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[-] UnPassive@lemmy.world 14 points 3 days ago

Had the exact same conversation with my super Christian mom. In front of some siblings. It was amazing.

She was arguing that we need to stop normalizing LGBT stuff because anyone can swing both ways.

I told her straight people can't swing both ways, if you can then you're bisexual. She did not like this, so we all took a poll and she was the only bi person in the room.

She's less homophobic now lol

[-] lemmeLurk@lemmy.zip 9 points 3 days ago

I think that's what happens a lot of time, and why there is a tiny truth to them saying things like "pride makes the kids gay". It does not, but it might teach some bi sexuals that it's okay to be just that, and not force yourself to forget about the other half.

[-] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 166 points 4 days ago

Actual conversation I had regarding my sexuality:

Femal Aquaintance- "You can't be bi, you're married! Wait...do you cheat on -=wife=-?!?"

Me - "Of course I can, and no I don't cheat."

Female Aquaintance - "But you're married! Doesn't -=wife=- have a problem with it?"

Me - "No. She's bi too."

Female Aquaintance -"But she's married!!!"

Two weeks later she got drunk and wanted a threesome, then got annoyed that we turned her down. I have no idea why people immediately assume that bi means "will fuck anyone that asks".

[-] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 22 points 4 days ago

Online dating as a bi woman is grim. It's annoying, because in certain contexts, I'd be up for casually fooling around with a couple, but when you think you're going on a date with a woman and then her surprise boyfriend shows up, it's gross and predatory

[-] JillyB@beehaw.org 36 points 4 days ago

My mom met a non-binary friend of mine and their girlfriend. My NB friend comes across as a masculine muscular bro dude but their NB and pan. I mentioned to my mom later that they were NB and she was like "but he has a girlfriend...?" I had to walk her through "you've heard of men being attracted to women, and women being attracted to women. Well Zack is neither and is attracted to women." In her mind, gender and sexuality were like, part of the same thing. Which I guess they are but not the way she thought.

[-] EldritchFeminity 24 points 4 days ago

I had to teach the difference between the two to my therapist the first time I talked about being trans.

The upside to that whole thing being that they ended up using my knowledge as a launching point to learn what the latest research has to say about gender, sexuality, and trans people, and then several years later thanked me because my conversations on the subject with them went on to help them with other patients that they had.

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[-] Icytrees@sh.itjust.works 21 points 4 days ago

It really opens up the world of bored white middle class couple threesomes, though. They always pay for drinks and give fantastic Christmas gifts.

[-] zea_64 1 points 2 days ago

Straight men are attracted to more than one women and therefore they're attracted to people who aren't their wife, so they must be cheating!

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[-] ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com 109 points 4 days ago

You're not a pansexual until you've fucked a cast iron skillet

[-] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 54 points 4 days ago

TIL that I am pansexual, though I might be a bit rusty.

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[-] ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 35 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

You can never prove you're pansexual but your degree of confidence increases for each gender you've fucked. I think that's pretty Bayesed

[-] Revan343@lemmy.ca 11 points 4 days ago

Based Bayesian statistics jokes are the kind of shit I come to lemmy for

[-] SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago

Or if you are Japanese not until you have fucked a loaf of bread.

(Bread is pan in Japanese)

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[-] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 18 points 4 days ago

What if I just do it to treat my anemia but don’t enjoy it 🤔

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[-] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 111 points 5 days ago

A self-own on par with loudly proclaiming women never get wet when aroused because it never happened to any women you've ever been with.

[-] Junkers_Klunker@feddit.dk 21 points 5 days ago

Surely nobody would ever say that.

[-] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 52 points 4 days ago

True.

Well, not counting Ben Shapiro

[-] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 33 points 4 days ago

I have met dudes who vehemently claim the female orgasm doesn't exist because they've never witnessed it

[-] prole 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Ben Shapiro did. He said that his doctor wife told him that they don't get wet lol

One of the all time classic self-owns

[-] MotoAsh@piefed.social 11 points 4 days ago

but my wife is a doctor and she agrees because she's never been wet!

[-] MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 46 points 4 days ago

Straight facts:

I am a straight man. Hello everyone. I hope you're all having a wonderful day.

Also a fact, I support all peoples choices in terms of what they like and how they identify. Not sure why I would care if someone else wants to be gay, bi, trans, hereto/cis, queer, lesbian, etc. I'm not those things, I'm not sure why it would bother anyone that someone else likes things? Whatever.

Also a fact from a straight guy, aka, straight fact.

While I can recognise that some masculine figures are handsome/good looking, I do not.... And I can't stress this enough.... I do not feel any attraction to men.

They can be rather good looking, but that doesn't make me want to get them naked and fool around.

If you have excitement in your pants for someone of the same gender, well.... I have news for you.... And there's nothing wrong with that.

Be who you are. Anybody who gives a shit is probably not worth knowing.

[-] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 12 points 4 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

A term that I find useful is "~~platonic~~ aesthetic attraction".

It's a term that I learned through the ace community when I was going through the common bisexual experience of "am I bi though, or am I just asexual?". It turned out I was bi, but I find the split model of attraction is a useful framework.

~~Platonic~~ Aesthetic attraction is when you're able to see someone and go "now that is a beautiful man", but not experience any attraction in the conventional sense of the word. I personally find it useful because even though I do experience sexual or romantic attraction to people of all genders, that doesn't mean I experience that for everyone. Sometimes a beautiful person is just a beautiful person.


Edit: got mixed up, and said "Platonic attraction" when I meant "aesthetic attraction". Thanks to @gerryflap@feddit.nl for the correction

[-] gerryflap@feddit.nl 4 points 3 days ago

What you're describing is aesthetic attraction I think. Platonic attraction is more like advanced friendship afaik, more based on personality.

[-] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 2 points 2 days ago

Ah yeah, I got mixed up. Thanks for the correction

[-] gerryflap@feddit.nl 1 points 1 day ago

No problem :3

[-] davidagain@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

I like the term aesthetic attraction. That's useful.

There are plenty of women I find aesthetically attractive, and some that I find attractive in the hormone surge kind of way, but only rarely do they hold appeal for me as a potential partner, and personality plays a massive role there.

I can tell that some men are aesthetically handsome, but without the hormone rush.

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[-] reallykindasorta@slrpnk.net 87 points 5 days ago

You’re not really bisexual unless you have sex with every woman and every man

[-] irelephant@lemmy.dbzer0.com 31 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

This is inaccurate bisexual is when you've had sex twice

[-] zer0hour@lemmy.world 19 points 4 days ago

it's twice a year, or once every other year

[-] davidagain@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Yeah, I never understood biannual either.

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[-] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 28 points 4 days ago
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[-] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 72 points 5 days ago
[-] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 31 points 5 days ago

I'm a dad, as far as I'm concerned anyone who hasn't reproduced sexually is asexual.

chad.jpg

[-] ragingHungryPanda@piefed.keyboardvagabond.com 15 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

you say you have sex you haven't reproduced? that's called a failsexual

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[-] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

You can have sex with the same sex without being gay. Look at the porno industry for example. It's all about attraction when it comes to sexual orientation.

[-] Fontasia@feddit.nl 3 points 2 days ago

The entirety of every male bro podcast compressed into a single comment

[-] KombatWombat@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago

Sexuality is a spectrum. Straight/Gay doesn't mean no attraction to a particular sex, just that the attraction isn't significant. Not sure why he would think you need to have sex with both to qualify though.

[-] bdonvr@thelemmy.club 34 points 4 days ago

And then the goalposts move to "Oh you have had sex with men and women? Well you're dating a woman now so clearly it was just a phase you're not actually bi"

[-] bigboitricky@lemmy.world 33 points 5 days ago

You will deal 10% more damage if you never sleep with anyone

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[-] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 19 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

You aren't pansexual unless you have had sex with every conceivable gender

[-] RmDebArc_5@piefed.zip 25 points 4 days ago

Could you alternatively just have sex with one pangender and one agender person? Like a sort of gender min/maxing?

[-] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 18 points 4 days ago

Gender min/maxing is a new favorite term of mine. Also yes

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