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Not once but twice this month I've felt particularly my(nb)self to the point of sending my best friend a selfies captioned something like 'feeling gender today'. Only to then have multiple strangers refer to me by my assigned gender during the day. I feel hopeless and like I'll never get to my goal: people not being able to tell what I am/feeling like they have to ask how to refer to me. Like if it were just my voice I'd understand, but it was just my look.
Enby here too, and holy shit is that a mood.
I'm almost 8 months into my transition and I feel like I've hit a wall in terms of my public perception. I get the occasional confused glance but it's always "Sir" when it comes to honorifics.
I mean, I get it. One doesn't normally expect an amab enby with AA-cups to want to keep its villainously-curled moustache. But that's always been an effeminate affectation to me and I get compliments on it almost every time I leave the house. I don't want to have to shave it off and pay for electrolysis just to be seen. >_<
For what it's worth your presentation sounds awesome to me and curled moustaches have always had a somewhat gender ambiguous or nb vibe to me. Like they're beards which read masc but they're curled which reads fem to me.
Well, hecc. I guess I've been talking it up around here for long enough I might as well post it~
I am so glad I got to see this gorgeous mustache!
Do you have to reapply hair wax or something through the day?
Not usually! Any sort of high-hold product can manage it, but the trick is in the application technique. Contrary to the popular image of the moustache-twirling villain, twisting messes up the alignment. You've gotta spike it out straight and then bend it for the curve. 🤓
That is a mighty well behaved 'Stache you have there! My beard/stache resembles Davy Jones from pirates of the Caribbean; unruly groups of curls/coils resembling tentacles. And in literally every color in the rainbow (I combed through it in the shower this morning and snagged a single pure white hair).
Why, thank you, and that sounds like an awesome beard!
Beautiful. Majestic. Delicate. The mustache does not disappoint.
Thank you!
12/10 thank you for sharing 🥹
It's my pleasure! 😄
I hope that someday you will grace us all with a picture of the legendary villainously-curled mustache
That someday is today~
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Ugh, that sucks. I feel like there is extra difficulty because I feel a lot of people would try and take a "best guess" of pronouns for enbies instead of out right asking preferences in order to "polite"
Would you say that is something you have experienced?
Ugh yeah. I only get asked about pronouns in leftist spaces where everyone gets asked (which is good don't get me wrong). I wouldn't even mind if people went with their best guess if they don't know any better if it wasn't always my AGAB