[-] SoleInvictus 2 points 57 minutes ago

As someone who used to be poly, I agree 100%. Poly people can be emotional wrecking balls if they don't put in the work to build and maintain healthy relationships. Poly drama story time!

The worst of my poly primaries believed she had infinite love to give, so she saw no reason to limit herself to one partner. While her love might have been truly infinite, her time, emotional capacity, and sense of commitment were not. She frequently overextended herself with multiple new interests and had her desire for attention and validation fulfilled far beyond reason without the capacity or apparent intent to fully reciprocate.

Her interests were typically less socially adept men who didn't have much luck in dating, so they threw themselves at a charming, intelligent woman showing intense emotional and sexual interest, unaware or uncaring that she hid her flaws with equal intensity. (She had this thing about fucking virgins: hey, I don't kink shame!) I saw her break a few hearts when they realized they weren't going to "win" her for themselves, but only toward the end discovered that this wasn't due to self-delusion as she claimed, but instead her failure to clearly communicate firm expectations and boundaries. Sometimes that they weren't communicated at all. I also learned after the split that there were far more men than I knew about. Uggggh.

Eventually she began breaking the rules we established for our relationship and chose to leave me when I insisted we close the relationship to work on ourselves, as we promised to do when we first became committed. She opted instead to begin fucking two mutual friends, one of which immediately ghosted me while the other, a newly former virgin, soon called off our friendship so he could, in his own words, "have a clear conscience while pursuing a lasting relationship with her". I'm sure I don't have to explain how successful he was.

[-] SoleInvictus 2 points 6 hours ago

I'd highly recommend asking about preputioplasty if all else fails. Best of luck!

[-] SoleInvictus 3 points 15 hours ago

I wish! The tire shop said that the last set was damaged by excessive acceleration, so they wouldn't honor the warranty. I can't argue - our EV has over 600 horsepower and almost 900 lb-ft of torque, so my partner is just destroying those poor tires.

[-] SoleInvictus 15 points 19 hours ago

Easy! Just make this:

With this:

[-] SoleInvictus 12 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Yep, I have an EV and the way my partner drove it just eats through tires. We're talking about $1.5k, 50k mile warranty tires being replaced at 20-25k because someone liked to pretend they're a fucking astronaut on launch day.

Not bitter.

[-] SoleInvictus 5 points 2 days ago

Not at all. Phimosis, the worst my urologist had ever seen. We tried stretching and steroid cream but it only made it maybe 50% better. I now know there was a relatively simple procedure that would have fixed it, but the urologist said circumcision was the only option left. Thanks, shitty urologist!

[-] SoleInvictus 9 points 2 days ago

Collectiveactionase

[-] SoleInvictus 8 points 2 days ago

As someone who had one as an adult, I don't recommend it. Over time, it was like going from a 4K HDR OLED to a 720p prison TV. I'm now struggling mightily to get back to 1080p.

[-] SoleInvictus 19 points 3 days ago

I have a family member that grows these. They're really good! They have a citrus taste much like a lime, but they're not as acidic so you can just eat them straight off the plant.

[-] SoleInvictus 31 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

How it should work if companies cared about anything beyond the next quarterly report.

After my former employer's economic forecast did an abrupt sharp downturn, I went from being a highly desirable employee to extremely undesirable in the space of less than a week. Add to that a performance limiting on-the-job injury and being the highest paid person in my department.

Guess who was terminated the day before their stock and annual bonus was to be awarded.

[-] SoleInvictus 9 points 3 days ago

I nut thrice each day for the poor souls who go without.

[-] SoleInvictus 10 points 4 days ago

Oh yesssss. Get middling quality cast iron, grind it flat, and reseason. A couple of hours of work and you have primo quality cast iron cookware.

Also: you can clean cast iron with soap.

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by SoleInvictus to c/linux@lemmy.ml

Edit: holy shit, I did it! The install media is booting off a little SSD partition! It was ultimately quite simple. Will update with instructions once done, for posterity.

Edit 2: I did it...and you can too! Here's what I did to install Linux from a disk partition on a gen 1 Surface Go with no functioning USB ports. I don't know if it's the ideal process, but it worked for me. Suggestions for refinements are gratefully accepted.

Prep Step: Make enough room for your partition and empty space for Linux by shrinking your Windows system partition. I made a 6 GB partition and left 30 GB free for Linux. If diskmgmt is being an asshole about it, turn off your page file and hibernate, then reboot to clear both files. Windows is now struggling along with a ~22 GB partition, 4 GB of free space, all visual enhancements turned off, and no page file. Tough shit, Windows: you exist to install Linux now.

Hot tip: you may have rebooted Windows a bajillion times already. If you're logged into a microsoft account, those jackanapes will lock your system down for two hours for excessive booting. It happened to me twice. Just select "forgot my password/pin", reset it, and you should get back in. Fuck you, Bill Gates!

  1. Download the install ISO for your desired Linux (or whatever, you're an adult) distro.
  2. Create a FAT32 partition with enough size for the contents of your install media.
    2.1 Optional: Name it something silly to blow off steam.
  3. Copy contents of ISO to new partition.
  4. Turn off secure boot in UEFI settngs since Grub2Win is NOT "secure" in the eyes of UEFI.
  5. Download and install Grub2Win.
  6. In Grub2Win, click "view partition list". Save the UUID of the partition you made for the install files for later use. It'll say it's not a legitimate EFI. Just ignore it - you don't need its validation.
  7. Click "Manage Boot Menu", then add a boot entry. I selected the template for Linux Mint, the distro I was installing, and used the example code to start. Don't save it yet, you need to fill in more info.
  8. Examine the boot.cfg file present in the distro install media for required parameters, then find the location of the linux kernel (vmlinuz) and initial ramdisk image (often initrd.lz or initrd.img) files. I literally just copied the "linux /casper/vmlinuz..." line to get my parameters.
  9. Update your code in the boot entry. Here's what mine ended up looking like:
set rootuuid=9889-99F1
getpartition  uuid  $rootuuid  root
g2wsetprefix
linux   /casper/vmlinuz    root=UUID=$rootuuid persistent boot=casper username=mint hostname=mint iso-scan/filename=${iso_path} quiet splash --
initrd  /casper/initrd.lz
if [ $? -ne 0 ] ; then g2werror Linux load error ; fi
  1. Save the boot entry. Reboot your system, then select your shiny new boot entry. Linux should start. Be patient, it's slow AF. Select the installation shortcut to get started. Everything proceeded smoothly for me.
    Note: I left my Windows install as ANY perturbations to UEFI settings end up with it reverting to the Windows boot manager, which points at the Windows install only. If I didn't have Windows to run Grub2Win, I'd be out of luck.
  2. After installation, I found the boot manager went back to the default Windows one and updating through Grub2Win did exactly nothing. I ended up uninstalling, then reinstalling Grub2Win, then it was fixed. Mostly. It still didn't have a Linux boot entry.
  3. Manually add your Linux boot entry. Similar to the install media, you need to tack on some paramaters. Here's what I ended up with, with the UUID being that of the new Linux install partition:
set rootuuid=4d23295b-03db-49d4-858b-e7403d983269
getpartition  uuid  $rootuuid  root
g2wsetprefix
echo Boot disk address is  $root
echo The boot mode is      Partition UUID
linux   $pathprefix/vmlinuz    root=UUID=$rootuuid    verbose
initrd  $pathprefix/initrd.img
if [ $? -ne 0 ] ; then g2werror Linux load error ; fi

And that should do it! Secure boot remains off as Win2Grub's EFI isn't signed by Microsoft, so turning it back on will revert the system to the Windows boot manager. Just to tie things up: Fuck you, Bill Gates!

Hope that helps, and good luck!

Original:
This is a weird one. My partner was gifted a Surface Go model 1824 (gen 1) by their best friend, who unexpectedly died a couple of weeks back. It's nearing the Windows 10 end of support date, so my plan was to install Mint, but there's a hitch: the only goddamned USB port on the system is shot. It's the USB controller, which I've given up on trying to fix as it looks like a hardware issue.

I still want to install Linux because this thing now has super sentimental value. I've freed up 16 gb on the SSD, so I have some space to work with. There's a micro SD slot that still functions, but the stupid system doesn't support booting from it (although a Reddit post suggested you can still do so if you set it up in Grub, which I don't know how to do properly at all). The only thing I can think of is installing something on a partition or partitions that acts as install media, but I have no idea how to do that.

Ive tried using Grub2Win's ISOboot function with the Mint install ISO and I can get it to start, but it stalls out waiting ad nauseum for DHCP. I think it thinks it's a PXE install. Maybe my parameters are set wrong? Actual PXE is a no-go because no network adapter. I tried intently staring at the Mint ISO, then staring at the tablet; no data was transferred, but I did develop a headache.

I'm so, so stumped. Any ideas, anyone?___**-

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by SoleInvictus to c/adhd@lemmy.world

Hey everyone, I'm hoping to get some advice for my partner.

She and I both have ADHD. She consistently has great difficulty communicating clearly and neither of us is sure what to do about it. Where an ideal narrative could be mapped in a straight line, hers would look like a series of loops, whorls, and jagged deviations as she frequently repeats herself, relays events out of order, changes topics inappropriately and without warning, omits entire parts of sentences, etc.

I love her so much so it pains me to say that it's bad. It's really, really bad, and I see how it frustrates her. It's interfering with our relationship as it makes even low stakes conversations agonizing and higher stakes topics often impossible. It holds her back in her personal and professional life. I used to have the same issue, but what helped me isn't really applicable for her.

Does anyone have any resources, ADHD specific or not, that might help her get started in basic, effective communication? She's such a wonderful, intelligent person, and I just want to help her succeed in being able to share that with others.

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submitted 2 months ago by SoleInvictus to c/retrocomputing@lemmy.sdf.org

I've been going through some of my late father's possessions and found a stash of VIC-20 cassettes. Some are more well known games, while others are more niche, possibly made by local programmers. Like Pet Frog. I can't find that one anywhere! Those I'll definitely extract and upload to archive.org.

What I'm not sure about is some of the utility software. For example, I have cassettes for programmable character set and game graphics editor, loan/mortgage calculator, home inventory, personal finance, VIC typewriter (word processor), space math, biorhythm compatibility, etc.

Are these worth extracting and uploading?

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submitted 2 months ago by SoleInvictus to c/linux@lemmy.ml

Hey all! The primary issue is in the title - Dolphin doesn't play nice w/ files on my home server. I'm able to view, copy, move, or delete them just fine via SMB, but Dolphin acts as if there is no associated software for any file type. Nemo works without issue, but I prefer Dolphin's customization and feature set.

Any idea what could be wrong? I'm a big Linux newb, so I'm still figuring this all out.

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submitted 4 months ago by SoleInvictus to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I just had three "very special" Craigslist experiences in a row and wondered what everyone else deals with when selling things online.

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Manul Rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 4 months ago by SoleInvictus to c/onehundredninetysix

Manul

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Manul (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 4 months ago by SoleInvictus to c/manul

Manul 1-9.

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How I (barely) got through college (sub.wetshaving.social)
submitted 5 months ago by SoleInvictus to c/adhd@lemmy.world

cross-posted from: https://sub.wetshaving.social/post/2498731

Deadlines

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submitted 7 months ago by SoleInvictus to c/adhd@lemmy.world

cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/60653809

me_irl

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Isopod Power! (mander.xyz)
submitted 8 months ago by SoleInvictus to c/onehundredninetysix

cross-posted from: https://mander.xyz/post/25795394

LIVE!

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submitted 9 months ago by SoleInvictus to c/onehundredninetysix

cross-posted from: https://slrpnk.net/post/17732397

Rule

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