Who and what belongs here? (lazysoci.al)

submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al to c/WomensStuff@lazysoci.al

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Women only community, see full rules below

Welcome to WomensStuff! We are here for all things women. Examples include...

Fashion, style, make up
Feminism, patriarchy
Friendly chit chat with other women.

Rules...

Women only... trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn't allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (eg non binary) is welcome
Don't be a dick. No personal attacks, no aggression, play nice.
Don't hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.
No governmental politics, so no talk of Trump actions etc. We recommend Feminism@beehaw.org for that, but here is an escape from it.

Please see our twinned community !dadforaminute@lemmy.world They're WomensStuff's official male cheerleaders, and great for when you need dad advice or hugs... They're also a great way for male posters to support women.

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[-] Zero22xx 4 points 6 days ago

Anyone under the trans umbrella (eg non binary) is welcome

Just noticed this now and just want to say, it's very cool of you to include NB people. While I currently fall somewhere under that banner, I'm also my biggest doubter and harshest bully so I probably still wouldn't feel right participating but at least I can feel better about reading and upvoting things.

Thanks for making quite a big difference to this place, btw. Before you came along, the landscape here as far as women-centric stuff goes looked particularly bleak and gave me the impression that there had even been hostility towards any women's spaces that tried to exist here (which also means that the decision to limit participation here was the right call to start this place off).

But not just that, even just posting random inconsequential questions goes a long way to making this place more alive and friendly. Makes me realise that this place doesn't need millions of users, it just needs a few more users like you that make a noticeable splash and difference. So I hope you keep it up lol. And thanks for helping make this place worth sticking around in.

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 6 days ago

Mate that's such a kind thing to say, thanks for taking the time to write it out! It's a really good bunch here which makes it easy. And it's ok that you're not ready to post, whenever you are we're ready to chat with you ❤️

[-] Hansae@lemmy.dbzer0.com 28 points 1 month ago

I'm a guy and this'll be my only comment here but am wishing you the best! Always nice to see spaces for women.

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 14 points 1 month ago

Thanks mate! I'm so happy to see these supportive comments from men I didn't expect it! Really appreciated

[-] threelonmusketeers@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 month ago

Same! Best wishes with this new community @CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al!

[-] Elevator7009sAlt@ani.social 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Awhile ago, someone made a post listing communities targeted at women. All of the communities are now dead, since the poster listed only kbin.social communities and kbin.social went down. I did continue a community listed there at !otomegames@ani.social, but I do not know about if the other communities have been recreated on other instances. However, the reason I bring this up is because I think it might be useful to have a similar post here. Grow the Fediverse and all that.

Disclaimer: am woman

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 10 points 1 month ago

Good idea, women should support other women

[-] Elevator7009sAlt@ani.social 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Alright, went looking for active versions of the communities listed in that post.

!girlgamers@lemmy.world exists but is very dead
!sanrio_kawaii@lemmy.ml, but a lot of people have issues with lemmy.ml. I try to avoid it personally.
There are several Animal Crossing communities. The most recently active one I found is: !acnh@lemmy.world. There is also !animal_crossing@lemmy.world and !animalcrossing@lemmy.world, both dead. There are a few more but with nowhere near as big a following.
And of course, !otomegames@ani.social, active, run by me (games about romancing dudes, aimed at women, community also currently allows amare games which are romance games aimed at a more diverse audience due to how they can overlap and how tiny Fedi is for otome and amare)

I also submit some communities for interests traditionally considered feminine, though I realize not all women would participate in these and other genders participate too. All are active unless mentioned otherwise.

!crochet@lemmy.ca
!knitting@lemmy.world
!lemmy_stitch@sh.itjust.works
!bistitchual@sh.itjust.works
!52weeksofbaking@lemmy.world is now dead and looking for someone to take it over
!journaling@sh.itjust.works
!infinitynikki@discuss.tchncs.de (open-world gacha game explicitly aimed at women)
!otomeisekai@lemmy.world (manga genre aimed at women where someone gets transported from the real world into that of a stereotypical otome game—not actually a great representation of otome games, we don't have villainesses trying to get in the way of your romance usually and we aren't always in medieval fantasy settings, but still enjoyable to this otome player. Very dead, might gain some activity soon)

If women post about these things here I highly encourage them to crosspost to the hobby community too. I am definitely not the only woman who isn't following this community. I don't plan to engage here aside from these two comments. (Nothing against you or other women, I don't hold "there is no patriarchy" beliefs, but this community does allow discussion on more depressing topics than I want to engage with on my online funtime, such as patriarchy and probably sexism.) I hope this proves a fruitful and fun place for the women who do subscribe to the community :) good luck!

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 1 month ago

That's a great list thanks 😊

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 3 weeks ago

!Witchesvspatriarchy@lemmy.ca is under new management. It's a really positive and interesting group of posters with an interest in witchcraft, supporting women and feminism.

[-] Okokimup@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

!52weeksofbaking is dead but !52weeksofart@lemmy.world is still struggling for life. Thanks for the mention.

[-] YarrMatey@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 1 month ago

Would this be welcome too: women venting about their partners, talking about medical problems/conditions women have (even sex-related), birth control, bras and how they fit, parenthood, etc.? Just getting a feel for the place.

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 10 points 1 month ago

100% whatever women want to talk about is ok (although obviously no hating on groups, we're trans inclusive etc). Women's voices on all topics are welcome 😊

[-] fracture@beehaw.org 10 points 1 month ago

do you mind men participating as long as they don't center the space on themselves, or do you not want them to participate at all?

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 13 points 1 month ago

Thanks for asking, it's really decent of you. For now it's women only (although I really value positive men like you)

[-] Blaze@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 month ago

Good luck with this community, it looks really promising!

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 1 month ago

Thanks Blaze! Love supportive men ❤️

[-] Jean_le_Flambeur@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 1 month ago

Does this extend to reading/joining the community without posting liking etc. As well or is reading okay?

I know one can't really enforce this but I would like to respect it if you say men shouldnt be here and read.

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 8 points 1 month ago

I'm honestly blown away by you asking, it's really respectful. You're welcome to read, only if women did ask for it to be more locked down, that might change. But liking and reading is fine 🙂

[-] fracture@beehaw.org 5 points 1 month ago

of course, thank you for the kind answer 😁 hope to see things take off here

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 1 month ago

Thanks mate... feel free to spread the word!

[-] dandelion 4 points 1 month ago

I wonder if an /r/AskWomen type community would work for a place for men who wish to participate?

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 1 month ago

It's definitely worth a go... if it doesn't work out it doesn't really matter. Do you know anyone that would set one up?

[-] Didros@beehaw.org 6 points 1 month ago

... pointlessly gendered?

[-] Strawberry 25 points 1 month ago

Gender is literally the point

[-] pebbles@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 weeks ago

I am a guy and saw a general question about what tea folks recommend. I love tea and dont think my gender would get in the way of that discussion, but I understand that this is supposed to be a community with just women.

Do you recommend I stay out of discussions like that? There really isn't anyone talking about tea on Lemmy and I yearn for it.

No worries either way.

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 6 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Hi Pebbles thanks so much for your honesty! It's really appreciated. We are women only so you can't participate. I'd suggest starting a thread on tea in !casualconversation@lemm.ee or !ask@lemm.ee you'll get lots of replies there.

[-] pebbles@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 weeks ago

Got ya thanks!

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 3 weeks ago

Np have a good weekend

[-] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago

You can come to !dull_mens_club@lemmy.world or !dullsters@dullsters.net where i have personally made a post about tea.

[-] pebbles@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

Thanks I joined!

[-] laurenproctor@lemm.ee 3 points 1 week ago

Love this. Looking forward to getting to know you all.

[-] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 1 week ago

Hey Lauren we're so glad you found us! Looking forward to getting to know you too

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