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What's the most common issue you see in the dating pool?
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I am not dating myself, but I hear a lot about dating from my therapy clients. Overall, it seems like there is a real lack of effort and an attitude like people are disposable.
Like, my client will want to have a deep conversation, and the guy will answer with one-word answers then wonder why she doesn’t want to meet.
Or pushing to have sex immediately. I get that sex is great and all, but not everyone is ready after the first date.
And then in young cishet couples I work with, I notice a lack of influence taking on behalf of the man from the woman.
That means he expects her to espouse or at least understand his views without returning the favor.
Pushing for sex early can be a red flag they're abusive. Society often dismisses it as "oh well that's men" but it's not
Absolutely - I've seen women called prudes for not wanting to have sex on the first date. Everyone is allowed to have their preference, but there needs to be enthusiastic consent from all parties involved when it comes to sex. Not "fine, I guess I'll do it cause he's pushy, and it seems easier and safer to acquiesce."
Absolutely consent has to be freely given