Sounds like a rigged game: if someone wants to feel like the blame is being shifted.

What good is blame anyway if you want to fix the problem in the first place? I'll never get it. It feels primally cathartic to blame a person, but it fixes the issues to find the reason.

It will do discord? That's amazing, I will have to look back into it. Discord has been awful for a while, but getting people to switch is impossible. 😩

One thing that helped me was watching youtubers play the game doing weird challenges. When i saw what experts were able to do (and often times how many mistakes they could work around) i realized that the game is waaaay more "frozen in time" than any Harvest Moon game was.

I think there's legitimately only like one or two thing that can be missed at all, and it's like one cutscene (that doesn't cut you out from anything with the npc).

For me the trick is the clock, I personally found it very intimidating! I found the best routine is to check the tv and see what your luck is for the day, check the calendar and see of i want to give someone a gift for their birthday, and then plan what i do for the day around that.

I don't personally take up the quests for the npcs because i don't know the map well and it felt more stressful. They don't seem to care! Chatting with them every day I can and giving them something they don't hate for their birthdays, I was already getting random npcs up to three hearts not even trying.

I could chat with you all day about it and this is already long enough, but i just have to remind myself the town is like a little special place just for me, almost completely frozen in time waiting to walk forward at my speed. ☺️

That giving of yourself and being discerning, you could make sure to find balanced relationships.

People lie, to you and to themselves. Everyone wants to say they're going to be their best person when times are tough. Reality can be quite different when the pain kicks in or dynamics change.

But at this point after countless emergencies while being the one to stand up in the end to carry the sisyphean boulders, the truth is people are going to stand back in a panic when shit hits the fan and I'm going to be the one to figure things out.

Best compromise I have settled on is surrounding myself with people who will help when I ask. It's up to me to ask, plan, and keep all our heads above water, which is exausting, but they won't blow me off.

It's the best I have been able to find of the available optional combination of traits in people i find attractive. 🙃

Worst thing I didn't realize from being young is: keeping people around who are going to eventually leave no matter what cuz they didn't actually respect me isn't worth it.

Show them enough respect to get what you need out of them but don't be friendly with them because they don't actually care about you and none of it's real. They're being social friendly just enough but it's not real and they don't really care about you.

Don't get emotionally invested and don't let people close to you who don't know you and who you know cause you pain, otherwise you're just causing self harm to not be alone and the scars will ruin close social relationships. Colleagues should ne at arm's length you, can tell them that they're being inappropriate, you can just walk away you, can ignore them, be cold to them give them social situations to make them feel uncomfortable like they do you and cut them out.

I promise you in 2 years agter graduation none of them will probably be around. None of them will probably helped you with a job (networking it almost exclusively better with older people in the industry NOT your own rivals for jobs).

And you're going to have spent time juggling relationships that were a waste of your time and that they never cared. Carry around scars for your future partners and friends, ways you wont trust because of a casual acquaintance. It's as bad as having a cheating partner for causing you to mistrust and feel unsable to force yourself to be friendly with people who don't care about you.

None of what they say matters to them or they even process it in social situations. They dont put themselves into your shoes.

I'm it feels like everything to you and so it feels like it'll be everything to them, but no they won't remember you for anythings but a stereotypes they formed in their head 2 months after you haven't been around. Then a year later they may have the vaguest recollection.

Only you will remember this in 10 years. Act with respect for yourself, not them and not what you've been told they'll be good for.

Because you won't lie at night wishing you had given more of yourselves to others. You wont wish you made yourself more vulnerable, more easy to hurt by letting cold and thoughtless people into a close place where they can hurt you. You'll wish you had walked away rather than cause wounds you'll never be able to heal.

Do you have a movie or show as an example specifically or just a general "can"?

You hitch your pony with Sony, whomever is there when it drops gets to present it to the world unfortunately. You lose any ability to be independent and you're release ends up being remembered and known by what gets sent out.

It was lazy in the end stretch no matter how much time was sunk into it at any one time. How long was Starfield in developmen after all, it still felt lazy and so did what I saw of Concord.

Sucks to work on something and have the group you teamed up with tank the whole thing, but you still gotta know who you signed up with, and Sony was clearly done working on the project.

On mobile it's the three dots then the install button that has an image of a cellphone?

Sure, how many people do you think you'd walk up to who are renting who would say that that's their situation?

Why are you talking about the exception not explicitly the problem that this is supposed to be trying to address?

The issues are people who want to purchase cannot while people have more than one.

Are you saying we prioritize those renters over homeowners? Is that better for the economy of the country to have people who are renting as opposed to people who own?

Edit: also how does this work if a country cares about their citizens and absolutely any of their citizens are homeless while someone has extra and empty housing?

I just checked it out last night, i had a feeling it was a fun project for the actors, regardless of the overall quality, i wanted to see how they enjoyed performing.

To be honest i didn't hate it. It was longer than it should be, sucked itself off while also having awkward theater kid feeling moments. But i didn't find it as disjointed as everyone talked about, if you watch some media that's figurative you'll be fine, it's mostly more or less just a linear narrative following the main characters.

Honestly it wasn't the worse use of my time, for me. My partners watched with me and one left feeling frustrated at the conclusion (no spoilers) and felt their time was wasted, while the other just could not have their attention held, there were a lot of 'i am deep' shots that if you dont enjoy that you just wont.

All that is to say I didn't pay anything for it, so i had less reason to come in with any expectations. Oh, and I never found I liked the Godfather or his other "classics" so i came in expecting an old man's passion project and that's what i got. The actors felt like they had a blast so i couldn't help watching the whole thing for them.

All and all, if you can see it for free and appreciate it for what it was (a fun bad movie) i think it's fine. If anything i found the ending to be a bit saccharin for a movie that tried to be dark? Some of the parts wrapped up ridiculously im still kind of stunned.

Do you typical get defensive when you make mistakes and people correct you or do you find this particularly hard not to feel like your ego was attacked?

The people here do like to be snarky, but welcome to the internet? Especially when someone makes themselves an amazing target by sulking or pouting. Kids always love to pick on the kid with no emotional regulation, and humans dont change much from childhood.

Lemmy is a little hard to understand at first and I am sure plenty of people get embarrassed, but do you ever find you catch a lot of flies with that vinegar or does it just make you feel better to act out?

Yeah if you moved from like the US south to PNW for instance, I personally know someone who's done the move and is trans who found themselves feeling kinda the the same thing bc of how standoffish ppl here are. I did the move ten years ago and personally loved no longer being roped into being social with everyone, but it does legitimately mean i greet ppl who never even acknowledge me and sometimes that makes me feel rejected/judged even though i know it's not personal.

For me, i appreciate knowing that no one around me cares enough to pay attention, but i grew up in a small town. I don't find ppl as involved in my business outside the south, but I know the social scripts of greeting and interacting makes some ppl feel safer/as if ppl care even though they're just as likely to dislike you where im from.

But yeah idk progressive folks ironicly care LESS to pay too much attention. They'll often glance and assume queer and then just try and guess based on their feelings of gender which can be just as bad and stereotype ladened as anyone from anywhere. Right now a lot of ppl are fucky on gendered traits even if they mean well cause of culture war stuff. I know trans ppl right now who clock others the wrong direction. Everyone is sensitive of upsetting others but no one will just ask pronouns if they arent sure. I HATE how chicken shit scared everyone is up here about everything!

Ppl in the US south sort of culture, in my experience, dont have enough to do so they're always bored. ppl in progressive places got shit to do and want to end any exchange as fast as possible regardless of who you are and usually dont really pay attention during the exchange to the person they're talking to cause they're in their own head about their shit. (・_・;) making friends can be really hard here too :(

Um. I could be totally wrong i am definitely not an authority, but your experience made me think of this. My friend has been here 5 years and is only just now realizing that ppl here disrespect everyone by not paying enough attention to even TRY and get pronouns right for anyone slightly gender nonconforming (this even means traits on a cis person others have just decided should be only one one gender presentation even though humans aren't really very sexually dymorphic) in appearance cis or no right now.

They just guess and I see it wrong all the time for cis people too. It's not to diminish your experience! Im closer to 40 than not and have seen lack of care trigger someone just as much as genuine transphobia and it doesn't make the dysphoria less anguishing im so sorry. 💙

Edit: i think my friend told me something like "where im from they're just honest when they hate you, here it feels like less people care or hate me, but more people here feel like they don't want me around at all regardless of anything about me personally. And that happens more often here than the hate did there." if you can relate to that!