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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by nonBInary@thelemmy.club to c/lesbians

how can i be romantic with my girlfriend without kissing her or without getting gifts or anything because she doesn’t want to? just spend time together and say “i love you” maybe? i know there’s other ways to be romantic but idk how

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[-] dandelion 10 points 2 weeks ago

this is a question for your partner, since romance is contextual to a person

one way to be romantic is to be thoughtful and respectful of their boundaries, and sensitive to their needs and desires

[-] nonBInary@thelemmy.club 3 points 2 weeks ago
[-] dandelion 10 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I was unable to reply to your other comment in the Relationship Advice thread before it was deleted, but, on the topic of "love languages":

they sort of are bullshit, they were made up by a Baptist pastor and don't have any evidence backing them:

https://theconversation.com/love-languages-are-hugely-popular-but-theres-very-little-evidence-they-exist-at-all-198065

It's a bit like Myers-Briggs personality types or astrology - fun to discuss, but not to be taken too seriously.

[-] nonBInary@thelemmy.club 4 points 2 weeks ago

thank you, that makes sense!!

[-] oftheair 2 points 2 weeks ago

Video about it, if you want more info:

Love Languages: A Philosophical Horror by Big Joel 29 minutes and 56 seconds https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kD6KJ_ThZio

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