examples:

• i unapologetically love male pits

in the women's changing room, a woman complimented my swimsuit 😭

it felt so great to be able to swim and move freely without shame - I don't think I had ever gone swimming before and not felt some significant shame about my body.

I'm still overweight, and it was hard in the past for me to see that my body shame was about the wrongness of my male body (e.g. not wanting to ever take off my shirt) and not about being overweight. (Probably relevant that I still felt that body shame even when I was "anorexic skinny" to use the words others have used to describe me during that time, whereas now I feel much more body acceptance despite still being overweight.)

anyway, yay - life is great

if you do facemasks, which are your favorite and why?

I'm not sure I have a top pick, but I do tend to prefer pastes over those sheet masks that you put on - the "one size fits all" approach inevitably means the one size rarely fits well, and it can be annoying to wear.

I really like the coffee face mask from Lush, but that's because it smells good and feels so exfoliating.

I'm wondering if there are any blogs, RSS feeds, youtube channels, or other sources of information you like to go to for learning about beauty, skincare, makeup, fashion, etc.

I found this recommendation: https://old.reddit.com/r/muacjdiscussion/comments/6q80gf/where_else_do_you_go_to_read_about_beauty/dkvqzc3/

For me, I'm a big fan of Lab Muffin's youtube channel (and she has a book now!)

Wanted to see what others read and how they educate themselves?

I also recently enjoyed this article from NPR's Life Kit on nail care:

https://www.npr.org/2026/02/12/nx-s1-5711413/dont-mess-with-your-cuticles-and-other-nail-advice

EDIT: oh, and some subreddits have excellent wikis and aggregated links and resources

in particular I have benefited from the curly hair community on Reddit:

https://old.reddit.com/r/curlyhair/wiki/index

the Curly Girl Guide changed my life

I keep hearing it repeated in sapphic circles that scissoring is a myth; pretty sure it's not 😁

EDIT: I found these instructions helpful:

I literally thought scissoring was not a real thing people did until my girlfriend just climbed on top of me and started doing it. And then I ate my words and it was super super great, would recommend.

Positioning is key. It's not like anything you'll see in porn. The way we do it, person 1 lies down face up with her legs spread (like someone's about to eat you out) and person 2 positions her clit over 1's clit, usually positioned diagonally over 1 (IE with one leg on the outside of 1's leg, one leg between 1's legs). Then 2 moves her hips to rub her clit against 1's and 1 press her hips up into 2. But really any position where you can get your clits touching and neither of you are uncomfortable, you're probably going to have a good time.

Oh also, fun thing about scissoring, if you're a multiple orgasm kind of person (like me) scissoring is suuuper fun because the sensation is more subtle and you can just cum like, forever (idk about y'all but I can at least). Orgasm 1 usually isn't as intense for me but by the time I'm hitting orgasm 4 or 5, ohhhhhhhhmygd it's amazing.

Oh and this position is super fun with my girl's clit piercing, feels real great.

https://old.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/comments/3pxam9/advice_needed_how_to_scissor_affectively/cwa7mq4/

excuse the botched blur job (I used GIMP, I'm pretty terrible at using the foreground select tool, tips would be appreciated)

I wore this outfit for a day of ice skating it was super fun - wdyt tho?

EDIT: I meant to capture that the skirt has texture and is pretty cute:

hope everyone has a romantic day 🥰

The police officer had to break it to her gently. First, he asked Gisèle Pelicot whether she thought she knew her husband Dominique so well that he couldn’t hide anything from her. She said yes.

He also asked whether the couple ever swapped partners. “I heard myself stammering that swinging was inconceivable for me. I couldn’t bear other men touching me. I needed feelings,” she recalls.

Ms Pelicot was completely unprepared for the bombshell coming. Gradually, the officer explained the actions of the man she regarded as a loving husband and whom she described as “a super guy”.

Horrified, she had no idea then of how subsequent events would turn her into a a global icon for campaigns against sexual violence.

Embodying the message that it is the perpetrators, not the victims, who should feel shame, the 72-year-old grandmother waived her anonymity in the trial of her ex-husband and the 50 other men.

“Nearly 50 years of marriage and I could still clearly picture our first meeting. His smile. His shy look. His long curly hair, down to his shoulders. His navy jumper. He was going to love me.”

Ms Pelicot says that when she spoke in court during the trial, she had prepared some notes. “People are thanking me for my courage each day. I want to say to them, ‘it’s not courage but the will and determination to change this patriarchal, macho society’.”

She says that accepting a closed-door trial would have protected her abusers and left her alone with them in court, “hostage to their looks, their lies, their cowardice and their scorn”.

“No one would know what they had done to me. Not a single journalist would be there to write their names next to their crimes,” she explains. “Above all, not a single woman could walk in and sit in the courtroom to feel less alone.”

She says had she been 20 years younger, she might not have dared to refuse a closed-door hearing. “I would have feared the stares," she writes. "Those damned stares a woman of my generation has always had to contend with…”

“Perhaps shame fades all the more easily when you’re 70, and no one pays attention to you any more.”