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I'm trans femme, considering hrt. By a long way, most reports of what it's like say: within the first week I felt different emotionally /in my mind. Feelings seem to vary from calmer, to the author feeling more herself. This initial euphoric feeling is reported to fade over time, usually.

I just wondered how it would feel for a cis man if he were to take it for a week. I understand that if you stopped after a week there would not be any long term effects at all. So I'd be surprised if it hadn't been tried!

Why do I wonder this? I suppose I'm wondering if it feels good for everyone. I'm scared of taking it. But I'm scared of living with the constant doubt. Most gender affirming actions I've taken have been very helpful, really made me feel more myself. But if hrt makes everyone feel better, at least at first, I wouldn't be able to know whether it would be right for me by trialling it (and thereby judge whether it might be worth all the downsides that come along with the positives or not).

Any experience shared is v welcome!

Edit: Thanks everyone for interesting info! I wanted to add here at top that in no way am I saying a person's reaction to hormones has any effect on their gender. I'm not looking to "test" my trans-ness by trying hrt. Just interested to learn more about the range of responses. Many thanks all 🙂

Ever since coming out to my dad, the relationship between me and him got very strained because he's not accepting of it. Over the past 1.5 years we slowly drifted further and further, to the point of us being minimal contact. Up until recently, he sometimes invited me to smaller family gatherings (with my siblings who I'm on good terms with) but most of the time, I didn't come. Most of the time I had a proper reason but I could have also made it work if I would have wanted to.

A few months ago in the car ride back from some family gathering, we made a temporary solution to how we could communicate without him dead naming/misgendering me. The solution was pronouns: it (there's no "they" in German), name: a nickname from my childhood which was completely disconnected from my dead name. We explicitly said that it's a temporary solution until we had a proper talk. That talk was this week...

Most of the talk was just us trying to understand the views of each other and me explaining just how dire my situation before transitioning actually was. We basically got stuck at: we just have a fundamentally different world view and we can't change each other's, no matter how many scientific papers I can bring up (Yes he doesn't agree with science there which bugs the hell out of me).

One of the last things he said towards the end of the conversation: "I love you as a human, but you're -Deadname- in my heart. Do your thing, live your life, I see you the way I see you, isn't it completely irrelevant? I think that the tattoos and piercings of your sister are terrible and she ruins herself with them but I still love her as a person."

My thoughts are just a mess on this whole situation.... I guess I just wanna know if you had similar experiences with family and how did you manage them?

I probably won't respond to any comments...

I'm afab, nb and have a very androgynous look, but with wide ish hips that kind of give me some mild dysphoria since puberty. How do you deal with a part of yourself you cant change? Any tips?

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So I have this abstract wallpaper (see link) on my phone that has the trans colours and would like something similar for my 1440p desktop, but can't find anything for that resolution online. Could anyone point me in the right direction? Or maybe have an idea how I could upscale the wallpaper I have to 1440p? I'm a bit out of the loop on upscaling though..

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The winter holidays can be hard on a lot of us especially with strained or no family relations. What are your coping mechanisms, traditions, celebrations, things you do to get through the season?

This is just a Continuing Resolution right? Republicans didn't win any of their LGBTQ goals?

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After 5 months, I guess I've fully cracked. Now I'm wondering about updating my professional website, that cesspool LinkedIn, etc.

I'm a Dev (yes, I use Arch) and I used to teach. I guess I'm nervous about having to tell my old students and coworkers.

I’d love to hear strategies, lessons learned, or anything that made the process smoother.

I haven’t started the process of changing my name and gender marker on any of my documents yet. Between having my birth certificate from a very anti-trans state, and now the Supreme Court allowing the government to deny us changing our gender markers on passports, is there even a point in me trying to change my documents? I feel like, best case scenario I have a mix of updated and out-of-date documents, which feels like it would just create more confusion and difficulty.

That stupid video about "what is a woman" came to mind. Not that easy to nail it down, is it you right-wing fucks?

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(this is copied from a comment i made a minute ago)

even after being evacuated to seattle im having a hell of a time staying alive. living in my car, having no connections, going to another fuckin BHU, being released still actively suicidal, making connections, getting some material and financial help, sleeping flat and warm for the foreseeable future, having no more money for food, snap being gone, roomie traumatized too

still fuckin suicidal after all of this because i am so damn traumatized. being safe inside, warm, and fed doesnt erase how bad its been or what i fled in utah or how i was abused on the utah bhu and by an activist there. i broke so bad and im still just trying to find what pieces i have left. i feel so bad for this student's family if they care at all they are probably suicidal themselves. ;( ;( ;(

we need help but its all burning down and we are trying to run ahead of the flames, in the smoke, alone and terrified. so many choose death for much lesser reasons but trauma isnt quantitative or qualitative. it fuckin hurts so much even now. my survivor guilt is murder. my feeling of love, community, protection, and safety all ring hollow because of the trauma. i need more time. i need more time but im not relaxing, im feeling like at any moment i will be back in my car, fearing everyone, and knowing that my mind and heart are still broken, trying to survive first myself and then the WHOLE WORLD

i cant let them win but i need so much help to just keep breathing every day. i cant tell my lovely friends how im really doing because they cant handle it any better than i am. they arent with me here so i cant hug them or be hugged by them or protect them or be protected by them. new friends are all sus because of the trauma. i know, i see, but i cant stop these feelings and put the better ones in the right place yet. i can see but i need time. time to heal.

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cross-posted from: https://midwest.social/post/37326864

What a victory; good job, Kansas Supreme Court!

cross-posted from: https://feddit.org/post/20230347

Polanski, who was elected leader of the England and Wales Greens in a landslide victory last month, after campaigning on a pro-trans, eco-populism platform, appeared on YouTube show Piers Morgan Uncensored where he was asked whether a woman can have a penis, a query seen by many as an anti-trans dog whistle.

“Yes,” he replied immediately, before taking a swipe at incredibly long NHS waiting times: “It’s going to take them a long time on the National Health Service to get rid of it but that’s another problem. I think we’ll leave it on a woman can have a penis.”

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The journal report directly: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.5694/mja2.70035

My body, is under attack, And my face is a crack. A shell someone glued on, Can't seem to move on. Wishing there was an end, OH WHY can't it mend!

This shell in the mirror, Evoking nothing but horror. And whenever it speaks. The floor it creaks. And then the shell, tightens to hell...

So, I am doomed to silence While dying of internal violence. My mind long astray. Luckily, Body knows the way Of how to run without a brain. How am I still sane?