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[-] people_are_cute@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 2 years ago

Probably a normal thing in the US, where families are so broken by default a simple call from a parent sounds like a disaster.

[-] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 11 points 2 years ago

Why use a communication mode that demands an immediate response if you don't actually need one?

[-] Querk@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 2 years ago

Same reason people at home just come up to each other and start talking (which actually requires immediate response) even when the topic is non-urgent whatsoever, instead of leaving notes around the house.

It's all based on differing conventions among people, so saying a call "demands immediate response" is putting your convention above others as the only true one.

In my family the convention is a bit different. A single call does not signal any urgency and so no one is expected nor obliged to answer if they don't feel like it. A second call after the first one wasn't answered implies importance. Third and more calls imply urgency and then emergency. If something is important or urgent and calls aren't getting answered, a message is sent.

I like my convention. I also have slightly different conventions with some friends. I am also aware different people may have different conventions and I don't hold mine to be superior or theirs inferior.

[-] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 years ago

I agree your convention would supercede the one I'm taking about. I kinda like it too.

I think conversation is different though since there is a major effort imbalance between writing a note and taking. But there is no effort imbalance in texting or calling, especially since you can voice type.

[-] socsa@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

I see the confusion. I don't ever want to have a conversation with anyone.

[-] Cylusthevirus@kbin.social 5 points 2 years ago

Because sometimes it's easier. Sometimes you just want to hear your kid's voice. The horror.

[-] JohnDClay@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 years ago

Text 'can we call? I'd love to talk sometime!'

[-] snooggums@kbin.social 9 points 2 years ago

No, it is not normal thing in the US.

[-] MuhammadJesusGaySex@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago

Broken? What are you talking about? My dad started leaving me home alone for weeks at a time at age 12. By age 16 it was months at a time, and my house became the place where other kids came to hang out. I graduated college, or University. Then became a heroin addict. My family stopped talking to me because of this thing called “tough love”. Now, I’m all better and have my own family with kids and a partner, but my dad and sister wonder why I won’t let them be a part of it (my mom died when I was 8).

You know regular all American family. Nothing weird, or dysfunctional here. Definitely not broken.

[-] charonn0@startrek.website 6 points 2 years ago
[-] people_are_cute@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 2 years ago
[-] Cylusthevirus@kbin.social 4 points 2 years ago

Yes, feed my blocklist. It grows corpulent with your bloated corpses.

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