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Rule 3 (self.trans)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by cowboycrustation to c/trans

This is a reminder to follow rule three. Rule three says not to post negative news articles without a call to action or way to help.

Firstly, these posts attract the wrong kind of crowd. It tends to get into insult and negativity territory real fast. They get a lot more engagement from outsiders, and that leaves more chance for shitty things to be thrown at members of our community.

Secondly, these posts affect trans people's mental health negatively. If there's nothing we can do to help, it makes no sense to constantly consume media like that. It makes life feel hopeless. Digital self-harm is real and a problem for many of us.

There are many places to consume this media, and frankly it is rather hard to avoid in online trans spaces. This community is not the place to post them.

If your post is found to violate rule three, it will be removed.

Before you post a news article, think "How would this make other trans people feel? Does it promote anger, hopelessness, or negative reactions? Does it have a way to change this situation for the better?"

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by cowboycrustation to c/trans

First and foremost, this is a community to support, love, and provide resources for trans people. Anything that puts that in jeopardy will be removed.

This isn't to say cis people aren't welcome on here, but that most posts and discussions were made with primarily trans people in mind. It's okay to ask respectful, good-faith questions and to be genuinely curious about trans people. To be a good ally, you must listen with open ears and be willing to accept it when you're wrong. Remember that you are a guest here, and as such be respectful and kind towards the trans people whose home this is.

What this community is not:

  1. This is not a place to be a transmedicalist and gatekeep being trans. Trying to divide up the trans community to be against each other is a way to weaken us as a whole.

  2. This is not a place to "debate" being trans or trans people. Our existence and right to be ourselves is a given.

  3. This is not a place to be a TERF. You are not welcome here and will be permabanned for spouting TERF rhetoric.

  4. This is not a place to be a jerk and spread negativity. Don't say mean things or insult others, trans or not.

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submitted 1 day ago by EmilyIsTrans to c/trans
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Retroactive fear (beehaw.org)
submitted 1 day ago by apotheotic@beehaw.org to c/trans

A person I've shared circles with and considered a friend for years, today said the quiet part out loud and spouted transphobia.

I feel like I'm experiencing years of retroactive fear for my proximity to her all at once and its incredibly overwhelming.

If anyone has any good vibes to send my way I'd be so grateful.

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submitted 3 days ago by Xenia to c/trans

If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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submitted 5 days ago by girlthing to c/trans

This helped me procese some of my worries and fears, so I thought I'd share it here. Rather old article, but surprisingly good.

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submitted 1 week ago by Xenia to c/trans

If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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submitted 1 week ago by AlataOrange to c/trans

Does anyone have a link to the robot comic, the one with the war robot that wants to be a civilian robot and is trans coded. I saw it on blahaj before but can't find it again

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submitted 1 week ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/trans

Tell us what songs that aren't explicitly trans resonate with you!

For example, I challenge anyone to listen to Dream Theater's The Spirit Carries On, imagine it's your old self singing to you, and tell me you don't get The Feels (that includes you, boys!). And alright, I admit that album's pretty borderline, but I hope you get the point.

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submitted 2 weeks ago by alexsystem@lemm.ee to c/trans

im so confused, in my source im a guy and i’ve never questioned it but i love having a feminine body. i don’t really feel like a girl as a gender but i feel really good in a feminine body.

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submitted 2 weeks ago by Sunshine@lemmy.ca to c/trans
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submitted 2 weeks ago by Xenia to c/trans

If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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Imposter (self.trans)
submitted 2 weeks ago by OldEggNewTricks to c/trans

For many years I thought I was a boy
But it always felt like I wasn't real.
I fantasize about having a feminine body,
But I'm not really trans.
It's just an act
So that I can get HRT
And change my name
And be a girl.

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submitted 3 weeks ago by Xenia to c/trans

If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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submitted 3 weeks ago by timberwolf1021 to c/trans

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22882552

I'm 30, transfem, and to be quite honest, I feel my will to live slowly slipping away. I'm trying to find the willpower to finish my PhD thesis and to get into a better living situation after that, but I find myself frozen and wanting to curl up into a tiny ball of nothingness instead. And there are LOTS of reasons for that, mostly centered around trauma, guilt, and shame.

I don't think I can fit everything I need to say in a succinct post, so if it isn't against the rules, would any of you fellow girlies be willing to shoot me a DM and give some advice? I don't think I can really explain without having a back-and-forth conversation... thanks in advance. 🏳️‍⚧️💜

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submitted 4 weeks ago by transhetwarrior to c/trans
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submitted 4 weeks ago by CyaraKaira to c/trans

Hello fellow everyone my name is CyaraKaira transgender woman originally from Uganda… I fled my home country due persecution that resulted from the Anti-homosexual bill. I fled to Kenya where I was put in a refugee camp. Here I faced a lot of persecution more than what I faced from my home country. I beaten several times, stripped naked, cut with machetes andremovedd on several occasions. My life was really hell that I had to flee to South Sudan a war country and mostly with hostile people. You may ask I chose this country it’s because I had no choice honestly but it was the nearest to where I was. I’m currently facing lots of challenges including lack of food and medication. I have been sick for week now but have no help. I will be glad for your support to access medication any donations will mean a lot. I’m also will to share my story because I have a lot to share. Thank you

https://gofund.me/bd40a4f9

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submitted 1 month ago by Xenia to c/trans

If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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submitted 1 month ago by ProbabalyAmber to c/trans

According to capitalism, I don't exist.

I was in a mood the other day, and went looking at tacky Christian cross pendants. There's a huge variety of them, from real Baltic Amber to cheap acrylic to sterling silver to hand carved mahogany. I started to dive deeper and found ones plastered with stars and stripes, and found ones covered with a big gay rainbow. So I kept digging and... I couldn't find one with a trans flag.

Sometimes I feel very, very alone as a trans Christian, and this was one of those times. I know it's tacky, I know mashing up religious iconography is problematic, I know that if it existed I wouldn't even want one, I know that a product needs a customer... And if there's no product, then there's no customer, and I don't exist.

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by FirstMajesticComet to c/trans

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22392872

The word futa or futanari is a term I unfortunately see used against trans women and actual intersex people. It is a term which originated in porn and anime to describe someone with both types of genitals, usually though it just refers to someone who looks feminine and has a penis. So it's no surprise it's very often used to describe non-op trans women primarily. Because it's often used in porn it carries strong connotations of sexualization and dehumanization, it reduces the person being called futa to an object of sexual desire and doesn't respect them as a person.

This term is extremely disrespectful and really has no place being used, especially in reference to trans women. Additionally because of its relation to porn people who use it will almost certainly be seen as chasers.

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by JadeSleeps to c/trans

The video by Forrest valaki discusses a large series of scientific concepts around gender, sexuality and sex. It has an entire scientific research team credited in the description and 377 references but of course transphobes don't care and would rather look like a fool throwing play ground insults around. This whole video and interaction made my day. Transphobes can be a very funny bunch.

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submitted 1 month ago by Suprabiscuit to c/trans

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22341287

Hello gamers,

the first version of the pitch overlay is now available on github. It works on Linux and is somewhat of a mess for Windows (it will be fixed in the coming days, read the documentation).

Obviously it's open source, so feel free to mess with it!

Any feedback is appreciated, report bugs and stuff via github.

Here is the link: Yippie Link

Read the readme! Don't be like me!

If you don't know what I'm referring to, check this post

Tl;dr: It's a tool similar to the app voice tools to help you see your voice's current pitch, to potentially aid in voice training while at your puter :3

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submitted 1 month ago by Xenia to c/trans

If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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submitted 1 month ago by FirstMajesticComet to c/trans

I bit ago I made a post detailing the Egg prime directive in Egg irl. To be clear that was a policy post but it also helped outline the concept in a way that many people don't do. Most descriptions of the Egg prime directive are either incomplete or, purposefully uncharitable. So it's good to clarify it.

This is a different kind of post, unlike that one it's not a policy post in regards to community enforcement, it's more meant to address the issue in a general sense.

Today I'm going to talk about why the Egg Prime Directive is important, and also more importantly, why people disagreeing with it or not following it isn't acceptable.

First why does it matter? Well I discussed it heavily in my other post but the gist of it is that it is important to respect the way a person identifies themselves, the pronouns they use, the label they call themselves. Regardless of how they look or present themselves. It seems like a pretty fundamental concept that there shouldn't be any issue with, yet somehow many people seem to have an issue with it and don't do it. When a person's identity isn't respected it can be deeply hurtful and is ultimately deeply disrespectful to them.

Why 'disagreement' with the egg is problematic at best? Well the thing is, because the Egg Prime Directive is solely about respecting the way a person identifies themselves and their autonomy to identify themselves in a way that they see fit, to argue against it is to argue against people's validity to self-identification. It's not much different from arguing against certain aspects of trans rights. Ultimately many instances where people break the Egg Prime Directive are targeting individuals who are Gender-Nonconforming or even NonBinary.

Some people argue that they should be able to break it to fight cisnormativity. However this is a very poor justification to try and make it seem okay to violate someone else's gender identification and ultimately isn't being done for their benefit, it is going against their right to identify as any gender or use any label they feel like. To be clear, they have that right, all the time. The idea that someone doesn't have the right to identify as their preferred gender or label in certain circumstances is downright dystopian.

Bottom line, there is no such thing as respectful disagreement with this concept, going against the Egg Prime Directive is solely an act of going against another person's identification. It isn't respectful to them as a person. It's very similar to "respectful transmedicalism" or "respectful transphobia" in this regard. It is a harmful behavior made out as if it's respectful or good.

Oh and By the way. Before someone tries to argue that Egging is "politely explaining what trans means to someone" this subject has been covered in the last post and respectful support and education is NOT Egging, and is freely allowed by the Egg prime directive, if not explicitly encouraged, trying to argue as if it somehow isn't is disingenuous, and frankly seems extremely uncharitable.

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submitted 1 month ago by Catoblepas to c/trans
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Trans

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General trans community.

Rules:

  1. Follow all blahaj.zone rules

  2. All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.

  3. Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.

Resources:

Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.

Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/

[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map

[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination

[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/

[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/

[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on

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