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I keep seeing this content that’s “men are so stupid and inferior and awful” and it’s grating on me.
Like, yes, there’s definitely a strong toxic subset of men, but most of use are just… normal?
I’m in my mid 30s, when the women aren’t around we’re mostly talking about kids (those who have them), hockey, finances, house stuff, and weird health issues. Depending on the group, how stupid politics/government shit is lately.
I don’t know. It feels like the toxicity that came for incels is coming at women hard these last few years. Reddit really pushes this stuff lately.
That's because it's troll bait. Just like all generations have a bigger than wanted set of shitty people. I don't feel like I can take this shit down because it's not breaking any rules. You all can help by not falling for the bait though.
Definitely this. It circulates widely because it generates outrage, even though the number of people who actually believe this is miniscule. This is the same technique right-wing media uses
It might even be the same people. I suspect that, but don't have any proof.
Russia has repeatedly and explicitly said they are playing both sides of the US/Western political divide against each other in online rate campaigns.
rage* 🙇🏼♂️
It was shown to be the case in the muller reports I think. Its only rational to assume its ramped up a lot more since then especially given how effective its been.
how important is proof and what would you do with it?
I have no idea how anyone could prove it. But if I could, I would remove these types of posts as spam.
i mean i might be able to dig through logs and find similarities between times, vpns, etc. we're talking forensic bullshit but i'd need instance level cooperation and it's work work, so i'd need money. it honestly doesn't sound worth it on either of our ends since my rates aren't really what you'd be looking to pay. i used to be an accountant in a former life, before my disability got too bad, and did a few forensic gigs a year.
As I said in another comment, I don't think OP meant it as troll bait. He probably thought it was funny and the trolls go off on it. They'll make up opportunities if they can't seize them. I do think "they" post stuff like this specifically to stir up shit, but not this one. I think it was opportunity trail bait.
and honestly what i'd probably find is the troll accounts' activity, and also myself when i can't sleep probably who knows what i get up to when i'm four days into an insomnia bender.
Agitprop, yep. One of the oldest tricks in the book, and we still need to remind people. 😶
Yeah, but Incels also startet as Trolls and now they've developed into a real movement. Just like flatearthers and so many other conspiracy theories.
I'm not saying we shouldn't engage with this type of content, I mean I've engaged in communities and posts about birds not being real and that might as well turn into real conspiracy theory just like flat earth.
But they do have real consequences and people might start to truly believe these things. Many people won't realise it's a bait, including women.
Femcels are a thing. :\
I hate to use that term though because I love femcel communities here on fediverse. They probably got the best memes in the verse.
I still haven't figured put what the deal is with that place, and at this point I'm too afraid to ask.
Female celery
Well, yes, but I think that's a leek.
Which is delicious in the right soup.
i just kinda showed up there and hoped no one would notice i'm married, but my wife is awesome i like to talk about her. and they're pretty cool on the community so 😘
It's really prevalent, but it's unfortunately hard to call out, especially irl.
The thing no one wants to admit or say is that while the modern (MeToo and onward) feminist movement certainly has good intentions, its been broadly co opted into a kind of pop-feminism that's about as actually feminist as tik tok psychology advice is real psychology.
Its morphed into basically just a semi-formalized worldview of mystic misandry.
'Manifesting', the Patriarchy as essentially an evil spiritual or god-like entity or force, which everything else is oriented around and against... while simultaneously claiming that adherents need to 'de-center men' ... near total abandonment of any attempt to empathize with the 'other', active glee in demonizing them... whole bunch of 'creators' just vying to be the most bombastic mini cult leader...
Its even got a discernible dialect.
They believe dogmas. When you try to inquire as to the basis or validity of those dogmas... they attack.
You get a bunch of faux psychoanalysis of how you could possibly have ended up so broken as to question their... you know, idea that they can't or won't actually defend.
Its like a religious fundamentalist launching into a semi-canned apologia response.
so like, i went to this cult university. one of the smaller mistakes of my life to give you an idea. they had this feminists group there. i generally look white and male, and back then i went by this cool nickname that was about my disability (a different disability has coopted it and that makes me grumpy but you know what, we could share. it's not literally the only nickname what ever stuck to me besides my stage name. just, mine makes literal sense and theirs doesn't but whatever, i can't use it anymore anyways) and this group's leader decided that anyone who looked male was there to trawl for women to fuck and believe me no and doubly no not her. First that'd be an ethical violation, second i don't really need to say anything beyond that. Anyways, the motion to kick me out of the group was that because of my cool nickname based on my disability, and because i was white and male (even though i only look those things) i needed to go die in a fire.
now, this cult university does the weirdest psy-ops. like, there are articles in the salt lake tribune about them, don't take my word for it. i grew up outside the jello belt. my polycule of grandpas taught me real feminism, so something smelled really off about that group, whether it's just an absolute misandrist pseudo- firstwaver trying to deal with a punkrockabilly third/fourthwaver or it was a cult legitimately trying to turn people away from feminism with the subtlety of a brick.
i guess what i'm trying to say is, like, there's some real dipshits out there
Yep.
There are many kinds of feminism... and the pop-feminism of tik tok... yeah I agree, that's not real feminism...
But try explaining the entire complex history of feminism to somebody whose only seen the tik tok version of feminism.
They'll be very confused and think you are talking about something almost completely different, often to the point of concluding you are lying to them, trying to trick them.
As ever, everyone is talking past each other, trying to win an argument, not have an actual discussion.
Because there are groups specifically circulating ragebait to radicalize young and impressionable men into right winged radicalism. People see this all over the internet, but what do you see in real life? In my experience I have seen plenty of examples of casual misogyny in real life, I've never really seen any form of "misandry" in person.
I see a lot more Misandry in real life than say 15 years ago. A lot of it is very straight up and said as if there is nothing wrong with what they're saying and its just a fact. Some examples off the top of my head are "short men are disgusting" "men are ruining the world" "we should just kill all men" "I hate that im attracted to men" and then plenty of things that are just attacking innocent things men do like their hobbies
I am suspicious that we might not have the same definition of real life....? In what settings are these conversations occurring? I cant imagine you are speaking to coworkers or a group of friends making these types of claims. Are we just overhearing people whole grocery shopping or something? Color me skeptical, but I just can't really think of a scenario outside the Internet where this would even come up.
Secondly, I'm not sure if your examples are really all genuine acts of misandry.
Would it be misogynist for a man to claim tall women are disgusting? Inappropriate and small minded yes.... Sexist in general though?
I think this one might just be accurate? As a man who does not hate men, I can pretty confidently claim that the people currently ruining the world are pretty much all men.
Again, seems more like a personal preference thing? Sometimes I think certain aspects of life would be a lot easier if I were a gay man.
And again, these anecdotes could all be 100 percent true and valid, and it still wouldn't be indicative that we are dealing with a prominent cultural shift towards misandry. Can any normal not terminally online adult name a single powerful, famous, or culturally significant misandrist? Because that's super easy when it comes to misogynist.
this is mostly from my close friends, family and random women i've dated people who I would consider to be "nice people". I am not trying to say the balancec is shifting towards misandry. I am trying to say irrespective of any increase in misogyny I am seeing and increase in misandry.
I don't mind when cis women say stuff like that because it means they're marks, I feel bad for them, because they're absolutely going to get scammed by a man. When trans women say stuff like this it sometimes means they're in the process of bullying someone in their own community into taking their own lives, so it ruffles my feathers a lot more.
I will say i have zero appreciation for "nice" things and the house looking cozy or whatever. If it were up to me I would live in a bare apartment with everything painted white and minimal furniture. And there's nothing wrong with that and i have no reason to change.
Of all the things that are wrong with me and perhaps other men, this is just not one of them, it's just a style preference, there's zero morality involved. Whoever doesn't like it can just not fuck with me, just like i dont fuck with decorations.
People are talking to people in real life less and less these day. The people they do talk to tend to be of the same gender, this was a thing before the Internet but the Internet has made it worse. Combine that with algorithms where the first thing they learn about you is your gender and will feed you content accordingly, peoples view of the opposite gender becomes more and more distorted. So the terminally online people, that also make a lot of the content on the Internet, tend to become misogynist or misandrist.
I first read that as "horse stuff" and was wondering if horses were suddenly in now