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What are her takes on femboys?
she's said they don't exist at all, at one point, her take basically being "every femboy is an egg waiting to hatch" or we're trans in denial. Which like, I can get how she could come to that conclusion, but I also feel like she should appreciate that her experience doesn't match everyones.
She's also said stuff like "you aren't really a femboy if you don't shave your legs," which I recognize is a shitty take even if I also share it.
I would say that it's insanely hypocritical for someone in F1nn5ter's position to embrace egg culture with open arms because they've almost certainly experienced the uglier aspects of persistent misgendering and harassment from egg culture.
So I don't think them being ignorant is a good excuse for this because they've definitely experienced it, and likely continue to experience it. Since Egg culture is binary targeted it also negatively effects NonBinary people as well. The idea that egg culture and associated misgendering and attacks are perpetrated by ignorant and well meaning people who have just come out only works if you haven't experienced how bad it is for yourself.
I think it's likely that they say things like this for the purpose of being hurtful for attention. F1nn knows that people have negative feelings towards the "haha egg" rhetoric and probably knows a good part of why as well. They also know that if they go live while doing makeup to talk about why being a GNC boy is impossible because "wearing a skirt and makeup makes you a girl" will get then lots of attention.
I personally got the feeling that they invalidated femboys because that's what she genuinely believed, which made it more sad than anything. I still don't know of anybody with a more documented story, as most eggs didn't center their eggdom in their content in quite the same way. Most trans creators had more private journeys, expressing more fem over time, but not focusing on their self exploration. Most cis femboy creators don't set donation goals to lock their boy clothes in a box; it's about fun expression more than reshaping their entire lives. F1NN5TER just couldn't understand/accept that she was an outlier amongst both internet femboys and trans people who cracked while public figures.
They were kinda naive about how other people viewed gender in general, thinking that gender expression and transition would become common and accepted within the next ten years. I guess you have to be that dense to be the sort of egg that she was. They probably underestimated just how much hate awaited her after coming out, and that's probably why they handled things so badly back then.
However, the more recent race-baiting and ragebaiting transphobes? Definitely calculated moves to get donations on her OnlyFans. This is a person who sold micro transactions to kids on affiliated Minecraft servers; morally questionable business strategies are nothing new.
Idk, while I obviously try to appreciate everyone's experiences and don't like making broad statements, it can be hard to not feel that way when literally every femboy I've met eventually transitioned, myself included...
That's not to say it's a great take, but it's definitely understandable why people would feel that way. Especially since for me personally, it was very much a coping mechanism for being trans.
Again not trying to invalidate anyone's experiences, just kinda venting my own personal thoughts/feelings on the matter.