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Get over yourself (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
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[-] OmegaMouse@pawb.social 127 points 3 months ago

Nothing makes me want to suck dick more than seeing someone put a bottle into the correct recycling bin :3

[-] fascicle@leminal.space 19 points 3 months ago
[-] kautau@lemmy.world 23 points 3 months ago

Unfortunately when they do that there it's censored with pixelation though

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[-] NaibofTabr@infosec.pub 90 points 3 months ago

TIL giving a shit makes you gay.

[-] papasan_mamasan@lemmy.world 39 points 3 months ago

It also makes you more appealing to women but the men don’t know that because Joe Rogan won’t invite a woman on his podcast to talk about it

[-] ieatpwns@lemmy.world 37 points 3 months ago

Appealing to women is gay. They’re soft and flowery not hard and tight like a big strongman

[-] Zombie@feddit.uk 5 points 3 months ago

https://youtu.be/h5VliEjyohM

A shame he's a bigoted arsehole who thinks "you can't say anything these days" now, but I felt obliged to link this standup

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[-] frunch@lemmy.world 6 points 3 months ago

At very least, giving a shit makes you "woke" and the intent is the same as when they use gay as a slur (at least as far as i can follow their logic)

[-] socsa@piefed.social 6 points 3 months ago

Fellas, is it gay to ingest external stimuli to guide your personal decision making framework?

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[-] Hylactor@sopuli.xyz 67 points 3 months ago

This for me is the weird cishet paradox. So afraid to look "weak", that they obsess over not looking weak. But you know what looks super weak? Being insecure about being weak. Like, the more you have to prove you're a big tough guy, the less big and tough you seem.

Also, I feel like they've never considered that gay doesn't necessarily mean effeminate. Or even that effeminate doesn't necessarily mean weak/meek.

[-] OrteilGenou@lemmy.world 19 points 3 months ago

Yeah, in the 1950s you were a big tough guy if you wore all leather and had tattoos.

Now you might be a tough biker dude, sure, or you might be a power bottom with a kink.

[-] nocturne@slrpnk.net 13 points 3 months ago

Daddy Metal, Rob Halford, in spiked leathers riding a motorcycle on stage

Porque no Los dos?

[-] FishFace@piefed.social 13 points 3 months ago

I think you're imagining this as a more conscious process than it actually is. The reason you need to go out and research this is because these men aren't going around saying, "yeah, I was going to put my pepsi can in the metal recycling but I was worried my bro would call me gay so I just put it in the general waste." Instead, sometimes men put pepsi cans in general waste, and sometimes men do things due to social perceptions, and sometimes those social perceptions are that certain things are "unmanly" and working out which things are related to each other is quite hard.

So there's no paradox here. All people are subject to social pressures, and the vast majority of people make some effort to conform to those pressures in order to fit in and to receive approval from the people they value. Conforming to fit in isn't "weak" or "insecure", it's the nature of being a social animal, and is done instinctively - if you think it's done "obsessively" then you're imposing the analytical mindset of someone studying the evidence on the subjects of the research, which is a fundamental error. It'd be like saying someone who subconsciously mirrors the mannerisms of someone they respect is "obsessed" with getting their approval, when they likely don't realise they're doing it.

Also, I feel like they’ve never considered that gay doesn’t necessarily mean effeminate. Or even that effeminate doesn’t necessarily mean weak/meek.

They almost certainly haven't because, again, if you're "considering" it, it's not the right concept. The concept that people are trying to avoid is the one that's labeled "gay" by their peers, which is really more of a gender thing than a sexuality thing; "what are you, gay?" isn't a question about someone's sexuality, it's a suggestion that someone is not conforming to the gender role expected of them. You can't successfully challenge that by saying "ackshually gay people can be v strong and they forget to put the pepsi can in the correct bin far more often than you might imagine." They'll just reply with, "OK bro sounds pretty gay," because you didn't challenge them on what they meant, only on what you thought they meant.

The challenge has to be more along the lines of creating a better awareness of societal expectations, tolerance of people who don't conform to them, and building up positive associations between behaviours we want to promote and conforming things people already value, to help them see things in a new light.

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[-] socsa@piefed.social 58 points 3 months ago

Being afraid of looking gay is pretty fucking gay.

[-] Teppichbrand@feddit.org 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Being attracted to women because they are soft and feminine is pretty fucking gay, too

[-] prole 34 points 3 months ago

I just can't even imagine having such a fragile ego and being so unconfident in my own sexuality, that I would be worried about people thinking I'm gay for using reusable bags.

Jesus Christ. These are the people who are making everything on this planet worse for the rest of us.

[-] FishFace@piefed.social 10 points 3 months ago

Inasmuch as these people have a "fragile ego", you probably also have a fragile ego. Virtually everyone subconsciously adapts their behaviour to gain the approval of other people whom they value.

The difference between you and them is not that you have a strong ego and are confident in your masculinity, it's that you don't value the views of people who judge people on that basis. And that is certainly no bad thing, but it's a fundamental difference, and making this error makes it very hard to understand people who are different from you.

[-] prole 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I don't have a "strong ego," I strive to have no ego. Not easy, obviously, but I feel as if I do an alright job.

How am I making it harder for myself to understand them? I know they're bigoted, I thought that was a given.

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[-] etherphon@piefed.world 31 points 3 months ago

Men we've been scammed, go to the store and look at the completely bland men's clothing options and then go to the women's section and look at all the fun they have with all the different colors and styles, it's really a tragedy.

[-] telllos@lemmy.world 13 points 3 months ago

Dont get me started on drinks! :)

[-] MintyFresh@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago

Bleh. All those colorful drinks are so loaded with sugars. They look like fun, but get ready for a gnarly hangover. Stick with gin and sodas!

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[-] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 5 points 3 months ago

I'll take the girly drinks and keep wearing my black shirts, thanks

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[-] Almacca@aussie.zone 31 points 3 months ago

Second row should be Insecure men today.

[-] buttnugget@lemmy.world 6 points 3 months ago

Yep. Pathetic worthless dumbfucks. Normal men do not even think about such things.

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[-] webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 26 points 3 months ago

Masculinity is when you are afraid for how other people perceive you.

[-] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 16 points 3 months ago

Toxic masculinity is that, among many other things.

[-] boonhet@sopuli.xyz 8 points 3 months ago

I think toxic masculinity actually has little to do with actual masculinity. Not disagreeing with you here, more like elaborating.

[-] raspberriesareyummy@lemmy.world 7 points 3 months ago

That's the opposite of it.

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[-] Blackmist@feddit.uk 25 points 3 months ago

I use a reusable bag because I'm not paying an extra 40p every time I go fucking shopping.

[-] horn_e4_beaver@discuss.tchncs.de 21 points 3 months ago

How homosexual of you.

[-] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 25 points 3 months ago

Straight men then: No matter what I do, I still hate the idea of sucking another man's dick!

Straight men now: If I clean my ass too much I may want to suck another man's dick.

[-] MoonMelon@lemmy.ml 21 points 3 months ago

The Great Male Renunciation is the historical phenomenon at the end of the 18th century in which wealthy men of the Western world stopped using bright colours, elaborate shapes and variety in their dress, which were left to women's clothing.

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[-] Sarmyth@lemmy.world 16 points 3 months ago

The only reason for a man to be so concerned about another man's sexuality, is they want to be a part of it.

[-] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 6 points 3 months ago

Yep, which is why homophobes talk about (man on man) anal sex waaaaay more than gay men.

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[-] ICastFist@programming.dev 15 points 3 months ago

One of my coworkers loved to make "i bet so-and-so is gay, look at how he does stuff" joke remarks. I once had the chance to joke back: "Dunno man, you spend a LOT of time thinking about how he's gay, you're always paying attention to him, you're always talking about him, that's pretty gay of you" - That made him stop with those while I'm around, at least.

[-] raspberriesareyummy@lemmy.world 15 points 3 months ago

Men are not afraid of being perceived as gay. Only insecure weirdos that need therapy are afraid of that.

[-] danekrae@lemmy.world 15 points 3 months ago

Actively trying to avoid looking gay, is fucking gay.

[-] Tiger666@lemmy.ca 14 points 3 months ago

Some men don't wash their asses because they think it's gay.

They don't wash their asses and think that is not a problem.

Homophobia is literally disgusting.

[-] Devjavu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 3 months ago

So... gay people actually have a cultural advantage for once. That's a rare one.

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[-] mr_satan@lemmy.zip 8 points 3 months ago

I'll wear a pink tutu to the store if I so decide. I'm a man, I don't care how I'm perceived.

[-] dumbass@aussie.zone 8 points 3 months ago
[-] QuentinCallaghan@sopuli.xyz 8 points 3 months ago
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[-] jaschen306@sh.itjust.works 7 points 3 months ago

I'm a straight man that went to a gay bar with a bunch of lesbian friends and got hit on by a very feminine gay man. He like the way I dressed and how well I was put together.

It was such a confidence boost and made me very happy.

[-] RedSnt@feddit.dk 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I use multiple reusable bags every time I go shopping and I've only kissed one man. How do I become even more ~~gay~~ green?

[-] daggermoon@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

Everyone thinks i'm gay anyway. Might as well bring my own reusable bag.

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