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submitted 3 weeks ago by Lumelore to c/trans

Sometimes I have days where I look in the mirror and think "damn I'm hot" and other days I think "damn I'm ugly" (because I think I look too much like my agab).

I'm trying to figure out what to do to feel better on those dysphoric days other than just caving in to food cravings or bed rotting.

I imagine other people here probably experience similar feelings. When you aren't feeling good it's easy to cave into unhealthy habits. I'm curious as to what others do if they are having a dysphoric day.

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[-] dandelion 14 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Not sure this always works well or perfectly, but leaning more into make-up, dressing up, and feminizing more seems to help even unconsciously; when I tend to bed-rot I put less effort into how I look and then I feel even more dysphoric, whereas makeup and other things can make me feel better when I glance at myself in the mirror.

Also, being in public and navigating social situations where I am viewed as a woman likewise helps. It's counter-intuitive, though, because this is when you feel least confident and most want to alleviate pressure to pass, and I feel like there can be a harm done looking in the mirror so much to do makeup and clothes, but I still find those things help me the most.

[-] erotador 13 points 3 weeks ago

lately i have been trying to style my hair more, its a simple way to change my appearance a lot and i enjoy doing it. i also practice makeup and such, but honestly i think the thing that works the best for me is to just try not to think about it too much and get on with my day, eventually im too busy doing hot girl stuff to think about it. that is until one small thing sets me off and i need to go either punch a wall or cry for a bit. im working on it.

[-] oftheair 10 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Remind ourselves that gender is a bullshit social construct and we are whatever we believe/say/feel/think we are and nobody else gets to tell us any different.

[-] Sasha 9 points 3 weeks ago

Very loud music, or drugs. Often both.

Thankfully I haven't had any particularly bad days since I've gone sober, but who knows who long that'll last.

[-] Sasha 2 points 3 weeks ago

Until today apparently, I guess I was asking for it

[-] Zorsith 5 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Shaving and clothing. The ultra long socks are comfy

Edit: and a long hot shower after shaving, then moisturizing.

[-] OldEggNewTricks 4 points 3 weeks ago

In addition to those two I also get "too much like my mom" shocks from the mirror.

Best thing for me is to fix it! Find a good angle, work on my expression, shave, tidy my hair etc etc. Or if I'm just having a bad day and nothing is working, go watch something comforting and cuddle Blåhaj.

this post was submitted on 26 Dec 2024
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