I don't have this relationship with porn but have been addicted to other things. I have found some success in this method:

I tell myself "ok, I can do bad habit in three hours, and I promise myself I won't feel bad if I do." and then in three hours, if I can, I just tell myself the same thing over again, and put it off for three more hours. If I buckle, I don't kick the shit out of myself, and I've found that I can make it a whole day if I bargain with myself based on time. If I'm going to do bad habit in three hours, I can think about other things until the three hours is up. And no matter what, setting a small goal (just three measly hours, what's that to me if I can do bad habit as much as I want when it's done?) and accomplishing it gives me a different form of reward.

Idk, it doesn't always work, but when I was trying to fast for health/personal care it really helped me not eat until my "shift" was up.

It doesn't have to be three hours, it could be 30 minutes, or "when I'm done doing other activity" or something similar. Small goals that are possible to attain.

As a 38yr old artist person, I would like to thank you for reminding me of my own father letting me draw all over his arms when I was much younger. I can't speak for your kids, but I remember my gratitude at the time (which I would recognize later) that my dad was letting me do something otherwise not ok for the sake of silliness and love.

Not to get all serious about it. But I hope you do cherish this, in the off chance your kids remember the love!

Edit: "in the off chance" I meant as "I don't know what kids are into these days I feel old!!"

Definitely not gender-restricted. I think every guy I've ever dated has poked/shaken/bothered me awake just to ask in a loud whisper "pssst hey are you sleeping??" and when I'd say yes, I was sleeping, they'd be like "okay you should probably keep sleeping" or something like that.

One guy would find that I wasn't in bed anymore (he snored) and then come to the couch, poke me to ask if I was sleeping on the couch, and then ultimately climb into the couch with me to then snore some more!

Looking back it is very endearing, but I've never considered hurting someone I love as much as I did in those instances.

I worked with someone who did this. It was the HR person. She just didn't show up one day, didn't answer her phone or door. For a solid week. After a wellness check by the police, it was revealed that she was fine, just couldn't go back in to work because she hated her job so much.

I was young, and it was a shitty grocery chain filled with shitty management and shitty customers. I 100% thought she had killed herself, or skipped town for some other awful reason. It was a relief to hear she was OK. Fuck that store.

Thank you, kind stranger!

OH LOOK A ~~ONE~~ TWO DAY OLD ACCOUNT

Thank you to the men in the comments who react like humans with empathy!

But god damn there are a lot of people on this thread that are taking this VERY personally.

1. Nobody is denying that men in our society deserve to be respected, nobody is saying IF YOU'RE A MAN FUCK YOU ID RATHER BE MAULED, and nobody is saying that women are always right no matter what.

2. Of course the man could be weaker/not a threat. Of course he should be assumed safe. Of course everyone should respect all genders. And, OF COURSE, some women lie about rape! Yes! You do in fact have valid concerns!

HOWEVER, It is really shitty some people commenting decide to take a clear example with obvious intentions and then make it about themselves, and then abuse women in the comments... you are proving the point, and in fact, you are a huge red flag already.

This question already sets the scene, you are alone in the woods: there is a strange man OR you are alone in the woods: there is a strange bear. The man's intentions (AND the bear's intentions) is not clear, we only know that he is there, and he is strange. No need to make up reasons why the guy is OK, minding his business, etc. Because in the situation given, the point of the question was to ask people how they would feel lost in the woods with a man or a bear, with such a small amount of information!

The question is trying to shed light on WHY the women asked said they prefer the bear. Do they think every man -at all- is a threat? Do they think that all men will overpower and harm them"because all men want to use their strength to rape/hurt women" because they are "biologically meant to*?* and, then, where do the fears come from and what can we do to change that? Why assume the worst when everything could be just fine?

I wish people would react more like "this is very depressing, and I understand why women are sometimes afraid of men in situations out of their control" or "I am doing my part to be a safe man ". But ask yourself, "do I know someone that would clearly make a woman feel unsafe to be around?" You might know more than one person like this, and they are why we talk about this in the first place.

The best way I've ever heard to describe this fear women live with is this: "when I approach a bees nest, it is highly unlikely they will attack me, they are usually docile!. That does not mean I won't try to avoid being stung. "

Youthful me, up for anything : shit, I'll have what she's having! Deeply depressed me in the world today : dang, and she wasn't even on drugs..

You know how when you're a teenager, you're told you should "grow up and get a job"? Ever notice how "job" also refers to biblical texts that say at the end of your inevitable suffering, God will be with you, for he is just? Also worth noting: suffering is very close to surfing, i.e. travel via ocean, which is like a boat. Another big boat was the ark, pointing again! to the Bible. Remember when I said "grow up" earlier? That is probably because it is so close to "group", which, with the other noted connotations, ties in with biblical stories = Bible Group. Because all of these messages come together when you are a teen, obviously we are talking about children's Bible study. "Children's" can be shortened to the word "chirruns", aka "trains" so Trains Bible Study would be manufacturers instructions for freight trains, which could *also" mean "fraught trains", because ghosts.

Ok, to get this straight: cops do not need to protect, nor serve, and doctors do not need to save your life. I suppose life guards will get to decide whether or not they will grab a drowning child. Maybe the bathing suit is distasteful? If someone is in the street, I don't have to stop unless I am fully comfortable doing so; I paid for my car and I shouldn't have to risk damaging it by running someone over.

What are regulations even for? God, the government is so useless!

Hard /s

Anyone who earns any portion of income by hanging shit on my doorknob.

Lemmy is your chance to have a discussion without the needless hostility that Reddit et al has. Maybe try saying "I actually find it quite convenient, here's why" etc