I am not dating myself, but I hear a lot about dating from my therapy clients. Overall, it seems like there is a real lack of effort and an attitude like people are disposable.

Like, my client will want to have a deep conversation, and the guy will answer with one-word answers then wonder why she doesn’t want to meet.

Or pushing to have sex immediately. I get that sex is great and all, but not everyone is ready after the first date.

And then in young cishet couples I work with, I notice a lack of influence taking on behalf of the man from the woman.

That means he expects her to espouse or at least understand his views without returning the favor.

I'm so glad I'm not out there dating. If my partner goes before I do, I'll stay single rather than put myself through that stress.

uncountable, all i can say is that i just don't view cis men as potential partners anymore

Abuse. So many people I've dated were abusers. It's absolutely rampant in the trans community.

I don't date, so I can't speak from first-person experience.

This isn't the most common issue, but a complaint I've heard that still tumbles around in my head was how few men on the dating scene were into reading books.

Probably the most common issue I hear from others is that all the "good ones" were taken and there are no good single people left to date.

I hear this from both men and women, and it's usually from people in a >25 age range, i.e. ages when most people have already paired up and married and had kids, so the dating pool is either full of "discards" (people who failed to find someone to pair up with at the "appropriate age") or people with a history of failed relationships - in general, the available people are all the people who are not promising relationship material because the "good ones" are already taken.