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re: doubleposting selfies on both /c/mtf and /c/trans_joy (lemmy.world)
submitted 1 week ago by tanisnikana@lemmy.world to c/mtf
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Maybe it shouldn’t be a thing? Trans Lemmy is so small that I think if anyone is subscribed to one, they’re prolly subscribed to the other, which means seeing the same post back to back?

Should /c/mtf be non-selfie, because the entire point of /c/trans_joy is showcasing happy trans people?

Or am I up my own butt about this?

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[-] brookedSmile 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

I would say that not everyone in transjoy is necessarily subscribed to mtf. I reckon ftm peeps exist as well.

The way ive always thought about it is transjoy is more of a place for everyone trans ftm/mtf, plus its seen by more people and more frequently ends up on All. Whereas mtf i thought of as more of a place specifically dedicated to mtf trans people, more of a safe haven for us, and you can post pictures and ask advice there without necessarily inviting the larger trans community into it. For someone just starting to find themselves, this could be the difference between posting and not posting.

Also also, its worth thinking about what the value of a rule would be vs its drawbacks and what were taking away. I feel personally that an extra view of the same post is not worth trading off for the gatekeeping rule culture that would lead to.

Also also also, this place isnt big, and theres not alot of content. Would we remove posts that violate this rule? Because i would see that as a major drawback. I want more content not less of it. I want people to feel comfortable and not feel like theres a bunch of rules to follow to properly interact with us.

Maybe if we were as big as reddit, but i dont want that either. I love the intimacy of this place. It feels like im actually talking to someone. But if this place ever got that big then i could see this rule being a thing. But i do think to make such a ruling right now would harm the community, not help it

Ps theres apps thatll combine crossposts for you

Edit: removed ableism

[-] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

Honestly, that's prolly the fairest take.

(Sadly, I can't picture you or anyone or even me, but that's okay.)

[-] brookedSmile 2 points 5 days ago

Im soooooo sorry!! That was an extremely ableist analogy to someone i know has an issue with that. Genuinely feel bad and i deeply apologize ❤️❤️

[-] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

No no, it’s fine. I’ve just had a couple of strokes and that section of my brain doesn’t work anymore. Other people can do the face recognizing. I’m gonna be a turtle.

[-] brookedSmile 2 points 5 days ago

What doesnt kill you makes you fiercer!

For real tho, glad youre still around kicking! Enjoy the nice weather! Stay beautiful ❤️

this post was submitted on 26 May 2026
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