Hello, I recently just created an Agender community on Lemmy, I'm posting here to hopefully try and promote this community in case there are any Agender people or people curious about Agender who would be interested in checking out this community.

~~The Agender community is at !agender@reddthat.com if you want to check it out, the community is also included as a lemmyverse link in the post.~~

Agender has moved to lemmy.blahaj.zone, find it here !agender@lemmy.blahaj.zone

If this type of promotion isn't okay please let me know and I won't do it again

Hi, shower thought time. Are we wiggly? Do we have an official wiggle, or wiggle style? I like to wiggles enbily, to demonstrate but Idunno if any-enby-critter else wiggles at all, let alone whether we've got a traditional/official/typical style of wiggle 🤔 Also, same question but for everything else. Share your favourite wiggles! Discuss the traditional enby wiggles, trans wiggles, weird wigglycritter wiggles... I'll even accept wriggles as well :3 Maybe wobbles too. Case-by-case, that one.

Late warning: this post is entirely 100% goofness :P

Firstly, buuuuump! hehehehehehehe

Secondly, so, my trip to enbyness has taken a bit of a circuitous route, right? It took ages to realize that, hey, y'know... maybe I don't have to be a guy. I can be a girl! Yaaay! Finally free! So I hatched and be'd a girl for a while (... where did the past decade go, please help me get it back). Well, I kindof always expected I'd end up creeping enby-ward at least a bit but recentlish I got to having some feels and it's been getting to the point where I'm occasionally getting bits of a second dose of that hatchy euphoria. Turns out, I can wear through the gender hangups and start to just be me, right? So, double-yay! Kinda feels like I'm cheating, honestly 😅 Most people only get to hatch zero times, and even lucky trans-critters mostly only get to hatch once. So here I am, delightedly double-dipping discovery, digging into my 'dentity and hoping maybe somecritter around here has a story to share :3 That or I'm just yapping into the void. Even still, maybe I can fan the lingering enbers (harharhar, see what I did there? :D ) of this community!

Also any neat tricks for finding/committing to names/colour schemes/avatars would be nice :3 Actually I should probably just have another poke at making an avatar and just go for it but eep >.<; Triple-eep at making a top-level post 🙀

cross-posted from: https://sopuli.xyz/post/6893472

cross-posted from: https://sopuli.xyz/post/6893359

https://caiquirk.com

My wonderful partner Cai Quirk recently released a new book on themes of finding unique personal narratives for queer people.

In a world that doesn't have many stories for gender-nonconforming individuals to help find themselves, I think their work has potential to help many.

Cai's photography and writing delves deep into our collective connection with nature to pull out new stories from the ever-generative wellspring of life that is all around us.

I adore them and am so proud of this accomplishment, and would ask for you to please support them by purchasing a copy of their book if their work speaks to you!

I hope my enby peeps can help me out here.

I am very interested in exploring a more feminine expression, but my starting point is masc-af physically, so anything too feminine too quick is going to have a very hard contrast and I'm definitely more of an "I don't want to stick out much" kind of person.

Any ideas that may be more androgynous, but not attention grabbing that I can try out? I am not good at picking outfits anyway, so I need all the help I can get.

Like beard and full body hair, so obviously lower cut stuff could be very dysmophic atm.

Maybe something that just feelsmore feminine but may not look it so much. You know? Does this make sense?

Does anyone else feel like binding just makes you more dysphoric? Binding makes me more conscious of my chest, which generates more of the bad thoughts... am I approaching binding wrong?

its my first day on lemmy, this is a truly enby moment

23 year old AMAB. All my life, I've considered myself cisgender, but recently, I've begun questioning that. I'll sometimes see posts like "if a potion/pill/button existed that could turn you into the opposite sex, would you use it?" and think to myself "Yeah, I'd be down to at least try that." I know that doesn't automatically make me trans, but it does make me question.

At the same time, however, I get a lot of euphoria from presenting as a man. When I start questioning my gender, I'll look in the mirror, or at pictures of myself, and think "I look good with this masculine hairstyle", "I like getting dressed up in a suit and tie", or "I want to try growing a beard". And the idea of being a father someday does bring me a lot of joy.

I've done a bit of research already, and based on my experience, I think I've narrowed my possible identities down to two options.

• Cisgender male who is just curious about the female experience
• Demiboy with a secondary identity of female

The thing is that I'm not sure where to go from here. This isn't exactly a problem, since I feel no dysphoria when presenting as a male, so am comfortable living as cis in the meantime. But I would like to figure this out at some point, ideally sooner than later. Do any of you have any suggestions?

Side note: I'm currently living with my parents, and while they're generally nice people, they hold some pretty transphobic views. I do expect to move out sooner than later, but anything that would require a totally safe physical space might have to wait.

It seems to me that anything short of high fem (which isn't really my thing) is interpreted as "man" on me since I'm amab. Does anybody have some suggestions of hairstyles, clothes, accessories, etc that hit that sweet spot in between? I really want to give off queer tomboy energy, but the mirror is disappointing. :/

Title. I go about my day-to-day life as a man still even though I don't entirely feel that way. But then again, how do I feel? It's weird, I really strongly identify with the nb flag; it makes me super happy when I look at it. I want to be like other enbies but it's hard to do so because I feel so stuck in the way I present myself now. I would feel super stupid making a change to myself, you know?

Anyways, I guess I just wanted to use the opportunity of this new site by asking you all for advice. Have you been in this situation before? What should I do? Thanks, love you all. <3

koi

We love representation in this house! Can't truthfully say I've watched all of these series in full, but I still love my little non-binary critters to death, they make me so happy :)

I gutted an old CRTV, replaced the screen with tinted 1-way glass, filled it with foam and a hard hat to be comfy, and spray-painted tf out of it

but maybe the real treasure was the gender we met along the way