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[-] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 5 points 22 hours ago

Sometimes I use the women's restroom because I'm fem enough that I pass well, or at least well enough that no one has ever said anything about me going in there. I prefer it over the men's room because it's so much cleaner. I only used urinals when I was a kid and I didn't like it back then either, so very quickly stopped doing it.

[-] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 3 points 17 hours ago

I wish I was that fem! Maybe someday :3

[-] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 2 points 17 hours ago

I mean I'm not as fem as I could be but I have long hair, a relatively soft mid pitch voice, little to no facial hair (I shave what little bit I have religeously). I do also wear makeup and lipstick often. I mean if someone really looked at me they could tell I'm a boy, since I don't quite have a feminine figure. Though it seems people don't pay much attention to these details because not one person has ever questioned me.

I do hope to become more feminine in the future though, I wanted to get E but I also don't want breasts, I prefer having a flat chest. I've heard of Raloxifene and that it can help but I'm still doing research on its effectiveness. Want to be absolutely sure it won't give me problems and that I won't end up growing breasts anyway.

btw just in case anyone suggests top surgery, that would be a no-go. I don't want breasts and I certainly don't want chest scars. I know some people think they're cute but I wouldn't want scars on my chest just so I can be flat, scars would make me just as unhappy as boobs would.

[-] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 1 points 16 hours ago

You sound so cute???? I wanna be you D:

[-] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 4 points 22 hours ago

I'm at the point where I'm not comfortable in the men's room, but would go to jail if I went into the correct restroom
guess I just don't piss 🤷‍♀️

[-] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 1 day ago

I can't even use the stall if there's someone else in the bathrooms.
But it's impossible to explain that I am late because I had to try 3 different bathrooms and in the end ended up in a completely different building altogether.

[-] Arkhive 47 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

The token cis gay guy in my AFK friend group 😆

[-] TotallynotJessica 25 points 1 day ago

not even token cis het white dude; token CIS MAN

[-] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 day ago

Cis men for the win!

[-] TheEighthDoctor@lemmy.zip 20 points 1 day ago

For urinal enjoyers try the following experiment, bring a white shirt and pants and spray water with red food colouring at the urinal, then check your clothes

[-] festnt@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago

similar thing happens if you pee in a toilet but out of the water

[-] easily3667@lemmus.org 20 points 1 day ago

That's silly, just eat a few beets

Your test isn't valid or controlled, but peeing with beets is same orifice same destination.

[-] easily3667@lemmus.org 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I don't know why lemmy keeps showing me these memes but I can't think of an appearance im less like. However, I will only use the urinal if I'm alone.

[-] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 3 points 22 hours ago

Femboy memes have been popular lately I guess.

[-] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 hours ago

I’ve been doing my best!

[-] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 3 points 23 hours ago

Because Lemmy doesn't have a custom algorithm designed to fry your brain.

You see popular and your subscriptions

[-] rarWars 38 points 1 day ago

So real, I hate peeing where other people can see me, it's so uncomfortable. I always either wait for a stall or find another bathroom.

[-] wazzupdog 24 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Fuck public restrooms in general, i try to avoid them when possible. Unfortunately i must use them on rare occasion so i try to going places with exclusively gender neutral pissers. It's better that way.. <3

[-] hildegarde 21 points 1 day ago

As told by he ancient legends, there are better restrooms with no urinals if you only have the courage to find them.

[-] TotallynotJessica 8 points 1 day ago

or to just use the women's

[-] Smorty 11 points 1 day ago

i want to.. bt alsuu i dun wan to mek peeps in the womens bathroom uncomf... id be uncomf if som guy came into the reasonable-n-fem-room.

[-] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 2 points 22 hours ago

But you're not a guy, you're a woman. I have gone in there (not a woman but I do look feminine) and no one complained. And yes I did pee in the stall standing up 😎

[-] Smorty 3 points 22 hours ago

ew.... not ew cuz u in womns bathroom <3 bt cuz of standin... prolli jus me tho >~<

[-] PowerfulTurtle@lemmy.ca 2 points 17 hours ago

To each their own. I personally find standing to pee more convenient, but I understand not everyone does (especially those who dislike their "hardware").

[-] hildegarde 7 points 1 day ago

shhh they have to discover that for themselves

[-] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 day ago
[-] pringus@lemm.ee 8 points 1 day ago

ahh yes, the piss walls

even worse when you're in a group of people and everyone except you is using the urinals

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