I think this is a very important thing to point out, "it's a joke" up until it stops being a joke.
Already said it in !main@lemmy.blahaj.zone but I'll say it again so others can see it here.
It seems drag was banned from the site for sharing people's DMs, though I'm sure that's not the whole story, drag has a history of being banned for way more than just the thing on the label. Looking at the comments on drag's home instance where it hasn't been removed, it seems drag was sharing those DMs in attempt to libel Ada for not taking the action drag wanted. That's on top of the fact that she did not give drag permission to share them. It's an asshole move for sure, and I have to say if I were in Ada's shoes I'd do the same.
How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.
Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don't call people eggs, like ever, it's extremely uncool.
How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.
Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don't call people eggs, like ever, it's extremely uncool.
What’s up with the sink plug thing?
It's a collar.
This post is extremely disrespectful to transmascs and gender nonconforming individuals, and just in general gives really awful vibes.
First of all this assumes that a person must be transfem or a woman to want, have, or work to get these things. This is not correct. A person may desire any of these things while identifying as female, male, or even Get this, NonBinary, yeah wild isn't it. That's because presentation and gender identity are separate things altogether.
Which is also the reason why this phrase
-ability to wear adorable clothes
Is flat out wrong, because gender and presentation are not the same. In addition this take is extremely harmful and reinforces gender stereotypes. I know people are starting to think that's not a real thing and that only terfs say that, but reinforcing gender stereotypes is a real thing and it's really disrespectful both to trans and GNC people.
-ditch your angry, masculine mannerisms
This is both hurtful to transmasc people and is just in general extremely misandristic. You should be ashamed of yourself, this hating men thing is grossly reminiscent of TERF rhetoric.
-decimate your fapping addiction
Ignoring the fact that this assumes the viewer even has one in the first place (which many won't) this isn't even really true, because estrogen affects different people's sex drive differently, some may lose that urge, but for others it may be just as strong, some might be even stronger. I have no personal experience (and I don't plan on it) this is mostly gathered from things I've read online and the experiences my trans friends have shared with me, so take that how you will.
-improved mental state
This really depends, is E what this person wants? If so then yes it certainly would, but if they don't it would probably cause the opposite effect. It can lead to an improvement, but only if the person wants it and the affects that come with it, but if they don't want it, then it's not going to be a good experience for them.
Not talking back or being snarky but if you feel that way you might seriously want to look into Lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works, they have very bad track records of letting transphobes and bigots run wild, Lemmy.world is the worst, many of the people they've banned for bigotry have been unbanned or were only given temporary bans to begin with, often times they won't even action users who are engaging in transphobia, even if reported. It's really not great.
I used to believe Beehaw was a bit overly strict but honestly I can see they blocked these instances for good reason, especially Lemmy.world.
Yeah I agree, this definately does seem like a knee jerk reaction which ultimately does more harm than good.
I feel like the way they included stop portions on the masculine side they should've also included a stop portion on the feminine side because femboys are valid too, and aren't just "trans girls in-denial" like is often said about us.
Terms of service were meant to be broken, they are a once-sided agreement that the other party never needs to uphold, there are no consequences for them if they don't. So I say the moment they try to screw you over give them a good punch in the face, there are some nasty ways to do that to online entities, some illegal, others just petty, some in grey areas (in real free countries none of them are illegal, because corporations aren't protected in places like that).
I knew a hardcore Maga conservative once, this is very accurate to how they behaved, they really hate everyone, they just pretend to care about certain people so they can put down others.
One of them made a post on Egg_irl with Astolfo which seems to be almost saying that they think Femboys and GNC are just trans girls in denial. Really didn't sit well with me since I know that that kind of think is very hurtful to Femboys and has been very hurtful to me as well as an Agender.
There are no words to describe what a shitty person this is. I bet he's also a scab in the current Reddit protests trying to kiss up to spez for some crappy Reddit merch.
This shouldn't even be a debate or question. This hateful bullshit against Blahaj just needs to stop and mods need to put their foot down and say enough is enough. Like if this kind of shit arguing against a queer friendly instance for being queer friendly is okay or permitted I don't think that !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com should even be on our instance anymore, and our admins should just remove it.
I hope it doesn't come to that. I hope this community can put an end to this bullshit and stop endorsing queerphobic users' complaints.