[-] hildegarde 4 points 20 hours ago
[-] hildegarde 6 points 22 hours ago

If you're scared of having a girlfriend you must be terrified of having a wife.

[-] hildegarde 23 points 1 day ago

Trans people being for pansexuals is a common trope in queer pandering media. They specifically pair trans people with pansexuals, so they can be inclusive, but in the specific way that doesn't ask their mostly cis and straight audience to question their own sexuality, because that might make them uncomfortable.

Its not a reflection of reality. Hot women are hot, hot men are hot, regardless of how they got there.

[-] hildegarde 1 points 1 day ago

Biden put tarriffs on chinese EVs which is why you can't buy a BYD in the us. This is not an example of appeasement, this is what they do regardless.

[-] hildegarde 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Gender dysphoria is not diagnosed by the symptoms. The determining factors are the desire for change, and the presence of some sort of distress or discomfort. The specifics of the discomfort that you experience are not part of it. If you want to change your gender, and have some amount of discomfort as a result, you have gender dysphoria. From reading your post, it sure sounds like it.

If you're interested, I have included the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria and transsexualism from the American Psychiatric Association's DSM-5, and the World Health Organization's ICD-10 respectively. If you go to a doctor they will almost assuredly be using one of these documents to determine if you can be diagnosed for it. They both require some amount distress or discomfort but give no details on what that distress or discomfort feels like or how it manifests.

DSM-5's Diagnostic criteria


Gender Dysphoria in Adolescents and Adults 302.85 (F64.1)

A. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, of at least 6 months’ duration, as manifested by at least two of the following:

  1. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics).

  2. A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics because of a marked incongruence with one’s experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics).

  3. A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender.

  4. A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).

  5. A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).

  6. A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender)

B. The condition is associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

ICD-10's Diagnostic Criteria for Transsexualism


F64.0

Transsexualism

A desire to live and be accepted as a member of the opposite sex, usually accompanied by a sense of discomfort with, or inappropriateness of, one's anatomic sex and a wish to have hormonal treatment and surgery to make one's body as congruent as possible with the preferred sex.

Diagnostic guidelines

For this diagnosis to be made, the transsexual identity should have been present persistently for at least 2 years, and must not be a symptom of another mental disorder, such as schizophrenia, or associated with any intersex, genetic, or sex chromosome abnormality.

[-] hildegarde 33 points 2 days ago

Thanks I was reading this post on my smart fridge and I'm not strong enough to tilt it back.

[-] hildegarde 3 points 3 days ago

Same. In many ways ignorance is bliss, but it is no substitute.

[-] hildegarde 6 points 3 days ago

I didn't care about my health either, but now I do, because of the HRT. HRT is great! Do whatever you need to do to get it.

I was prescribed both estrodiol and a testosterone blocker. That combination has made me stop getting horny, like entirely. I wouldn't say that's the best part, but as an asexual it's a delightful bonus.

[-] hildegarde 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

That doesn't work. I found a study about cow's milk having measurable levels of estrogen, and that's even mammalian estrogen that works unlike plant estrogen that just has a similar name.

But HRT is precise and controlled. Its far better to do it properly. Trying to change your hormones through diet is far more likely to cause health problems from a poor and unvaried diet than it is to actually change your body.

[-] hildegarde 175 points 3 days ago

$90 to replay a 8 year old wiiu game. Why would anyone?

[-] hildegarde 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

My experience with dysphoria has always been subtle and unspecific. It took a very long time for me to recognize it.

In adulthood, it was little more than a slight inclination towards depression. Whenever I would notice it, it was far easier to attribute it to immediate circumstances.

When I felt it in winter, surely its just seasonal depression. When I felt it in summer, its just because I hate summer. During covid I was miserable because I couldn't go anywhere, then afterwards I was miserable because I had to go places. This was all dysphoria, but nothing about it gave any indication it was about gender.

Also I had the emotional range of a thimble. (what is this metaphor?) I could feel empty, or angry, and little else.

I never liked how I looked in pictures avoided taking them, or appearing in them when possible. I guess I'm just ugly, that's the most reasonable explanation.

It took me a very long time to realize I was trans, and even longer to be ready to accept it. It wasn't until I started HRT and most of what I have described went away that I realized it was dysphoria.

I dislike the word dysphoria, because its such a strong word. For a long time I thought that my subtle and nonspecific feelings couldn't possibly be enough to be dysphoria.

To anyone out there reading this because you're uncertain if you're feeling dysphoria: When a disorder is named after its symptoms it's usually named at a very early stage of research, when researchers are only able to find the most obvious examples. This is why so many disorders have incredibly scary sounding names. Dysphoria can be that bad for some, but it can also be so subtle you don't even realize you're suffering.

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I have been on HRT for a little over two months. I am taking sprio and sublingual estradiol.

These treatments have pretty much cured my depression, but otherwise I feel pretty much the same. I kind of expected estrogen to feel actively different most of the time, but so far that doesn't seem to be the case.

However, today I felt my nerves for the first time on HRT, and it felt very different. I get stage fright on occasion. This time wasn't worse or anything, but it felt so very different. Like the nerves were in my body instead of my head.

Has anyone else had similar experiences with performance anxiety before and after HRT? I'd also love to know if are other experiences that feel distinctly different that I can look forward to.

Thx in advance. Love you all <3

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