i don't think i reinvented the wheel, but if there was a better way to implement authoring frome data with hitboxes, i would love to hear it

https://bsky.app/profile/thegrainreaper.bsky.social/post/3mmagpyhmls2q

feeling pretty good about my 12/25 among these comments (if you swap "as a woman" for "as a trans man")

ladies. 😏

okay, sure, but i am a trans person and i have independently concluded that i don't think it's cool. sure "it's only deadnaming if you think it's literally is the thing we're calling it", but the human brain doesn't work like that; if someone has a strong enough response to it (e.g. they suffered trauma from being deadnamed), then they're going to have that response before they go "oh actually they don't mean it because it's directed at a corp". i don't think "dunking on elon musk, who has plenty of other shit to dunk on" is really worth doing that to somebody

(idk why you keep bringing up he didn't build anything? i know? you don't need to use the word "deadname" to make that point?)

and i'm too lazy to check every room i'm in and be like, "hey, is casually pretending like we're doing this evil shitty thing (that's actually justified bc we're dunking on a shithead!!) going to be a trigger for you?" (which, honestly, would still be better than just assuming it's fine)

(if it's not clear, my issue is more with people who literally use the phrase "i'm going to deadname twitter" or "the only time it's OK to deadname something is twitter" or whatever)

it's like... look, there's a reason we put actual deadnaming content behind a content warning. i'm basically treating it the same way, because even if it is not the literal act of deadnaming a real person, it's still pretending that something traumatic and evil is a cool and normal thing to do, which i do not fuck with, even in jest

i'm not equating the two, i just don't think it's worth triggering trans people who have actually been hurt by deadnaming, just to flex on a faceless piece of shit corporation that does not care and is not hurt by it

(to be clear, this is more about using the literal phrase "i will deadname twitter" than calling x "twitter" itself; for that, see my second point)

i feel like we're in agreement, except for the conclusion we arrived at about it

i just don't like it when people act like saying (literally) "i will deadname twitter" will hurt twitter more than the trans people who might have actually been deadnamed. i think it's a waste to trigger them to act like calling x "twitter" is a slur or smth

i appreciate the joking answers a lot, but i figured someone should probably mention that the words people use to identify their parts can vary, similarly to pronouns, so it's good practice to have at least a brief discussion about it before engaging in intimate activity

in short, the best words to use (for your partner's bits) are the ones your partner prefers

going to get on my soapbox about X for a moment for two things

1. people who say "twitter is the only time i'll deadname something", like it's a statement that fucking matters at anyone at all, when i don't want deadnaming to EVER be something we're treating as OK

2. calling X "twitter" is just cope for people who can't move off the fucking app and want to pretend like musk didn't successfully take it over, ruin it, and turn it into a nazi child porn site. call it the shit garbage app that it is, the thing you liked called "twitter" is dead

not directed at anyone in particular or you, OP, just wanted to get this off my chest

i genuinely do not "intuitively understand" this idea. there's nothing contradictory about being a hoe and a housewife

can you like, explain this? i really don't understand how having multiple sexual relationships, specifically, diminishes one's ability to have emotionally fulfilling relationships. if anything, i might be inclined to think they would have more emotionally fulfilling relationships 💀

i think the way you're describing the process as "screwing around, forming and cutting off attachments" really shows that you think of it in a very black and white sort of way. one can have casual / fwb sex with their friends, and still have a friend relationship with that person. one can even have one-off sex with an acquaintance or stranger, and even if you never meet again, it doesn't really make it a "cut off" relationship; if you met again, it would be pleasant, circumstances just may not arrange it

just because it's a more emotionally involved process for you or some people you've encountered, doesn't make it a universal truth

this is a good general rule of thumb, but i've definitely heard of folks exploring traumatic things through BDSM or other specific sex acts. as long as you're both aware of what's going on, and you plan adequate safe words and aftercare, i think it's something you can explore relatively safely

safe, sane, and consentual doesn't just apply to play which is physically risky, after all

i think your post might be better summarized as "don't solve a problem that's not about sex, with sex"

that there are places one can go and find people who are chill with just casually having sex, but you can develop more of a relationship with than just a silent "ok we gonna fuck" kind of thing (finally recently finding my way into "the lifestyle")

this post is why people say there's a misogyny problem here