I mean, I still consider the period of "I recognize I'm not cis" to "being able to say out loud 'I'm trans'" to be in my "egg phase". Like, there was a pretty decent period where I recognized that I was doing not-cis things and was pretty involved in trans culture, but struggled to say "I'm trans".

Honestly it makes sense. Most incidents are due to complacency with rules/procedures. A new guy joins and follows every rule to the letter, but more experienced people think "Well, I've gone all this time without an incident and bent the rules a little here and there, and it's not been a problem.

You see it happen all the time working around heavy machinery. The new guy gets trained on the Limb Mangler and is absolutely terrified of it, so he follows every rule to the letter. The experienced guy has worked with the Limb Mangler for 10 years and knows that the correct process for un-jamming the de-gloving reels takes like 45 minutes and is a PITA, he also knows that you can quickly wiggle the jam loose with a pair of pliers and get it up and running without a stoppage at all. Everything is fine, until it isn't, and suddenly you've got skeleton hands because you didn't feel like taking time to properly de-energize and LOTO tag the system.

Also the title is literally called "The Staff"

I mean, thats fair enough, but even as a not particularly masculine male, I didn't enjoy being a guy.

As a dog woman I'm okay sleeping at the foot of the bed, I need my space to roll around and steal the blankets

I think it's definitely something to explore more. I was never really uncomfortable with my body, and when I started working out heavily, I was actually pretty happy for a bit. However, there was also that background thought over time of "It'd be cool to be a girl" and once I started exploring my femme side, I very quickly realized how much happier I was.

It's one of the cruel things about the way trans people have been presented over the years, as feeling "trapped in the wrong body" and having this active hatred towards your AGAB. I figured that just because I was "okay" with being a guy, I wasn't actually trans or anything, and wanting to be a woman was just something everyone did. It wasn't until I started transitioning that I realized how much I did actively dislike my masculinity, but societal expectations told me that's what I just had to suck it up and deal with it, and enjoy what few parts I could.

Just food for thought more than anything else, and echo the fact that the worst case is finding out what makes you happiest.

It's just out of frame

Except they never will be. Even as dark as things seem, the objective numbers and actions show that there are more good people out there than bad. They want you to think that isn't the case so you give up.

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It's so real, especially early in transition. I remember chatting with a coworker via Teams about cars, and he was being really weird about trying to flex his car, getting really upset I wasn't fawning over it, and being extremely dismissive of basically every opinion I had. I kept thinking to myself "wtf is this guy's problem?" because I had literally never interacted with a person so condescending when talking to me about cars.

Mind you, I'm an automotive engineer, working for an automotive company, who has been racing since before I got my license. I would say I'm decently knowledgeable about cars.

It wasn't until he said "There goes silly hovercat with her silly opinions again" that I realized "Oh shit, he's talking to me like that because I'm a woman". It was incredibly affirming, but definitely some mixed feelings about the whole thing.

I'm so, so fucking sick and tired of all the doomer shut-in fuckwits who think that we're going to fix this by doing a Jan 6 style raid on the White House. That's not how any of this works. I went to a No Kings protest. You want to know what happened before/after the "parade"? Thousands of people signed up to move our state towards ranked choice voting, information was given out on protecting your community from ICE, and people are getting resources to be more politically active. Literally every political advocacy org in my area has absolutely exploded and we're at a point where we're having to pause memberships because there are so many people trying to join.

Real change takes a bit of fucking time and I'm so, so, so sick and tired of all the people who act like no one is doing anything, while they themselves do fuck-all but doom scroll on Lemmy and post about how it's all over.

It's a boss battle, and bitching about how people are just dodge rolling and parrying and have barely chipped away at the health bar is absolutely asinine.