[-] fracture 2 points 4 days ago

did we forget about duskblood already?

[-] fracture 3 points 6 days ago

so is this proof that men will get horny over anything, or that men can get horny for more than a woman's body? 🤔

[-] fracture 14 points 1 month ago

bisexuality isn't inherently transphobic!

not saying you're necessarily implying that, but it's a general stereotype which, while it can be true on an individual level, certainly isn't when taken as a whole

here's the bisexual manifesto, also, since it goes hard: https://bitheway.carrd.co/#manifesto

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[-] fracture 12 points 2 months ago

i'd like to see more than "i don't know if it holds water", especially since you don't couch it nearly as well in your previous post bringing it up

a thesis is on the onus of who brings it up to substantiate it; if you can't defend it, i would question the wisdom of bringing it up in an already contentious conversation

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submitted 2 months ago by fracture to c/casualconversation@piefed.social

wasn't sure where else to put this, since, while chronic, this definitely doesn't qualify for /c/chronicillness LOL (idk how to link communities sorry)

(post tone: lightly frustrated, somewhat comedic description of problems and viewpoints; i swear a lot in my normal speech, but i'm not pissed or anything)

i've been dealing with nasal/sinus issues for over a decade: i've had a couple surgeries for it, i'm currently doing braces, which is fixing the underbite situation and helps with nasal drainage, and i'm on a good amount of allergy meds to mitigate the situation

the doc i had ten years ago and the doc i just saw today told me the same thing: rinse my nose with saline twice a day

now, if i was willing to do that, i wouldn't be seeing a doctor. i know that i can simply waterboard myself persistently enough and the problem will go away

my issue is that i need to flush my sinuses at all to be a functional person (thankfully, on the current routine, it's maybe a few times a week, vs twice a day)

i should have talked about this in more detail with the doc, and i'll see him again after some allergy testing and talk about it more then (i needed a minute to compose myself đź’€); but i mostly wanted to get a survey of other folks with these issues: do y'all just fuckin live with rinsing your nose out twice a day?? i been doing it for a decade, i know how to do it correctly, i just HATE DOING IT, i cannot imagine doing it 2x a day willingly

(if you're wondering what part of the process i hate, it's all of it; having to bank distilled water, dealing with either cold water in your congested nose (shitty) or having to heat up the water to the right temp to be warm but also not burn the shit out of your nasal passages (pain in the ass), and then having to clean a shitload of salt water out of your face because why the fuck would it drain out cleanly)

[-] fracture 10 points 3 months ago

i have nothing to add but i like the idea and enjoyed reading the post

[-] fracture 9 points 4 months ago

so uh, generally, as transgender people and allies, we use one's respect of a transgender person's gender as a gauge of how valid they perceive the self identification of gender

and this includes trans people who have done shitty things, committed crimes, or, as in your case, been abusive

we use this as a gauge because it reflects how much the viewer believes that respect of gender identity is a right vs a privilege. if a trans person commits a crime or wrongs you, and you decide misgendering that person is OK, then it would seem you think treating trans people as their gender is revocable i.e. a privilege, not a right

it's not so much "hurting our feelings" as, indicating to us, that trans rights are not important to you, or that the transgender identity is only worth respecting if you're a "good person", or whatever you judge is such

now, i will say, it's completely understandable that the woman you're talking about has trouble gendering her abuser correctly, for many reasons you have pointed out, and i think it would have been good for her to have been met with more compassion, since this can be a difficult thing even for people coming from less abusive circumstances

however, i would also note that you are misgendering her abuser, and you have no such defense, so why do you feel like it's alright to misgender someone because they're an abuser? you say you're a staunch defender of LGBTQ rights, but for the reasons i explained above, those actions are not reflective of that ideal

defending this abused woman, in this case, makes a lot of sense. but you have no defense for misgendering her abuser, you were not the one abused, so why are you doing it?

obviously, we can't control your language. however, free speech is not a guaranteed right, here in this community, and honestly, i would advocate for you to be banned here, too, since it really seems like you care more about your ability to misgender someone because you think they're bad, rather than recognize that trans people can do bad things, and we can still condemn that (and honestly, insult them and call them bastards or whatever), without having to resort to misgendering them and furthering the normalization of delegitimizing trans people

[-] fracture 11 points 4 months ago

i long to see the woke sky...

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submitted 5 months ago by fracture to c/ftm

got my consult for FMS recently and i was told something interesting: apparently, if i hadn't used braces to straighten my bite, we could have done surgery to bring the jaw forward (and improve my jaw/chin), instead of doing an implant (which i will now have to do)

kind of hit me like a "how the fuck was i supposed to know", but maybe this advice will come in handy for one of y'all

[-] fracture 10 points 5 months ago

Astonishingly, the ruling specifies that what it calls “women living in the male gender”—i.e., trans men, and cis women whose appearance is deemed masculine—“could also be excluded” alongside cis men, from women’s spaces. “Not being allowed into the mens by rule does not mean you have the right to go into the ladies,” clarified the leading anti-trans campaigner Maya Forstater; “That may seem unfair, but these are life choices people make. If you make extreme efforts to look like a man don’t be surprised if you are denied entrance to ladies.” Forstater’s comments underscore the ultimate goal of TERFs and other transphobes: to expunge trans people from public life.

that's crazy they really secured the right to kick ANYONE out of a "woman's space" and said "it's not my problem if you can't go anywhere". so much for not being transphobic, they won't even give us "separate but equal"

[-] fracture 11 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

mississippi is fuuuuuuucked (up):

Mississippians as young as 17 years old (for boys) and 15 years old (for girls) may get married. They may have a child and choose a name for that child. But the courts denied the name change request of SBM, a trans man with the full support of his parents in his transition, because they found 18 years old is not an adequate age to ensure “maturity” and warrant such a “life-altering” decision.

Unlike most states, Mississippi’s “age of majority,” or the age where the state recognizes someone as an adult, is 21, not 18. This means Mississippians under 21 years old cannot enter legally binding contracts in many instances, without parental sign-off.

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In addition, it threatens to thrust Mississippians of all backgrounds into the epicenter of a constitutional crisis. The ruling and its rollout could call the 26th Amendment into question, which lowered the voting age to 18 after the mass conscription of young people during the Vietnam War. It also tests the Full Faith and Credit Clause, which requires states to respect the records-keeping of other states (such as name changes and marriage licenses); Mississippians’ 14th Amendment right to due process; and an individual’s First Amendment rights.

they didn't just override the trans boy but also his parents LMAO this is so fucked up

[-] fracture 16 points 5 months ago

reminder that trans women are women and attraction to them (if you're a man) is straight

(i'm aware of the rest of your post but felt like this was a good thing to bring up)

[-] fracture 11 points 6 months ago

was this not the state where two trans representatives flipped the anti trans bill? or was that somewhere else i'm forgetting?

[-] fracture 11 points 8 months ago

really fucked that the principle called the daughter's personal cell phone about a personal instagram post at 10pm, this dude is a fucking creep

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