Hey everyone, I'm hoping to get some advice for my partner.

She and I both have ADHD. She consistently has great difficulty communicating clearly and neither of us is sure what to do about it. Where an ideal narrative could be mapped in a straight line, hers would look like a series of loops, whorls, and jagged deviations as she frequently repeats herself, relays events out of order, changes topics inappropriately and without warning, omits entire parts of sentences, etc.

I love her so much so it pains me to say that it's bad. It's really, really bad, and I see how it frustrates her. It's interfering with our relationship as it makes even low stakes conversations agonizing and higher stakes topics often impossible. It holds her back in her personal and professional life. I used to have the same issue, but what helped me isn't really applicable for her.

Does anyone have any resources, ADHD specific or not, that might help her get started in basic, effective communication? She's such a wonderful, intelligent person, and I just want to help her succeed in being able to share that with others.

I've been going through some of my late father's possessions and found a stash of VIC-20 cassettes. Some are more well known games, while others are more niche, possibly made by local programmers. Like Pet Frog. I can't find that one anywhere! Those I'll definitely extract and upload to archive.org.

What I'm not sure about is some of the utility software. For example, I have cassettes for programmable character set and game graphics editor, loan/mortgage calculator, home inventory, personal finance, VIC typewriter (word processor), space math, biorhythm compatibility, etc.

Are these worth extracting and uploading?

Hey all! The primary issue is in the title - Dolphin doesn't play nice w/ files on my home server. I'm able to view, copy, move, or delete them just fine via SMB, but Dolphin acts as if there is no associated software for any file type. Nemo works without issue, but I prefer Dolphin's customization and feature set.

Any idea what could be wrong? I'm a big Linux newb, so I'm still figuring this all out.

I just had three "very special" Craigslist experiences in a row and wondered what everyone else deals with when selling things online.

Manul

Manul 1-9.

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Deadlines

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me_irl

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LIVE!

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