I love your posts Smorty! This one is really pretty!
awwww thank u sooo vrri much!! <3
im always vrri happi when peeps tell me they like my posts ~ im rlli glad that i cn make stuffs like this n peeps actulli look at it ~ ~ <3
again, thank u vrri vrri mch for appreciating my posts <3
Aww Smorty! You just unlocked a very distant memory for me.
In my last winter "boymoding", I always wore a scarf. I had so much overwhelming dysphoria that I didn't know where to even start. I guess that I thought my Adam's apple was one of those things. I don't even remember if I even had much of one; I don't have enough photos from back then to check.
Honestly, back then I was kinda clueless because I didn't have the kind of friends that I needed or the initiative to choose the right steps for me.
yisyis thads me rn.... frens wud rlli change stuff around ~ ~ ~
but noooooo... sadli no
Aww, love. I'm sure you will make some soon. See if there is an LGBT social group near you, I really came out of my shell at mine.
ur right... i shud focus on thad... but what if im still uncomf cuz the peeps r way diffnt from me...
It takes time to get to know people and you will probably never know anyone who is really that much the same as you, even if you do have a lot in common. I don't really do it anymore, because I'm generally quite confident anyway, but I found that the whole thing of "fake it til you make it" really helped me along.
I'm friends with a lot of people that are very different from me! I am a racial minority as well as queer with niche interests, so finding people like me is a challenge.
However, finding like-minded people is not as hard. I know many people of many different backgrounds that I get along with really well. I can talk about my struggles with my own queer identity with a lot of my friends and I am understood (or just heard), even if their struggle is different from mine.
It gets easier with practice to be comfortable around people that are different from you.
well i mean... its not lik i nevr had frens.... i kno whad a fren is.
currntli theres jus no way to mek any (especially nt any female peeps...)
What happens in the summer? Is it too hot for scarf?
I had a protective wool peacoat, which was very effective until it got too hot. Then I had to pick between being uncomfortably hot, or being unconformably unconf.
oh yesyes vrri comf ~
...
summr rlli is the worst... ;(
why cnt it always be wintrrrrrrrrr 💨🥰❄️⛄🍫☕💖🏳️🌈🧙♀️🏞️🧣🔥🏔️🧊🍧☄️🌃
Hah, I'm not going anywhere without a scarf! In winter those are some chunky woolly warm ones, in summer I'm draped in pashminas or throws or the things that Muslim ladies wear as head scarves. Even during the heat waves when I sleep like a nakey starfish, I have to have a scarf, my neck doesn't like the wind at all!
EDIT: added oc and ai tags. is the image preview also not appearing for you people? its just gray/grey for me.
Nope. I rely on image previews/thumbnails to see blahaj.zone images too, could someone screenshot the post for me?
here is the exact se image link, but as a commnt
No, i mean; blahaj.zone is blocked for me i can't see images at all. I'd need a mirror off blahaj
oh... oh no im sorry, here u go
im sorry, i forgot this is.. a thing ;(
Thank you :D
Nice scarf!!!
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