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this is a question for your partner, since romance is contextual to a person
one way to be romantic is to be thoughtful and respectful of their boundaries, and sensitive to their needs and desires
thank uuuu
I was unable to reply to your other comment in the Relationship Advice thread before it was deleted, but, on the topic of "love languages":
they sort of are bullshit, they were made up by a Baptist pastor and don't have any evidence backing them:
It's a bit like Myers-Briggs personality types or astrology - fun to discuss, but not to be taken too seriously.
thank you, that makes sense!!
Video about it, if you want more info:
Love Languages: A Philosophical Horror by Big Joel 29 minutes and 56 seconds https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kD6KJ_ThZio
Every so often I send a partner a message like "ur cute btw" or "did you know I like you?" Something small or silly like that. Also saying thank you when they do something for you. Also just occasionally asking to spend time with them "just cause I think you're neat".
Remembering what they like/dislike, what stuff they are allergic to, if they need accommodations for a disability, learning what to do/not do. Remembering what they've told you but also not extrapolating or assuming beyond that.
As others have said, romance is very contextual so asking and listening and caring are crucial. And just wanting to be around them and inviting them to be around you if they want that.
thank youuuu!!!!
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