The only way to stop imaginary sexual assaults in bathrooms is to sexually assault every person who doesn't meet our subjective and arbitrary gender expectations.
I, a cis woman, literally have been assaulted when trying to use a public bathroom because a TERF who had been handing out leaflets outside (it was a city centre public restroom) had decided that I must be trans, and thus my (rather large) boobs must be fake.
It's part of why I think it's so important for cis women to leverage the privilege we have in this context to speak out against transphobia. Experiences like mine underscore the fact that their rhetoric "we care about protecting [cisgender] women" is blatantly bullshit — all they care about is hurting trans women.
(Though it's also important to avoid coming across like I'm saying "transphobia is a problem now that it's affecting me, a cis woman!". If things were framed that way, then I would be reinforcing the transphobia that I seek to oppose. But figuring out how to be clear about your intention is just a part of learning how to effectively leverage one's privilege. I find that I'm most able to be clear when I use my experiences as part of a larger point about how feminism needs intersectional solidarity to be effective)
But yeah, I am legit scared of using public restrooms as a result of bad experiences. I remember when I first had a panic attack about this, following this bad experience (and a few other ones that were less bad, but still upsetting), and I was like "oh damn, do I have some capital-T Trauma about this?")
I hope you punched her
and if you didn't, i hope another victim punched her
actually i hope another did regardless of whether you did
You know how they solved school shootings by making every student use those transparant backbacks? We can use the same material to make pants!
Every accusation a confession.
Hide your genitals
Damn, that's good. Saving it.
Haha I love these strips so much
I wanna know the number of terfs that have multiple bathrooms at home because this shit is dumb as fuck.
I never understood it. You go in and lock the stall door, no one sees your genitals.
I guess in the men's restroom there are urinals, but you're not going to see anyone's dick unless you try to
Urinals are optional, anyway. Nobody knows what you're doing in a stall.
That's why I commit tax fraud in the bathroom
That's just committing crime in the privacy of your own home with extra steps!
I find way more worrying that a random fanatic woman goes around asking to see girl and woman genitals than the idea of sharing a bathroom with another person who happens to pee from a "non-default" pee hole.
But I guess I'm a weirdo so it must be me.
Some people do weird things when they get a little power over others and are not actually that committed to the cause.
Reminds me of the controversy at the BAFTA. Everyone outraged that the guy the movie was about (I Swear, about Tourette) did a really Tourette thing, and lots of those complaining where from the social justice persuasion.
Especially with all the women they've recently named complicit on the Epstein list.
Women can be pedophiles and sexual abusers too. Especially when it comes to preying on someone younger and weaker than they are, like little girls. Sexual abuse is about power.
I hope, humans will invent unisex toilets in near future
There have been a lot popping up all over. Even my hometown in the south had a college with coed bathrooms.
I came out of the stall to a very masc presenting person at the sink and was confused. Then noticed the urinals in the corner, and when i left i noticed the "unisex" next to the rstroom sign. Very cool imo.
Remember kids, its illegal to be a creep in public bathrooms no matter what your gender is. The sign on the door wont stop a bad actor and most people just have to pee.
I was once harassed by a male security guard while using a single occupancy porta potty. We need to stop making excuses for bigots.
Our apartment is very progressive so all its bathrooms are gender neutral.
our bathrooms have assigned seating
Not to brag, but I have these in my house.
Those are a thing and are really popular in NYC. It’s just a line of individual private restroom with sinks in the hall :P (Ps: If that was sarcasm were too autistic to tell sorry)
Your genitaliaaaaa~
Knock knock. Who's there?
It's me.
Wondering why you're not naked.
Knock knock. Who's there?
Me again!
Still wondering why you're not naked.
Show me your genitals.
Your genitals.
Show me your genitals.
Genitalia!
I had a friend that was SO concerned about who was using what bathroom. He's not a transphobe and has a transgender friend.
He just got really worked up about it and kept questioning me about it. Which makes me always respond with: "I'm a progressive". He was like, "why do I get hate if I just say there's two genders", I said "it's 'cause you're wrong, ignoring the definition of gender, you know there are intersex people right?" ... and we get stuck into this loop where he doesn't really understand what I'm saying and gets into why he deserves any hate for saying there's only two genders. No talk about sex vs gender or anything else makes any movement forward. Even if you think there's only two genders, I don't know why it's such a big deal to them.
I hate to break it to you... but your friend is a transphobe. Prejudice doesn't always come with violence and slurs.
Is someone who believes there are only two genders, and that's it's perfectly valid to transition between the two, a transphobe?
They are certainly wrong, but I feel like that's an incorrect classification at that point.
A book that I really appreciated was "Racism without racists". It looks at the question of why racism is so prevalent when there aren't many people who consider themselves to be racist? And one answer to that is that many people who aren't actively racist (or at least, don't consider themselves to be, and may not be considered racist by other people) often still unintentionally perpetuate systemic racism, precisely because of the widely held notion that racism happens because of racist people. It's more complicated than that. (This is why it's not enough to be non-racist, we must strive to be anti-racist if we want to combat systemic racism).
In a similar vein, I would say that the hypothetical person you're asking about would be perpetuating transphobia, but I don't necessarily know if I'd call them transphobic — mostly because I think "transphobic" is not a particularly useful term in this context. People tend to become defensive when they are called transphobic/racist, and that can make it harder to convert people from being non-[racist/transphobic] into anti-[racist/transphobic].
I think it's probably better to move to a model of thinking of harms like racism and transphobia as things that you do, rather than things that you are. For instance, although I would consider myself to be both anti-racist and anti-transphobic, there are still times where I think or do things that are racist or transphobic (in the sense of contributing to systemic racism or transphobia). However, the reason why I consider myself anti-racist and anti-transphobic is precisely because I work to hold myself accountable for these things, and to understand my part in the wider systemic oppression (and how I can undermine said oppression).
The transphobia example really sticks out to me, because as someone who is cisgender and bisexual, I always considered myself a trans ally, but it was in a nebulous, ineffectual way that is a big part of why "ally" has some negative connotations these days. I was anxious about doing or saying something wrong, and that meant that considering myself an ally was mostly of benefit to my own sense of being a good person. I knew trans people, but I wasn't super close to any of them.
However, when my long term partner came out to me as trans, that catalysed me learning a heckton in order to support her, which made me realise how useless my "allyship" had been previously. I don't know if I would consider that earlier version of me to be transphobic, but certainly I was unintentionally perpetuating systemic transphobia far more than I do now.
We fucking hate people who constantly try and transvestigate and we also hate those who are co-operative with them because trans people going to the bathroom makes them “uncomfortable” MF WE JUST GOTTA SHIT! WE DONT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT YOU cUZ IM SHITSINNNGGG 💩🚽💥
Genuine question: What do TERFs tend to say about surgery-created genitals?
Not real genitals, mutilation, what's to be expected for bigots who will never see any trans person as valid
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