, and then disappear without providing resolution, and I didn't want to do that to y'all.

So before I fade away, here's an update: it's all going according to plan, or close enough anyway.

A quick recap so you don't have to go read through my post history: I came out to my wife like 9 years ago, came out to my family 2 years ago, came out to my church 18 months ago, got kicked out of my church 9 months ago, at the same moment I started HRT.

Flipping back through this journal, here were my struggles and the resolution to each:

How can I possibly come out? Well, I came out. It was hard, but I sat down with all the people in my life who mattered to me, and let them know what I was going though. It strengthened some bonds and destroyed others, but on the other side of it, it's good to know where I stand.

Is my marriage going to make it? Well, we made it. My wife and I were both willing and able to have the hard conversations, really open up and be honest with each other, sit down and talk with a marriage counselor, pray together, cry together, and at the other end of the last two years, our relationship is better than ever. In speaking with other people in this community, not every relationship can, or even should, survive transition, but if you are both willing to be open and honest, and are committed to each other, it might just work.

Can I gain acceptance at church? Well my faith made it. That wasn't really ever a question, God's got me and won't let go, I can't wriggle my way out of His grasp. But my church of 20 years kicked me out. I talked with the pastor, openly and honestly, for a year about my struggles, and I thought I was making progress, creating a shared foundational knowledge of my experience and how it intersects with Christianity, but I told my pastor that I was starting HRT and I immediately was thrown out. The excommunication letter I got made it clear that he hasn't listened for the last year. So we found another church, one that didn't flinch when non passing me showed up with my wife and kids and introduced myself with a feminine name, but actually preaches the Word of God and not some monotheistic therapeutic deisim. So yeah, I gained acceptance at church, just a different church.

Can I accept myself? Well... I'm working on it. I've accepted I'm trans, accepted I don't know why, accepted my past and left my regrets there, accepted that I might not ever pass but I'm so much happier here than I ever was before, accepted that my faith and my gender aren't at odds, accepted that not everyone is going to accept me, and I've accepted that I don't have to light myself on fire to keep everyone else warm. HRT is amazing and my only regret is not starting it earlier, but I've named that regret and left her in the past. Who knew you could just be comfortable in your own body? I'm learning makeup and learning to interact with society instead of hiding in the back because I hated myself. I'm navigating reality with my wife and kids, in a unconventional way. I'm out everywhere but work, but that's a whole different can of worms, since I work for the feds but they suck, but pay well, but the market sucks, so I'll take a paycheck from evil while refusing to do evil myself. But I'm done waiting, so instead of prioritizing boymoding at work, I'm transitioning and they can have some plausible deniability if they'd like.

So in short, it was a hard couple of years, and it's not over, but my best years are before me and I'm gonna go live life to the fullest. Thanks for being a friendly place to blog my transition, I might be less and less active here now that I don't need as much digital help, but I'm plugging into real life now.

Oh and my wife renamed me, I was probabaly Amber, but it's Hazel now, I'm a child of God, transfem, she/her, husband/dad, and I made it.

Go throw bricks at ICE.