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Hi, one of the culprits here, hehe 😅.
First of all, I want to apologize to you and to anyone who found the double posts kind of annoying. That said, I mostly did it for the reasons brookedSmile mentioned (sorry, I don’t know how to tag people here).
I also got a bit excited about how my transition has been going lately, and I wanted to share my pics in every space I came across. Anyway, I’ll avoid double posting from now on and will just post in one of the two communities instead, while I see what everyone else thinks about it.
I do enjoy posting in both communities because I’ve noticed that some users only interact in one of them, although I might just be mixing up which posts I saw where, so maybe that point isn’t even valid 😅.
Maybe a better approach would be changing things up between communities, different titles, different pics, that kind of thing. Honestly, I do enjoy taking pictures of myself, so I wouldn’t mind doing that at all.
Anyway, I really appreciate people bringing this up instead of silently getting annoyed about it. I genuinely didn’t mean to spam anyone 😔.
I think there might be a crosspost function to move a post from one community to another, rather than creating two completely different posts.
There’s problems inherent with a lot of post titling stuff on Lemmy, for example, I don’t title a lot of my photography, just listing where I took it, which means a lot of my posts have the title “Portland, OR.” and Lemmy thinking they’re related/the same.
I think something structurally needs to happen with post categorization and submission at the platform/server level.
Is it weird that I know your wardrobe by seeing your username? (Not your face though, I can’t do faces at all.)
Yes, there is a crosspost function, I think I might have even used it before, but I kind of dislike how it looks hehe.
Also, now I’m a bit confused. Wouldn’t crossposting still cause the same issue? I mean, people who browse both communities would probably still see the post twice, right? (I’m not really sure how the general feed handles that.)
I’m also kind of a Lemmy newbie, so could you explain a bit more what you mean by Lemmy thinking posts are related/the same? I’m curious what implications that has.
And honestly, I’ll take “recognizing my wardrobe from my username” as a compliment 😄.
P.S. Sorry if any of this comes across as rude or overly direct. I’ve been told before that I can sound a bit blunt sometimes even when I genuinely don’t mean to, so I tried to word this carefully 😅.
P.P.S. (I think that’s how a second PS works?) Just to make sure I understood correctly, the main issue is the double posting itself and not the fact that I’m posting outfit pics here, right? Because I think I look kinda cute today and was hoping to share the ootd here specifically haha.
Here's an example of what I'm talking about when I say that Lemmy thinks posts with similar titles are related.
Crossposting is kind of weird. It's supposed to provide a single comment thread for all the communities a post has been put into, but it doesn't. I think it's just broken.
Also, you're fine. You're weird, but who among us isn't? Thanks for being around.
Ahhh, I get it now. Hmm, that does seem like a bit of an issue, especially for people who naturally end up using similar titles across multiple posts for unrelated reasons.
Yeah, crossposting sounds like a neat idea in theory, but it also sounds like the implementation still has a few rough edges.
Yay for being weird 😄 And thank you too, you’re very nice :3
Btw, I really like how you customized your desktop environment. I’ve been meaning to put more effort into customization myself, but I kind of had to stick with Pop!_OS for a while because only Debian/Ubuntu-based distros seemed to have the right OpenSSL version (or maybe some related package, I honestly don’t remember exactly what the issue was, it was traumatic enough that I erased most memories related to those horrible days of trying literally everything to connect to the network 😭) that worked with my university’s ancient Wi-Fi certificates. I kept getting errors (something related to handshake/authentication, I think) no matter what solution I tried online 😭
Since I was going to campus almost every day to work on my thesis, I ended up relying on Pop!_OS out of necessity. I also kind of wanted to try Cosmic, so it worked out fine for a while.
But once I can distrohopp more freely again, I definitely want to go back to making overly customized and slightly unhinged setups.
I tried to make my computer feel as fictitious as possible. When a protagonist sits down at a computer in a video game, she’s definitely not looking at Windows, and instead just some sort of artistic representation of a familiar but different-looking computer.
That’s what I went for. 🐢🐢🐢