I appreciate the work you put into this. Thanks.

Growing up my house was always trashed. Parents with depression and full time jobs don't leave much time and energy for cleaning up, and there's only so much children without guidance can do.

So once I had my own defined space, it was basically minimalist to expedite cleaning. I didn't start getting more stuff, even clothes, until my partner moved in.

Or maybe he was just being nice? I can't imagine being invited to friend's new house and not giving compliments unless im like worried about them moving into an unsafe situation.

I keep seeing this content that’s “men are so stupid and inferior and awful” and it’s grating on me.

That's because it's troll bait. Just like all generations have a bigger than wanted set of shitty people. I don't feel like I can take this shit down because it's not breaking any rules. You all can help by not falling for the bait though.

Femcels are a thing. :\

It's really prevalent, but it's unfortunately hard to call out, especially irl.

The thing no one wants to admit or say is that while the modern (MeToo and onward) feminist movement certainly has good intentions, its been broadly co opted into a kind of pop-feminism that's about as actually feminist as tik tok psychology advice is real psychology.

Its morphed into basically just a semi-formalized worldview of mystic misandry.

'Manifesting', the Patriarchy as essentially an evil spiritual or god-like entity or force, which everything else is oriented around and against... while simultaneously claiming that adherents need to 'de-center men' ... near total abandonment of any attempt to empathize with the 'other', active glee in demonizing them... whole bunch of 'creators' just vying to be the most bombastic mini cult leader...

Its even got a discernible dialect.

They believe dogmas. When you try to inquire as to the basis or validity of those dogmas... they attack.

You get a bunch of faux psychoanalysis of how you could possibly have ended up so broken as to question their... you know, idea that they can't or won't actually defend.

Its like a religious fundamentalist launching into a semi-canned apologia response.

Wall rugs are art

Rugs on the wall, art on the floor?

But then we wouldn't have rage bait for engagement.

They have to play men and women against each other. Or else they would have to explain how systemic patriarchy manages to self-replicate despite worsening the lives of nearly all of the people (of all genders) who suffer under it. And the answer to that is: capitalism. Which is not an acceptable answer for the donor class.

You and I seem to have the same opinion about this.

Feminism has basically been co opted into a kind of psuedo liberal, privileged, socially acceptable because it calls itself feminism, form of misandry.

Like this OP image person would be the same person who would likely call a straight dude gay, as an insult, because he declined a second date with her.

Its wild because... like... these people are ostensibly 'liberal', they'll tell you they are, but they're actually not.

They believe in the concept of equal rights and opportunity, universally, for all... to the same the same extent that conservatives believe in Democracy or States Rights.

They don't actually believe in them.

They believe in them as rheotically useful dialects to speak about things from... but they don't actually believe in the actual principles.

Like we've gotten to the point in politics and society where everyone is so thoroughly full of shit, that we have an illiberal center, roughly, that then just pantomimes different flavors of rhetorical style... and then on the extreme ends you have people that actually believe in any principles beyond 'Im awesome and my team rocks'.

We are so fucking cooked lol, the owners have divided and conquered our minds extremely thoroughly.

God, this shit pisses me off so fucking much because it's this bullshit-ass pop-philosophy that liberals have settled into that pushes away young men and perpetuates the patriarchal bullshit in the world.

To start with..... Have you ever even met anyone in real life that spoke this way? I feel like people on lemmy are so quick to see a post from an unknown random on the internet and speak about it as if it's an epidemic.

The problem is the fucking system, not who is doing the punching. Libs get so wrapped up in anything but the system that they make the problem worse. Like the popularization of the term "mansplaining". Oh neat, so now the problem women face about being seen as competent is about men.

I think the critique is aimed at a functional aspect of the system. You seem to acknowledge the patriarchy, which is a critique of a hierarchical system that is largely controlled by and benefits men. I don't see how agitating against mansplaining is anything but critical towards people talking over or diminishing the voices of women.

Because, of course, feminism didn't come about to improve the treatment of women, but to point out who the bad people are. The would you rather for women about running across a bear or a random man is about how man worse than bear, not that women feel so egregiously unsafe in their daily lives.

How do you change a system without being critical about aspects of the system that require change?

The man vs bear is definitely an allegory about how women feel unsafe due to the discrepancy of power between the sexes, in both physical and societal power.

Libs see women get mistreated for no reason then go "men should suffer, too", then pat themselves on the back because now everyone hates everyone, no matter the gender[bullshit-ass heart emojis].

I think the point is to highlight the discrepancy between the experiences of men and women. For example the man vs bear scenario isn't claiming that men too should be more afraid to run across a random woman than a bear. It's a way to highlight their perspective, the point is we should live in a society where women do not have to feel like they could become prey to unjust violence from a random man.

What robs us of joy is caring about other people’s expectations for us. We are free when we stop worrying about what people think.

What the hell are you talking about? You can't have a rug or society will call you gay?

Well, the problem isn't that this is being manufactured, but rather exacerbating already existing problems. The Russian IRA didn't start racism in the US around 2013-2016. 4chan didn't found fascism in the west. North Korea didn't originate the very first crypto scams. You're absolutely right that the problems are blown way out of proportion and there are so many trolls out there, it's hard to tell if any one asshole is paid to be an asshole online or not. However, it's best to not over-correct and deny these problems exist at all, even with hyperbole.