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turns out, i am gay again! (discuss.tchncs.de)
submitted 4 days ago by phr@discuss.tchncs.de to c/mtf

[i am unsure where this belongs, transjoy? mental health? here where i made the mentioned first post? ... idk how crossposing works here 👉👈]

you may remember me lamenting the loss of the 'gay' label since empirically i was usually atracted to men but due to me being mtf that's quite straight now ... well there's a lot to say about this. i might be best described as bi/pan actually.

anyhow. peeps, i met the bestest girl in recorded history. we've known each other for a while and shared a hobby, but recently found out we might like each other more, when we had a ridiculously romcom-esque weekend. so we started dating, and my heart is exploding. every day. i will see her again tomorrow, but it doesn't feel like i can survive that 24 hours. (yes, all very fresh.)

the only thing i am afraid of rn, is that she eventuall 'finds out' i am just three(+) diagnoses in a trench coat. i admire her and her work so much i don't know how she could be interested in me. i also don't want to make her reassure me all the time .. bc we don't feed the brain worms. but i feel like, i needed to tell someone. 😘

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[-] Hexarei@beehaw.org 36 points 4 days ago
[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 13 points 4 days ago

i like it ;)

[-] zabadoh@ani.social 17 points 4 days ago

Aww, you as a couple sound adorable.

Sending vibes that it works out for you both!

[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 4 days ago

very much appreciated! :)

[-] Domi 12 points 4 days ago

Gaaaayyyy! Love this for you bb!

[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 3 days ago

thanx! :)))

[-] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 4 days ago
[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 11 points 4 days ago

and soft, and kind, and cool ...

[-] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 4 days ago

And cute and adorable and lovable :3

[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 11 points 4 days ago

and emphatic, stylish and good-smelling

[-] strawberry_enjoyer42 14 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Awww y'all sound cute!

I don't wanna "feed the brain worms", but like, she gets to pick who she wants to date (if the person agrees to it ofc), and she picked you. That's her choice; her preference.

As someone who's struggled with feeling inadequate: just be you, and do what you can to make her happy. It sounds like she likes you a lot.

Enjoy your re-found homosexuality! :3

Yours truly,
5+ diagnoses in a trench coat.

[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 4 days ago

thank you for you kind words.

i was thinkin an hour ago, that there is no way her image of myself is identical to the one i had of myself for a decade, and have since seen steadily, eroding. she only know me as the person i was for the last year or so, and that's pretty consistent. i am no cool, creative or smart girl, yet she liked me back. time to befriend myself?

in theory, we should be fine. i wanna be and do better tho.

[-] strawberry_enjoyer42 9 points 4 days ago

I think you're cool and smart. You use the fediverse, after all :3

Also, it's great you want to self-improve, but don't forget to love the version of you who's actually doing the self improvement ;p

[-] kivihiili 11 points 4 days ago

WELL WELL WELL

but seriously though that is incredibly awesome.

i admire her and her work so much i don’t know how she could be interested in me.

having been on the other end of this, it will be ok!! you said both of y'all have known eachother for a while. she certainly made the decision to date you knowing who you are. she likes you, don't overthink it!

have fun frolicking in the fields together!!! <3

p.s.: plushies make really really awesome gifts :3

[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

aww yiss! i was thinking about something .. maybe i'll find a cute plush frog. (and there goes my afternoon. ;p)

i will form a mantra of that. she likes me for a reason. she likes me for a reason ..

[-] Nikki 12 points 4 days ago

being gay is so fun good luck miss :3

[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 4 days ago

yeah, i had some reevaluation done. i am glad there i realised why i went exclusively for guys over the last decade ago. i feel like life in general is more fon now. bein able to gay around is just the cream on top of it. ;)

[-] Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml 12 points 4 days ago
[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 4 days ago
[-] Eskarina@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 4 days ago

Awwwww, all these butterflies, good luck <3

[-] edg@lemmy.world 8 points 4 days ago
[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 4 days ago

(˘︶˘).。.:*♡

[-] hperrin@lemmy.ca 8 points 4 days ago

Congratulations on your rediscovered homosexuality! :)

[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 4 days ago

thx it's shinier than ever!

[-] hperrin@lemmy.ca 5 points 4 days ago

Freshly washed and waxed gayness is the best. ;)

[-] magic_smoke 8 points 4 days ago
[-] gandalf_der_12te 4 points 4 days ago

and my heart is exploding

that does not sound very healthy. you might want to see a doctor about this.

[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 3 days ago

asked chat-gpt first, if an exploding heart is a serious issue. it said no and prescribed me listening to 'voyage voyage' every waking hour.

[-] squirrel 2 points 3 days ago

Be careful. Desireless is good, but you should avoid repetition. Doctors recommend mixing it up with some Mylène Farmer every other time.

[-] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 3 days ago

oh yeah, that's why i shouldn't rely on ai.

this post was submitted on 06 Jul 2026
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