i get the point, but both of the posts there are things that are not only believably true, but i do believe them to some extent, and am only disappointed that they're fake headlines

Firstly we'd say to let go of the ideas you've been taught about what sex is or can be and don't stress about it too much

yea i would say i have a good grasp on this, in practice. but i guess, while i'm sitting here thinking about it, there's just not much that appeals to me (in the absence of a person i actively am involved with)

like, i am good at doing all the communicate and body exploration and stuff. i don't have a problem getting them off or not getting them off or w/e (i'll make sure they have a good time, yk) - but when i think about what i wanna get out of it, i'm like... well i'd LIKE to just plow em and enjoy myself, but... i can't, not as i am right now

maybe it's just dysphoria 💀

anyways, sex with other people just doesn't sound that fulfilling, for me, so i haven't had any motivation to seek it out, even though theoretically i'm pretty sex positive and enjoy it a lot (i LIKE pleasuring other people but i ALSO. want to get off)

i was kind of hoping that someone would have an idea to mitigate that, idk, maybe i just go fuck someone with my small ass dick regardless

i'd be happy to use a vibe on a partner but i'm really not a vibe guy myself

i don't mind doing oral but i wouldn't want to be taking anything in either of my downstairs holes, no, altho yea some folks are fine with one or the other

generally, i like being the more active partner

i have nothing to add but i like the idea and enjoyed reading the post

so uh, generally, as transgender people and allies, we use one's respect of a transgender person's gender as a gauge of how valid they perceive the self identification of gender

and this includes trans people who have done shitty things, committed crimes, or, as in your case, been abusive

we use this as a gauge because it reflects how much the viewer believes that respect of gender identity is a right vs a privilege. if a trans person commits a crime or wrongs you, and you decide misgendering that person is OK, then it would seem you think treating trans people as their gender is revocable i.e. a privilege, not a right

it's not so much "hurting our feelings" as, indicating to us, that trans rights are not important to you, or that the transgender identity is only worth respecting if you're a "good person", or whatever you judge is such

now, i will say, it's completely understandable that the woman you're talking about has trouble gendering her abuser correctly, for many reasons you have pointed out, and i think it would have been good for her to have been met with more compassion, since this can be a difficult thing even for people coming from less abusive circumstances

however, i would also note that you are misgendering her abuser, and you have no such defense, so why do you feel like it's alright to misgender someone because they're an abuser? you say you're a staunch defender of LGBTQ rights, but for the reasons i explained above, those actions are not reflective of that ideal

defending this abused woman, in this case, makes a lot of sense. but you have no defense for misgendering her abuser, you were not the one abused, so why are you doing it?

obviously, we can't control your language. however, free speech is not a guaranteed right, here in this community, and honestly, i would advocate for you to be banned here, too, since it really seems like you care more about your ability to misgender someone because you think they're bad, rather than recognize that trans people can do bad things, and we can still condemn that (and honestly, insult them and call them bastards or whatever), without having to resort to misgendering them and furthering the normalization of delegitimizing trans people

i long to see the woke sky...

Astonishingly, the ruling specifies that what it calls “women living in the male gender”—i.e., trans men, and cis women whose appearance is deemed masculine—“could also be excluded” alongside cis men, from women’s spaces. “Not being allowed into the mens by rule does not mean you have the right to go into the ladies,” clarified the leading anti-trans campaigner Maya Forstater; “That may seem unfair, but these are life choices people make. If you make extreme efforts to look like a man don’t be surprised if you are denied entrance to ladies.” Forstater’s comments underscore the ultimate goal of TERFs and other transphobes: to expunge trans people from public life.

that's crazy they really secured the right to kick ANYONE out of a "woman's space" and said "it's not my problem if you can't go anywhere". so much for not being transphobic, they won't even give us "separate but equal"

mississippi is fuuuuuuucked (up):

Mississippians as young as 17 years old (for boys) and 15 years old (for girls) may get married. They may have a child and choose a name for that child. But the courts denied the name change request of SBM, a trans man with the full support of his parents in his transition, because they found 18 years old is not an adequate age to ensure “maturity” and warrant such a “life-altering” decision.

Unlike most states, Mississippi’s “age of majority,” or the age where the state recognizes someone as an adult, is 21, not 18. This means Mississippians under 21 years old cannot enter legally binding contracts in many instances, without parental sign-off.

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In addition, it threatens to thrust Mississippians of all backgrounds into the epicenter of a constitutional crisis. The ruling and its rollout could call the 26th Amendment into question, which lowered the voting age to 18 after the mass conscription of young people during the Vietnam War. It also tests the Full Faith and Credit Clause, which requires states to respect the records-keeping of other states (such as name changes and marriage licenses); Mississippians’ 14th Amendment right to due process; and an individual’s First Amendment rights.

they didn't just override the trans boy but also his parents LMAO this is so fucked up

reminder that trans women are women and attraction to them (if you're a man) is straight

(i'm aware of the rest of your post but felt like this was a good thing to bring up)

was this not the state where two trans representatives flipped the anti trans bill? or was that somewhere else i'm forgetting?

yeah idk, i'm not a huge fan of it, even as a pretty cis passing trans guy, but i suppose i'm not really the target of the meme either (i don't really meet the strict criteria of "straightest guy you've ever seen")

really fucked that the principle called the daughter's personal cell phone about a personal instagram post at 10pm, this dude is a fucking creep