What do you do on dysphoric days? (self.trans)

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Sometimes I have days where I look in the mirror and think "damn I'm hot" and other days I think "damn I'm ugly" (because I think I look too much like my agab).

I'm trying to figure out what to do to feel better on those dysphoric days other than just caving in to food cravings or bed rotting.

I imagine other people here probably experience similar feelings. When you aren't feeling good it's easy to cave into unhealthy habits. I'm curious as to what others do if they are having a dysphoric day.

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[-] dandelion 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Not sure this always works well or perfectly, but leaning more into make-up, dressing up, and feminizing more seems to help even unconsciously; when I tend to bed-rot I put less effort into how I look and then I feel even more dysphoric, whereas makeup and other things can make me feel better when I glance at myself in the mirror.

Also, being in public and navigating social situations where I am viewed as a woman likewise helps. It's counter-intuitive, though, because this is when you feel least confident and most want to alleviate pressure to pass, and I feel like there can be a harm done looking in the mirror so much to do makeup and clothes, but I still find those things help me the most.

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