[-] FirstMajesticComet 29 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Just to give a disclaimer for people who might comment, it's not okay to tell actual other people that they are an egg to their face or behind their back. When dealing with real people it is mandatory to observe the egg prime directive, and to respect the way they identify. Failure to do so will result in moderative action being taken against your content or your account, including being banned from Egg_irl. Just a reminder for people who may be new here or not understand.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 30 points 9 months ago

Egg Prime Directive, you NEVER try to crack someone else's egg. It is imperative to respect people's gender identities always, that means listening to them, even if they don't conform to traditional gender norms. If a person is taking HRT to look fem but says they're male, then they're male, it's valid. No one has the right to argue that he's semantically a trans woman, because gender identity is ultimately based on how one identifies, not ones actions, choices, or desires.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 40 points 9 months ago

This post is extremely disrespectful to transmascs and gender nonconforming individuals, and just in general gives really awful vibes.

First of all this assumes that a person must be transfem or a woman to want, have, or work to get these things. This is not correct. A person may desire any of these things while identifying as female, male, or even Get this, NonBinary, yeah wild isn't it. That's because presentation and gender identity are separate things altogether.

Which is also the reason why this phrase

-ability to wear adorable clothes

Is flat out wrong, because gender and presentation are not the same. In addition this take is extremely harmful and reinforces gender stereotypes. I know people are starting to think that's not a real thing and that only terfs say that, but reinforcing gender stereotypes is a real thing and it's really disrespectful both to trans and GNC people.

-ditch your angry, masculine mannerisms

This is both hurtful to transmasc people and is just in general extremely misandristic. You should be ashamed of yourself, this hating men thing is grossly reminiscent of TERF rhetoric.

-decimate your fapping addiction

Ignoring the fact that this assumes the viewer even has one in the first place (which many won't) this isn't even really true, because estrogen affects different people's sex drive differently, some may lose that urge, but for others it may be just as strong, some might be even stronger. I have no personal experience (and I don't plan on it) this is mostly gathered from things I've read online and the experiences my trans friends have shared with me, so take that how you will.

-improved mental state

This really depends, is E what this person wants? If so then yes it certainly would, but if they don't it would probably cause the opposite effect. It can lead to an improvement, but only if the person wants it and the affects that come with it, but if they don't want it, then it's not going to be a good experience for them.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 40 points 10 months ago

Not talking back or being snarky but if you feel that way you might seriously want to look into Lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works, they have very bad track records of letting transphobes and bigots run wild, Lemmy.world is the worst, many of the people they've banned for bigotry have been unbanned or were only given temporary bans to begin with, often times they won't even action users who are engaging in transphobia, even if reported. It's really not great.

I used to believe Beehaw was a bit overly strict but honestly I can see they blocked these instances for good reason, especially Lemmy.world.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 37 points 10 months ago

Yeah I agree, this definately does seem like a knee jerk reaction which ultimately does more harm than good.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 52 points 10 months ago

I feel like the way they included stop portions on the masculine side they should've also included a stop portion on the feminine side because femboys are valid too, and aren't just "trans girls in-denial" like is often said about us.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 29 points 11 months ago

All loving, benevolent creator eh?

[-] FirstMajesticComet 29 points 11 months ago

I wasn't even able to find the revision, it seems the person who made the meme just used the editor to make the edit, then took a screenshot of the preview but didn't publish it.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Pretty sure most coins aren't magnetic so the reaction would be much more underwhelming than shown here, the coins on their own though would very likely obstruct your intestines.

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Trans Rights rule (discuss.tchncs.de)
submitted 1 year ago by FirstMajesticComet to c/femboy
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submitted 1 year ago by FirstMajesticComet to c/lgb

So now it's a Redirect to !lgbtq_plus@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by FirstMajesticComet to c/isogender

One thing I get a lot as an Isogender is people who are confused about what it means or who think it's just trans. I'm going to break down what it means, why we are not trans, or cis for that matter, while also addressing some of the arguments brought up about us (these are arguments I and others have recieved on this).


What does it mean to be Isogender?

Isogender is a gender modality which falls outside of the cis and trans umbrellas, it exists as its own thing. Simply put Isogender is neither cis nor trans. You might be wondering how does that work exactly if cis=AGAB and trans≠AGAB? Well it's slightly different for different people but one explanation I've heard is that AGAB is Irrelevant to people who identify as Isogender.

Personally the way that cis and trans are worded or described these days isn't great in my opinion as it seems to try and remove other options outside of the two. It enforces a binary, under those strict definitions one can either be Cis or Trans with no clear path In-between or neither.


"Isogender is 'technically' trans then because it isn't cis, you're just choosing not to Identify as trans"

Nope it isn't, it is neither cis nor trans, the reason is that we identify as neither. It's based on the idea that the way we identify is valid and determines who we are. Arguing technicality when it comes to a person's identity is very invalidating, as if to say they are wrong about how they identify without directly saying they're wrong.


"Isogender doesn't exist, you're in denial about being trans bc Internalized Transphobia"

Umm... No. If it didn't exist it wouldn't have been coined and it wouldn't have multiple Wiki pages about it. People are free to identify how they feel is comfortable, an trying to argue that their identity or reasons for not identifying as trans aren't valid and that they have transphobia isn't respecting their identity, it's attempting to change their mind by telling them that it is bad or wrong to not identify as trans, or to not feel comfortable identifying as trans.


"It's important to identify as trans even if you are Non-Binary to show that transgender is more than transsexual"

Yeah... No, it's important to identify the way that feels comfortable and correct for you. Gender identities are for the person identifying, not anyone else. You should not, nor should you be expected to identify a particular way for someone else. If it feels right to identify as trans then you can, if it doesn't than you don't have to, that's like the whole point of Isogender and other gender modalities, having options outside of the dichotomy.


"Anyone without Gender Dysphoria is just Cis and wants attention"

Transmedicalism will not be tolerated here under Rule 3 and Rule 4, there is no debate here, transmedicalism is a very hostile and harmful form of gatekeeping. People's identities are Valid and should be respected, transmedicalism fights against that, so it should be treated as the form of Bigotry that it is.


Conclusion

While this may not have covered all basis I did get to touch on what Isogender is, as well as some of the misconceptions and also some of the extremely harmful arguments related to it, and hopefully addressed them so we will not see them posted here out of Ignorance.

I will leave this post up in case people would like to add anything else, or engage in constructive criticism but if there is any significant hostility or attacks the comments may be locked.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 31 points 1 year ago

I think we should still consider defederating them, in case they change their mind later and decide to come back and harass us (they've been known to engage in this sort of behavior). Honestly I just heard about this before I came on but I have heard drama from Hexbear in the past and in all honesty even if they do defederate I'm all for mutual defederation.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 40 points 1 year ago

One of them made a post on Egg_irl with Astolfo which seems to be almost saying that they think Femboys and GNC are just trans girls in denial. Really didn't sit well with me since I know that that kind of think is very hurtful to Femboys and has been very hurtful to me as well as an Agender.

[-] FirstMajesticComet 30 points 1 year ago

I used to think they weren't that bad, that they just had some bad users coming there but I just checked back and yeah, they've really gone to shit. Definitely de-federate them, their admin either isn't available to do what he needs to do or doesn't care, we need to protect our communities and our people from the assholes on there.

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submitted 1 year ago by FirstMajesticComet to c/egg_irl

[IMAGE DESCRIPTION] drowning kid + skeleton Meme

In the top panel a mother and her kids are together in a swimming pool. The mother with text "egg_irl" is holding up her daughter with the text "transfems" over her. Meanwhile her son is drowning while she doesn't notice him with the text "transmascs" over him.

In the bottom Panel a skeleton is chained to a chair at the bottom of the ocean with the text "NonBinary/Genderqueer", "Genderfluid", and "Agender" over it. Each label is colored in the colors of their own Flags respectively.

[END OF IMAGE DESCRIPTION]

context: Back on the original egg_irl subreddit it was common for there to be a disproportionate amount of transfem memes versus the others and a lot of them forgot to flair as [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem] when needed and also a few were a bit targeting towards transmascs and masculine enbies i.e.

spoiler"get rid of your toxic, masculine mannerisms"
or
spoiler"transmascs have cute feminine faces"
. Some people even started saying Egg_irl is specifically a women's space and not a trans space in general.

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