Note: unless you're deliberately obscuring someone's gender and know their preferred pronouns, use their preferred pronouns.
I also use "they/them" until someone shares their pronouns.
Officially, I do this to avoid misgendering people.
Really, I do it because some snowflakes are too fragile to share their pronouns, and I enjoy annoying them until they do.
Really, I do it because some snowflakes are too fragile to share their pronouns, and I enjoy annoying them until they do.
hello from a snowflake who is stuck in the closet, and too fragile to share my pronouns because it forces me to misgender myself and reminds me of how far i am from a life that feels like mine
i don't disagree with the they/them-by-default policy (principle of least harm etc), but if you ever find people being less than enthusiastic about it or reluctant to state their pronouns, please consider that there could be other reasons
I mean if someone doesn't want to share their pronouns what do they really expect, they should share them or accept they/them without complaining. Can't expect other people to read minds.
Is this a transguy meme, since it's concealing the he/him pronouns with a silencer (they/them)? Based.
I'm pretty sure the metaphor is that the figure is going to misgender a she/her as they/them, to have plausible deniability, when they really intended to misgender as he/him.
I don't think this is a very well crafted one, it doesn't read clearly as evidenced by the paragraph of supporting details posted alongside.
Yep. Those people who insist the singular they isn't acceptable English whip that shit out when they see a brick in a dress
Yeah this isn't a well crafted meme at all. The point should be way more clear but just isn't.
I think it's cool how we're out here complaining about the sub-par memecraft.
My preferred pronouns are actually "none of your business/fuck off", but I settle for "they/them" for professionalism reasons. (Until I retire. Then my pronouns change officially everywhere.)
I have a friend who just can't seem to get the hang of she/her and they/thems me a lot and it drives me kinda crazy. Much rather be he/him'd than they/them'd
what about being hee/hee'd?
While your feelings are completely valid, I think most people experience the opposite. Even back when my preferred pronouns were only she/her, being he/him'd felt like a punch to the face, and they/them just slid right past me. Maybe that was just a sign that I'd end up being okay with she/they (at least from cis people, my preference around other queer folks is pup/it).
Oh yeah for sure I am not typical. I might be closer to enby than trans woman, idk. I see other trans women be so sure and confident, like "I am a woman and I'm going to make the changes to bring my body and appearance in line with that" and I'm over here uncomfortable calling myself a woman, slowly following the trail of happiness breadcrumbs that are leading me to being a woman. I think I dislike they/them so much because it plays into my insecurity and doubt. I like she/her but I don't mind he/him cause that still feels like who I am at the moment, even if that's not who I want to be. They/them just feels like people walking on eggshells around me afraid to offend me and unknowingly doing the exact opposite. In the end it doesn't really matter, the rest of my life is far more painful than gender problems
tbh i feel almost exactly the same way (though i'm probably not enby).
she/her feels dangerous, because if i act or am treated as femme then the transphobes in my life might start to suspect me. they/them just feels totally wrong, it's not who i am. he/him at least feels safe, because it won't raise any suspicions...
AND just like you, gender is probably gonna be the least painful part of the next decade for me lol
Nice meme. Ps they're just pronouns now. Preferred implies they are a preference and not a fact.
https://glaad.org/reference/transgender https://www.glsen.org/activity/pronouns-guide-glsen
Exactly. I prefer soup over salad, because that's my preference. My pronouns are she/her, because that's my identity.
thank you for those articles, it was a great read
I say they/them a lot because I suck at remembering names, and pronouns the same thing (only harder to remember, because they're mostly not unique).
What if I use preferred pronouns and they/them at the same time in the same conversation? My speech is basically peppered like that normally for everyone.
"She is doing great, they really has come a long way in painting."
they really has
I still conjugate they as its plural form even when talking about an individual, is that not what most people do? For example:
they really have
Hmm I guess that does make sense as well. Don't think I have thought about it that much as when used this way you are talking about an individual. I suppose it is officially grammatically incorrect.
i think this is correct, but I see why someone would use "has" to emphasize that they are talking about a singular person
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