The opposite happened to me when I transitioned. When I was perceived as a guy, if I was in a meeting, people didn't instantly fall silent if I spoke, but if they tried to overtalk me and I just kept speaking, they would eventually give way. I transitioned 8 years ago, and from the earliest days of my transition until now, if someone starts overtalking me, they will just keep doing it even if I don't stop talking. The only way to stop them is to vocally call them out and ask them to be quiet until I'm finished.
Similarly, I used to be seen as one of the two "tech guys". The person that people would come up to and ask for tech advice to avoid calling the internal helpdesk. After I transitioned, they started coming up to me and asking me where the other tech guy is.
My career has stalled since I came out. I'm in a trans inclusive country, in a trans inclusive workplace, and I transitioned so long ago, that most people don't know that I'm trans or simply forget. But since coming out, the various shoulder taps in to project opportunities and the like just don't happen anymore.
Maybe people went silent because they were fascinated by or fixated on the unusual timbre of the OP’s transitioned vocal cords.
It's a nice theory, but it's somewhat strange how my own experience as a trans person transitioning from male to female had the opposite impact. Did people start overtalking me because they were fascinated by my timbre?
Additionally, OP was in the same department for years and then transitioned. So, naturally people would approach a more experienced person for help or advice regardless of perceived sex if they knew that person was there longer than them.
Again, it's a nice theory, but in my case, they stopped approaching me. And even the ones who don't know that I'm trans don't approach me that way, because I'm not seen as one of the "tech folk" anymore, despite not losing my experience when I transitioned.
but OP seems to be using the worst possible anecdotes
Similarly, you are using the least likely possibilities that contradict the first hand experience of folk directly in these scenarios to fit your pre-conceived notion of what is happening.
Yeah, the OPs post and mine are anecdotal, so you shouldn't take either of our experiences as universal truths. But your takes aren't even anecdotal. They're suppositions.
No one was banned for not rembering drags pronouns or for accidentally getting them wrong.
People were banned for dismissing the validity of neopronouns or for deliberately and repeatedly getting pronouns wrong.
No no, they didn't go behind my back. I knew it was in the works. It's more that there was no clear communication about the plans, so I only found out specifics after they'd been made public.
Mod choices are rarely, if ever, checked by my team
To be clear, the only moderation I do is for content or users that are breaking our instance guidelines, not 196 rules. If it didn't break instance guidelines, I didn't touch it, and if it did, it was bigger than 196. In neither case was running it past 196 mods an appropriate step
instances/hubs/rpcs cannot block a user account or community
Why would I want that? That sounds genuinely awful.
Edit - And the plebbit homepage talks about making a 4chan equivalent, and along with this post, there are pepe images everywhere. No thanks. Plebbit can fuck right off
she made points I have never heard about that I found interesting, like disappearing of some femininity aspects to awkwardly try to avoid sexism accusations.
These are very common talking points of gamer gate bigots. It's a giant red flag, because the people who talk about it are bigots
Image description: A kookaburra sitting on a street light, with a clear blue sky behind. A jet fills most of the frame in the sky behind the bird
Image description: The main entrance of Toombul, looking through to a gutted interior. The area to the right of the main entrance, that used to be the bulk of the shopping center is now just open terrain, with several pieces of construction machinery gathering rubble and scrap
Kaity has been working away for hours, and had to recompile ImageMagick from scratch to get things work, but now, they're working!
As a bonus, you should be able to upload a wider variety of image formats now.
And as an extra bonus, here is a photo of a random Australian Water Dragon we encountered last weekend!
Image description: An Australasian Darter standing on a sandy riverbank, wings outstretched to dry in the sun, water lapping at its feet
Image description: Headshot of a silver gull, with a bright orange red beak. The gulls head is tilted to the left as it looks towards, but slightly to the right of the photographer taking the photo.
Image description: A pied stilt, seen from behind, wading in the shallows of a wetland, head tilted towards the ground, as if about to grab some food
#bird #dailyBird #australianBirds #kedronBrook #wetlands #stilt #piedStilt
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15145486
A Silver Gull (Larus novaehollandiae) catches a chip from mid air at South Bank, Brisbane, Australia, August 2024
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15145486
A Silver Gull (Larus novaehollandiae) catches a chip from mid air at South Bank, Brisbane, Australia, August 2024
A Silver Gull (Larus novaehollandiae) catches a chip from mid air at South Bank, Brisbane, Australia, August 2024
I'm not going to remove a community for pushing back against a system that forces them to vote for genocide.
I don't think that not voting is the answer, but I also don't think that me telling people they're not allowed to feel differently is the answer. The majority of the people in that community will be forced to live with the consequences of their votes. They will be directly targeted by Trump. And if they still feel that pushing back against genocide in Palestine is more important than the consequences of Trump on their very own personal safety, I'm not going to stand in the way of that.
This isn't outside trolls and agitators. This is a community of folk, directly in the line of fire, choosing to stand there for a cause they see as important. As long as their intentions are genuine (which I believe they are), It's not my place to tell them that they're not allowed to take that stand.
That being said, I am going to reach out to the staff there, and address the insults and the like being thrown at other users. It's against both the community rules, and against the Blahaj Zone Community Guidelines.
Yes you do, which they explicitly and deliberately make next to impossible to access through legitimate channels
blahaj.zone, lemmy.blahaj.zone and chat.blahaj.zone
A lot of redditors hate reddit
Reports are the big one. Ideally, with inline context, and the ability to remove the content in question from the report queue itself, rather than having to navigate to the page (though that should also be an option)
Also, if there was a way of highlighting reported comments inline when viewing them (this isn't an out of the box lemmy feature though, so I'm not sure how feasible it is).
Also, it would be nice if you could put a bit of text in the reporting screen encouraging people to provide context/explanation of why the post is being reported. So often, people don't include any/enough information
Nutomic was banned from this instance approximately 9 months ago when I first become aware of his stance. However, it's not something I plan on defederating over unless it becomes clear that the instance as a whole is not acting on transphobic content or unless it becomes clear that the community strongly believes that we should defederate.