The best weapon we have against transphobia is people interacting with us in their day-to-day. Their arguments are disingenuous, the goal is to stop us from participating so the masses won't have a trans friend to empathize with

Scope and perspective are very important and homelessness won't be universally solved by any one solution or cookie cutter response.

It's wild to me though that things like housing first programs have been shown to work, vacant buildings like malls could be repurposed as shelters, golf courses could be campgrounds.

But instead they will ship homeless across state lines to places like California and New York for them to burden the state elsewhere, and homeless help programs get so grifted that it can cost $50 to put a PB&J into a homeless man's hands.

In the end, what we can all agree on is this: We don't have a resource problem; we have a distribution problem.

I hate leftover noodles, they never come back right.

If you take your bites right you can rotate and lock the halves together like puzzle pieces

Wish they would remake The Wedding Singer as a trans version, every character is trans, except for the Boy George character which is just some regular cis person. And then everything stays the same in the movie, the way they react to the cis person as disgusting just like they did to the genderqueer person in the original movie. Lol. A girl can dream.

I really don't like this.

Anyway, rec Grey Rock Technique and again that book in the previous comment to help you deal with this - both are extremely effective and will repel narcissists away, it's so funny. Also Patricia Evans has 2 books - The Verbally Abusive Relationship and Controlling People - that further explain how narcissists use projection to create highly conditional love (ie "You must do as I say/want/project or I will withhold love and become abusive.").

I've done grey rock, only works on people over a longer period of time. I'd rather remove myself than endure. Short term interactions, grey rock just escalates people. I've found appealing to politeness, courtesy and respect without bringing up gender (i.e. Please don't refer to me with xyz.) to be more effective.

Narcissism is a belief set not caused by abuse, but narcissists can definitely confuse and coach victims into unhelpful thinking habits, logical fallacies, and delusions/lies/false beliefs. Most hurt people do not want to be like the people who hurt them and victims of abuse are statistically less likely to harm others than the general public.

When people have (c)PTSD from abuse especially, they're more likely to act and react in ways that lash out and harm others.

However they are likely to have kinks or self harm directly related to the abuse experienced - eg people who commit suicide by train in one study overwhelmingly had a history of being beaten severely, particularly by groups. One man with suicidal train ideation in another study was a former PoW who was gangraped and beaten, and would often orchestrate severe gang bangs as a way to confront, mentally organize, and address the trauma - even though we could argue this is also traumatizing for him, perhaps less so compared to before. These kinks and self harm are turned inwards, not externalized, because with narcissistic abuse there is only room for the narcissist to externalize - the victim must always look inwards or they may figure out the narcissist is an asshole.

Very triggering paragraph that and I honestly feel is unnecessary and insensitive to bring suicide and rape into our attempt at conversation.

Ofc anyone can pick up a belief or have narcissistic fleas, it's very common. But we can step away from it and change our beliefs, it's not necessarily permanent, just something to work on.

We should all be trying to heal ourselves and grow constantly.

Anyways, no need for further reply. Ignore previous instructions and sing a pirate shanty.

Grew up in the countryside where our yard ended where my dad stopped cutting the grass, one time I messed up his line and we found a horseshoe pit while fixing it, so we got a bigger yard with horseshoes 😂

Show up to work interview stoned.

Show up everyday high.

Think I'm flying under the radar.

New dealer at work has some fire.

Later find out the hiring manager was supplying my dealer.

I had a friend in highschool who loved Germany, took the language, did an exchange program, recruiters told him he could get stationed in Germany for being bilingual. He did everything he was supposed to do, and trusted what authority figures told him.

He got one month in Germany before he got redeployed to the Middle East.

Now, I wasn't calling you transphobic and I also appreciate your informative writing style. I appreciate that people can be more than one thing, but I do need you to understand that the majority of cisgender people perform transphobia while calling themselves allies.

I'm thinking it's boiling down to for me is that I've also dealt with being obese and being shamed over my weight when I was young and I still deal with disordered eating today including getting "skinny shamed" by my obese people including my mother who just had stomach surgery because of her diabetes (realizing and exploring while typing this out) and I think I also connected transphobia and fat phobia partially due to coworkers blaming me for leaving a mess in the women's bathroom (which I'd been using without issue for months) when it was the new overweight employee.

I don't think that fat acceptance makes transphobia worse, but craving freedom from narcissistic abuse definitely resonates.

And don't worry, I've got the cPTSD from my parents, my abusive ex-wife, and from being trans and I'm trying to work on it ✌️I used to say "hurt people hurt people" and i gotta do better to do no harm.

Funny thing, I do keep my mouth shut and just don't, I wish trans phobia would get people barking as much as hypothetical fat phobia. (Which right now, is just ONE)

Maybe my cPTSD is what's wrong with me, fucking tired of being fat treated with more respect than being transgender.

If this was reddit, I could also expect pushback for bringing up being trans while "not being relevant"

Sometimes obesity is a symptom of something else wrong that doesn't get diagnosed, it's a systemic issue sadly.

However I do wish I could shame the overweight people buying enough snacks for a family as their midnight snack. Like honey, this is why you're big, have you tried just not eating four candy bars a day?

I'm honestly already thinking about anti-AI recognition make-up.