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this reeks of privilage.
Why?
"Oh, in social structures when someone tries to make me do something, I just refuse. I can afford to tank whatever retribution they might have against me, because I am always in a secure state of life where my needs will be met"
"Refusing to do dumb shit reeks of privilege because there are people who can't afford to refuse to do dumb shit" is a take right along with "curing cancer is unfair to people who already died of cancer".
My guy, there are people who have jobs they HAVE TO keep, relations that they HAVE TO maintain, otherwise they find themselves out on the fucking street. That’s what I’m talking about. Not everyone has their life in a state where they can just flat out say “FUCK YOU” to whoever they want. Being able to say “FUCK YOU” to whoever they want is a privilage.
It's telling that you just assume none of us have ever willingly ended up on the street over our aherence to personal conviction. That we've only ever been the only person we can be in select positions of privledge and never suffered severe cobsequences for it.
It's the assumption made by the kind of cowards who then chastise me as being irresponsible for having the courage to repeatedly face down those exact consequences.
"YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND!! I NEEDED THE MONEY!! THAT'S WHY I HAD TO WORK AS A GUARD AT THE CONCENTRATION CAMP!! MY FAMILY WOULD HAVE STARVED LIKE THE PRISONERS!! NOOOO!!"
same shit, different degree. Having morals and principles means facing consequences and sometimes people don't want to face those consequences, so they do away with their morals. They had to do it, don't you see?
I guess getting an answer to a question of "why" is privileged. Thanks.
... the privilage is not getting to ask why, it's "fuck you and the consequences" and refusal.
Someone tells me to do something or they will punish me without explanation does seem rather privileged. If an explanation can't be produced then who's privilege trumps who's?
My guy, there are people who have jobs they HAVE TO keep, relations that they HAVE TO maintain, otherwise they find themselves out on the fucking street. That's what I'm talking about. Not everyone has their life in a state where they can just flat out say "FUCK YOU" to whoever they want. Being able to say "FUCK YOU" to whoever they want is a privilage.
First off little lady, you lost the plot. Second, you are arguing in favor of never questioning an authority. I was raised punk rock. We question. If the answer sucks thats on you not me. Fuck you is an appropriate answer to anyone who can't explain why they are hurting you.
I am not miss reading social cues, I don't have an issue with authority, I am fully away how the world works. When I ask why are my fellow citizens getting snagged off the street and not even allowed to show paperwork? Should we go ahead and throw due process out cause someone might think I'm privileged?
you have a problem with authority
(that's good)
(that’s good)
Until it gets in the way of your money earning activities
No. No, still good. Just inconvenient to capitulation.
Authority is given and therefore earned. If you're in a position of authority but don't continuously earn it, I will not respect you or your decisions.
Use of the word 'respect' especially if it's stated as an obligation, is the biggest tell that i will never, ever, ever respect a 'person'
Telling me to do something i was already gonna do though, that just makes it a million times harder.
This, except I legitimately do have a problem with authority. Fuck you, I won't do what you tell me.
Except of you explain your reasoning and I see where you're coming from. Motherfucker.
Thats "being convincing" and not "authority" tho no?
The reason could relate to their authority.
One of my favorite GIFs:
I am still pissed that my lack of blind obedience was seen as the worst symptoms of my disability as a child
See also: following the rules too precisely.
Funny, because as a little kid who wanted to do everything "the right way" and who got in trouble when I didn't "follow directions," I also got in trouble for helping kids that didn't know/pay attention to given directions. Apparently that's called "bossy" and it's wrong?
Truth is: there is no right choice. It depends entirely on the authority figure around at the moment and whatever preconceived notions they have about you. Hell yeah I have a problem with authority. If they followed rules as consistently as they expect those in their charge to, I'd actually have respect for them.
I used to be like that but often once you do it you understand why much easier than by having it explained. If not you can still ask. I made things more difficult for myself by thinking I can or have to control my entire life.
Bienvenu en France, baiseur de mère!
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