At least you got that. Some people just ghost you.

As someone who lives in rural Scotland and is old enough to have got married before the prevalence of these apps, I genuinely never expected to find the way most people hook up these days to be so utterly alien to my own lived experience.

I honestly don't know how I'd cope with having to curate myself for some dystopian line-up so that, if I'm lucky, I can end up on these depressingly transactional dates, only to get these polite but impersonal rebuffs.

In my day people just got drunk enough to speak to the opposite sex, and if you clicked and miraculously still liked each other the next day then you'd start 'going out' with each other.

I can see how that might sound awful to many of this generation, but it was pretty much normal for us. And as a pretty plain guy with a reasonable sense of humour it worked out pretty well for me.

This a symptom. But that funny to see guy discovering

One girl dumped me after a few dates, nothing special, and she was super apologetic. She said she'd understand if I called her a fucking bitch and blocked her. I was so offended by that comment. I'm not one of those insecure guys who flips out when they get rejected. I can handle being dumped! I can't believe she thought so lowly of me! Fucking bitch!

I'd rather get something like this instead of seeing it die off slowly and then not getting a straight answer or getting blindsided. Just rip the bandaid off—be honest about what's going on. If you can't learn to handle these situations and handle your emotions in a reasonable manner, then maybe you shouldn't be dating yet...

Thats because they are afraid you're going to lose it and verbally, physically or mentally abuse them.

Sounds like adulting to me.

Hey, it's polite and a response. Pretty good in my book

I think this person broke up with ChatGPT

So, ghosting is bad and evil. At least tell the man you aren't interested! Men are suffering due to ghosting! But also, don't put him down when rejecting him. Men have to suffer so much rejection, so their ego is easily hurt. Let him down gently!!

Oh, you did? Well let me mock you for being TOO nice and diplomatic about it 😂.

Damn I'm so happy I'm not dating anymore. Feels like no way to do it right.

Y'know, I'm fine with it because it is at least professional. Better than getting ghosted or them being rude about it.

Rejection is the antecedent for many behaviors, which are often dangerous. So we try a lot of ways to make it impersonal, kind, soften the blow…etc.

Is it really all that surprising that when

1. Dating, especially with apps, has become for so many such a soul-crushing impersonal numbers game
2. Enough people (but mostly fragile men) become menacing upon being rejected
3. Enough people keep complaining about how bad it feels to get ghosted

someone would end up sending this?

Jesus Christ, try and get into other people's shoes from time to time.

Trying to prevent you from getting threatening and nasty due to the threat to your "masculinity".

at least they sent a message, good on her.

For women, bluntness and honesty is treated as assault.

For men, retaliation is unremarkable and unnoticed until it's too late.

Then they get offended when they become another man's starter wife.