counterpoint, it means a cutie shows up in my feed twice

I would say that not everyone in transjoy is necessarily subscribed to mtf. I reckon ftm peeps exist as well.

The way ive always thought about it is transjoy is more of a place for everyone trans ftm/mtf, plus its seen by more people and more frequently ends up on All. Whereas mtf i thought of as more of a place specifically dedicated to mtf trans people, more of a safe haven for us, and you can post pictures and ask advice there without necessarily inviting the larger trans community into it. For someone just starting to find themselves, this could be the difference between posting and not posting.

Also also, its worth thinking about what the value of a rule would be vs its drawbacks and what were taking away. I feel personally that an extra view of the same post is not worth trading off for the gatekeeping rule culture that would lead to.

Also also also, this place isnt big, and theres not alot of content. Would we remove posts that violate this rule? Because i would see that as a major drawback. I want more content not less of it. I want people to feel comfortable and not feel like theres a bunch of rules to follow to properly interact with us.

Maybe if we were as big as reddit, but i dont want that either. I love the intimacy of this place. It feels like im actually talking to someone. But if this place ever got that big then i could see this rule being a thing. But i do think to make such a ruling right now would harm the community, not help it

Ps theres apps thatll combine crossposts for you

Edit: removed ableism

Hi, one of the culprits here, hehe 😅.

First of all, I want to apologize to you and to anyone who found the double posts kind of annoying. That said, I mostly did it for the reasons brookedSmile mentioned (sorry, I don’t know how to tag people here).

I also got a bit excited about how my transition has been going lately, and I wanted to share my pics in every space I came across. Anyway, I’ll avoid double posting from now on and will just post in one of the two communities instead, while I see what everyone else thinks about it.

I do enjoy posting in both communities because I’ve noticed that some users only interact in one of them, although I might just be mixing up which posts I saw where, so maybe that point isn’t even valid 😅.

Maybe a better approach would be changing things up between communities, different titles, different pics, that kind of thing. Honestly, I do enjoy taking pictures of myself, so I wouldn’t mind doing that at all.

Anyway, I really appreciate people bringing this up instead of silently getting annoyed about it. I genuinely didn’t mean to spam anyone 😔.

I agree, but also I'd rather see a general solution rather than us making specific rules in our communitues. I see doubled crossposts frequently and it is annoying, I'd rather ask for the client or server software to merge them in some way so the problem can be addressed globally.

This community has always allowed image content. I've never really considered changing that. I'm curious what folks have to say about it.

When I first made this community I made it because I frequently browsed r/mtf and could not find a community on Lemmy that really fit with that.

I feel really that this community has diverged in some important ways from that subreddit though, and one of those has been allowing images to be posted here. I didnt want this to be a text post only community because I felt that it was good for transfem and questioning folks to have a place to share anything they wanted to. Most of the rules revolve around this principle of protecting a safe space for transfem/questioning people. Some kinds of images are banned. But I hadn't considered banning selfies in particular.

You're not wrong to think it's kind of annoying, I also think that, but I think it's a general Fediverse limitation in Lemmy, and it shouldn't be solved by limiting individual communities and using rules.

This problem of multiple fitting communities and multiple uploads appears in many places in Lemmy, and solutions on the tech side have been discussed. One solution I read and liked, was being able to repost posts in other communities, and the reposts to function as posts within the community, but appear under a single heading in user feeds that are subscribed to both.

No one has gotten around to making something like it yet, but I feel that 'rules per community' to prevent that experience, with the reasoning that "eh, most people are subscribed to both", when some people might only want to be in one, is against the spirit of this environment

Doesn't really bother me🤷🏼‍♀️

Just switch to piefed and the two posts will be combined in your feed. Simple.

I don't really mind. It's an extra fraction of a second of scrolling, doesn't seem like a big enough deal to start making new rules.