857
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[-] voxthefox 244 points 2 days ago

Thats because they are afraid you're going to lose it and verbally, physically or mentally abuse them.

[-] confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 145 points 2 days ago

I had a friend call me one night because she said no to a guy and he started threatening to kill himself. Like damn. That's some insane guilt-tripping, manipulative bullshit right out the gate. And this wasn't the first time this happened to her too.

[-] frizzo@piefed.social 69 points 2 days ago

It would be so hard me not to say "do it pussy."

[-] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 40 points 2 days ago

The concern there is they may decide to take you with them.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 6 points 2 days ago

Oh please, not every bitchass is worth worrying about. Just be smart and armed.

[-] Mac@mander.xyz 44 points 1 day ago

Username checks out

[-] Evkob@lemmy.ca 20 points 2 days ago

My mom did this in high school when a guy who was stalking her threatened to kill himself.

He's still alive, over thirty years later.

[-] Mac@mander.xyz 9 points 1 day ago

What a coward.

[-] JackbyDev@programming.dev 3 points 1 day ago

If you're feeling especially strong about it you could call the cops for a welfare check on them.

[-] frizzo@piefed.social 8 points 1 day ago

I don't think the cops shooting his dog and deporting his mom would help.

[-] lemsip@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago

Depends if you live in a civilised country or not

[-] julianwgs@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 1 day ago

If you live in a civilized nation call the police immediately. If it is a real they will save him, if it is not, he will get prosecuted (threatening to take ones life is a form of black mail). Also the necessary people who can help you and him will get informed.

A friend of mine actually did this and it resolved the situation. He had a talk with the police, admitted the mistake and never did something like that (to her) again.

[-] Maeve@kbin.earth 20 points 2 days ago

It's happened to me. I called his friend and they came and collected him and his stuff.

[-] Deceptichum@quokk.au 7 points 2 days ago

That reminds me of one of my ex’s, she did far worse things but that shit still fucked with my head a lot too.

[-] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago

Lol, a suicide threat was just my average day in the life, growing up in an immensely dysfunctional family.

And uh, not just cries for attention type shit, had to talk knives away from people's own throats... I think at least twice, somebody would have OD'd so hard they'd have died if not for me stabilizing them and calling an ambulance.

... I'm enjoying being a hermit these days, and will not be continuing my genetic line.

[-] plantfanatic@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago

Wait, aren’t women the ones more likely to use emotional manipulation though?

[-] Waldelfe@feddit.org 41 points 2 days ago

In my experience as a bi-woman, no. There are equally as many emotionally manipulative men and women. For men it often takes the form of "If you don't do this physical thing (kiss, sex etc), you don't like me." or "If you ask for this security measure (meeting at a public place, using condomes), you don't really like me."

[-] WizardofFrobozz@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 day ago
[-] plantfanatic@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago

Aren’t all the claims in this thread baseless?

Seems people missed the point lmfao.

[-] cynar@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

A small group of idiots can do a disproportionate amount of damage. These men can't get and keep a lady, so go on a disproportionate number of first dates.

It's the same with the inverse, "bunny boilers". Far more men have been on the receiving end than most women expect. For women it's even more extreme. It takes a woman a while to build to that emotional state. The male equivalent can go bang after just a few messages, or a single date.

[-] ayyy@sh.itjust.works 16 points 2 days ago

What in the sexist generalizations

[-] Serinus@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

I mean, they started with "a few of".

For those who didn't know,

(AI)
A "bunny boiler" is a slang term for a dangerously obsessive, vengeful person (usually a woman) spurned by a lover, originating from the iconic 1987 film Fatal Attraction, where Glenn Close's character boils a pet rabbit to terrorize her ex-lover's family. The term describes an unstable individual prone to extreme, often violent, emotional outbursts after rejection, becoming a cultural shorthand for such behavior.

[-] Deceptichum@quokk.au 4 points 2 days ago

And this shit?

The male equivalent can go bang after just a few messages, or a single date.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

That's only if you need women that badly, or men, or anything.

I just need my fellow male co-workers to stop being toxic, or threatening to do things to me.

I need my male friends to stop tearing me down too (taken care of, went no contact).

I got decent friends, but I'm stuck with certain crude co-workers who display disgusting behavior (like insisting I grab my female co-worker by the pussy, and so on).

EDIT: If it was not obvious, most of my disgruntment (and distrust for women by extension) is actually due to awful treatment from male friends. So if I could date at all, I would rather not, or would rather put it off, because I don't want to get burned by women too. The lesson I guess, is that most of men's suffering is actually from other men.

[-] CrazyFrog97@discuss.online 6 points 1 day ago

What kind of 3rd world country do you work in? Any many doing that shit would be fired so fast here its not funny.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 points 1 day ago

Oh you know, Serbia. Can someone just nuke us already please? If there is an invasion, I'm helping it out.

[-] baines@lemmy.cafe 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

don’t be a doormat, proper response is ‘ok’

*edit for clarity, I’m talking about the guy threatening to kill himself, she needs to hard cutoff that guy

[-] confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 2 days ago

She called someone who she trusts in a time when she needed support. I made sure she was safe, calm and around people she felt safe being around for the rest of the night.

Before that night, we became our own little mental health support group so of course I'm going to make sure she feels safe after dealing with some unhinged shit like how that guy was acting.

Also she lives in a different country, her life is her own as much as my life is my own in my own country. It's possible for two people to be friends, care for each other and not expect to be in an intimate or romantic relationship with each other.

[-] baines@lemmy.cafe 8 points 2 days ago

what? not her my dude, him

i was so very confused

[-] confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 2 days ago

Aaah sorry, I thought the earlier comment initially came off as dismissive towards my friend. All good.

I don't recall what my friend said but dude got kicked out of the glow-in-the-dark mini golf place and she got to have his drink for free before finding her safe friends again. Problem solved itself fortunately.

[-] gray@lemmy.ml 5 points 2 days ago

I have several such cases among my friends

[-] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 35 points 2 days ago

"men are scared women will laugh in their face, while women are scared it's their lives men will take"

[-] drunkpostdisaster@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Yeah yeah all men are shit./s

[-] Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 2 days ago

Still sounds like HR

this post was submitted on 06 Dec 2025
857 points (100.0% liked)

Microblog Memes

9839 readers
1178 users here now

A place to share screenshots of Microblog posts, whether from Mastodon, tumblr, ~~Twitter~~ X, KBin, Threads or elsewhere.

Created as an evolution of White People Twitter and other tweet-capture subreddits.

Rules:

  1. Please put at least one word relevant to the post in the post title.
  2. Be nice.
  3. No advertising, brand promotion or guerilla marketing.
  4. Posters are encouraged to link to the toot or tweet etc in the description of posts.

Related communities:

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS