[-] 0x2640 24 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Kinda hasn't been going. There's not really much I can do given my current situation, so I'm mostly just waiting for college (which is in 2 years).

There is some stuff that I "can" be doing, like voice training, but I just don't have the energy or willpower to do so. I'm trying my best, and recently my best has just been getting out of bed in the morning.

Overall, has been going pretty terribly. But I have hope that it'll get better in the future when my situation isn't so sucky.

Edit: Oh yeah I did get a therapist. They are basically everything I could ever ask for. Trans (nonbinary), ADHD, Autism (SELF DIAGNOSED which is huge), and just in general I really click with them. I don't think I could've gotten any better.

[-] 0x2640 16 points 2 weeks ago

Taking or not taking HRT doesn't make you more or less valid. And remember, you can always stop it after you start it if you want to. Do what you think will make you happy, and do it when you are ready. If that means waiting to take HRT that's perfectly okay.

I'm not really sure what the deal is with the DIY hate in the other comments. Seems like cis people commenting on trans healthcare without actually knowing anything about trans healthcare (stop please). DIY isn't unsafe as long as you're getting your supply from a trusted source (which in this case I'm not sure you are, so that's your call). Doctors do not magically know everything, and they have proven time and time again to have no clue how to handle trans healthcare.

No matter what you decide, you are still valid. Not everyone takes HRT, and that's perfectly okay. Nobody can make this decision for you.

[-] 0x2640 17 points 4 weeks ago

congrats!!!!

[-] 0x2640 64 points 1 month ago

i just checked and this is actually real thats amazing

[-] 0x2640 17 points 1 month ago

thats what happened to me :D

(well actually i was told im too depressed so maybe i was too trans for hormones)

[-] 0x2640 8 points 1 month ago

why so squished and sad though :(

[-] 0x2640 13 points 1 month ago

what happened to blahaj D:

[-] 0x2640 23 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

no.. sometimes people just post things

when one person posts other people feel more comfortable posting, and more posts ensue

be the change you want to see in the world xP

[-] 0x2640 27 points 1 month ago

because everyone defederated with them

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by 0x2640 to c/trans_voice_help

Bunch of random resources people may find useful, will update this post as new resources come along. Mostly from Reddit, any posts have been uploaded as PDFs to read.

[ A Mixture of Different Resources ]

[ Some useful Videos from Trans Voice Lessons ]

https://www.youtube.com/@TransVoiceLessons/videos Channel link.

https://youtu.be/oWmj73Ttp4E Learn to hear size/resonance better

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fylIX28mlyY Practice advice

https://youtu.be/rvet1PwCoGY An ear training live stream

https://youtu.be/imdM3Cea4NA Voice surgery live stream

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gHyVNIcw_XI some common myths

[-] 0x2640 30 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)
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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by 0x2640 to c/trans_voice_help

A 261 page book going over voice training. May be helpful to some. Link if you can't access it from the post.

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submitted 2 months ago by 0x2640 to c/mtf

After much consideration and fighting with my brain, I've decided that it's okay to ask for help in hard situations. So, I'm making this in hope that I receive at least a little bit of help. I'm asking for money, friends, and any advice you can give me. Everything counts and will help me during this rather terrible time. I'm Uni (name TBD) and I'm a 16 y/o transgirl unfortunately situated in the USA. You may know me as a regular on the Blahaj Matrix chats going by "Miss Universe".

So a little bit (a lot?) of backstory to sort of explain my current situation. My egg cracked October last year and it was both the best and worst thing that has happened in my life so far. Being a minor means that I can't really do anything about the fact that my egg cracked, I'm fully relying on the people around me to help me (which has failed). Put simply, as a minor I have absolutely no control over my body or my life, I have no money, no experience, and nowhere to go.

I came out to my mother and step-father (my parents are divorced) February this year, and while they seemed to be supportive at first they semi-recently turned on me and have been mostly unsupportive since then.

As for my father and step-mother, they are both actively transphobic republicans. I have no plans on coming out to them until after I turn 18, and it would be unsafe to do so before then.

Basically, as of now I have basically no support from anybody in my life and I'm completely trapped as my dysphoria gets worse with each passing day.

With my situation sort of explained(?), why am I actually here? Pretty much I'm here because I need money. Money for clothes, makeup, just stuff that can hopefully help me alleviate some of my dysphoria until I'm able to afford to do so myself (which as a minor is difficult). And also I suppose gas, in case it comes to it and I need to run away, even for a short period. I'm also looking for advice, I don't really know what to do and it would be really nice to have at least some semblance of what I could be doing right now.

I don't really know if any of that made sense, I'm bad at organizing my thoughts and even worse at asking for help. If you have any questions post them in the comments and I can probably answer them.

You can support me here on Buy Me a Coffee if you so wish, and/or with advice in the comments. Every donation counts.

[-] 0x2640 12 points 2 months ago

Last night I dreamed I was a kid, and instead of hiding and building a masc, I was demanding to be myself. Little dream me was so sure of herself, so ready to fight everyone who would tell her she couldn’t be who she really was. I could use her energy right now, and her willingness to fight for herself.

Speaking from experience, this isn't how being a trans kid works. I wish it was. The trans kid experience is more like this: you have absolutely no control over your body or your life, you have no money, no experience, and nowhere to go. All that energy gets sucked out of you as you realize there is absolutely nothing you can do as dysphoria eats you alive. If you don't have support from your family you are completely screwed until you become an adult. This isn't to say transitioning early in life isn't great, but to say that it's not all sunshine and rainbows. Becoming an adult morphs these things into problems you can actually control (at least somewhat).

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