This is absolutely too general of a blanket statement. Piss all over the joy of fascists, that makes you a good person.
I'm not sure fascists feel joy. I think they can only feel anger and hatred. Maybe malicious schadenfreude at best.
I'm sure deep down you understand the type of situation OP means.
Yeah there are limits to this for sure. If the thing you enjoy actively harms people around you then thats a no from me dawg. If you give in to endless consumerism and that excites you, then i will bully you for it.
Absolutely true! I wish people would just not ruin other people's happiness. It's really not that difficult!
This is a weird coincidence. I just finished watching Lizzie McGuire yesterday and the last episode was precisely about not letting snobs ruin your enjoyment of something. She and her mates went to watch a live recording of a toddler show and got made fun of by Kate.
Yes, I'm a middle aged woman who likes re-watching shows from when I was younger. Anyone doesn't like that, that's a them problem. I could have done with a mate like Gordo as a kid though. He's very A Team friendly.
Dude tell me about it. I had a girl tell me she was exited about the tswift engagement and I just went full asshole mode for some reason and was like "oh you gonna go to their wedding? Big friends with Taylor?" ... Idk why I decided to be a jerk but ... Yeah I still feel low-key guilty about that but she's said/done plenty worse so I probably should let that shit go.
Anyways, yeah I guess I'm saying sometimes I think people may not be totally aware in the moment of their dickishness so learn from me and just STFU if someone is happy for some dumb shit.
Did you apologize to her? Sounds like you were taking some of your frustration out on her and that's probably not fair.
Yes, I'm not that big of a dick. My apology led to her sharing some silly shit she's said to her buddies that were akin to my slip up.
It's not like I punched her in the face and spit on her lol, if I had couched it better it would have probably just been funny but I just went hella sarcastic and dick mode.
In context she had said she got really good news then showed me the announcement on her phone so I was like expecting some actually good news for her not some stupid celebrity tabloid shit that's ultimately meaningless.
Idk I know we all need our bread and circuses, I'm wrapped up in plenty of equally inane and pointless crap same as everyone else - sometimes I just am bad at being a human. I'm not very good at socializing in general, it's something I've had to learn and try to study and be good at still - definitely does not come naturally to me. I've gotten pretty good at pretending, I'm a decent "professional people person" when I turn my human mask part of my brain on since reading people is something I've had to focus on because I can't just socialize like a human being normally does.
But yeah that's a very long way of saying, yes I'm not that mean of a guy.
Happened to me way too often as a kid (from other kids, never my family), and I've only just now begun to realize it's why I feel such embarrassment if I ever allow myself to get excited/show excitement. God forbid I ever let myself get animated, I end up laying in bed every night for literal weeks afterwards replaying it through some fucked up filter that just gets worse and worse until I'm convinced I've humiliated myself irrevocably, and I stop interacting with other humans for a long time. The only places I can allow myself to be excited/animated are online and with my family.
Recently went to visit a friend and ended up getting positively hyped while helping one of his friends build a rube goldberg machine. Friend I went to visit ended up having a medical episode, and mentioned in his drugged up state that he was a little jealous of how quickly I and his friend hit it off, and I still haven't recovered. Me and rube goldberg machine guy really clicked, but I haven't been able to bring myself to even text the guy because I can't get past the embarrassment of it. Friend I visited said it was like watching Romeo and Juliet meet.
To live is to cringe. There really is no antidote.
What happened to, um... JoCat? So many people were mad about the girls animation that they bullied him off the internet for a bit, and only after he was gone were they like "I agree with the cartoon, I just don't like people knowing that about me."
If you don't mind me asking, what do you find embarrassing about building a sick-ass fuckin' rube goldberg machine? I really can't imagine somebody doing that without joy.
Lots of people around me are excited for a racist march organised by flag-shagging, far-right knuckle-dragger Tommy Robinson.
So let's call it a guideline rather than a rule.
Not to cool your jets, but I've met worse types of persons
Impossible. The meme has spoken!
If you are excited about hyperconsumerist slop, I will shame you
What if you're excited about military adventurism or the latest pogrom of an ethnic or religious minority?
What about Zionists? Or people cheering at Trump for sinking a boat in Venezuela?
Well I was excited about making them feel stupid for liking something and you just make me feel stupid for being excited for something... asshole.
that kid that killed animals for fun when I was in high school and he killed a bunch of other students pets and they all got in trouble for beating him up,
coal rollers and close shave swervers in the lunch room at work,
guys bragging about sexual harassment and assault,
maga,
etc..
Also, sometimes magical thinking can be trouble. Like, someone's excited about how their health issues are going to be cured with the right essential oils. Sometimes you need to burst that bubble so that they will actually get real medical help.
Part of growing independence is to develop some internal approval that you will enjoy your life without asking permission of others for you to go be you. You can and will seek out supportive people who will be attracted to your ideas. This is what having a vision is. You see it and that is what is important.
And Lots of other people have their own shit going on. So if they aren’t going out of their way to be cheerleaders: do not take it personally. They might come around later when they see what you got going on. They might not. But hey that’s ok. They are on their own trail. They are allowed this space.
That said if someone is going out of their way to bully you: do not give them permission to make you feel like shit. Their opinion of you is none of your business.
So true. Being judgemental is stupid and old fashioned in the worst way. If it’s not hurting people, why judge it? Let people live, ffs.
This statement captures a huge part of the shitty, negativity first, punching down, and adversarial nature of the conservative white american culture that I was born into.
It is so incredibly pervasive that I think most don't even realize they're doing it. Even thinking of relatives who I have totally good personal relationships with -- I can hang out with them any time, but I am not going to sit around in the living room with everybody because within minutes it turns into non-stop complaining about entire other person on the planet.
It's almost like that "Darmok" episode of star trek, except on this conservative planet the locals only speak in the form of complaints.
I catch myself doing this sometimes. I don't mean to belittle anyone's excitement — I just tend to default to responding way too analytically/critically. It's a trait of mine that I despise, and I'm trying to be more aware of it so that I can prevent it from happening.
My parents were very excited about a fresh business opportunity by a certain Nigerian Prince. So I’m a shit person for not letting them enjoy it, sure.
People were excited about Trump being elected and I make them feel shitty about it. How am I a bad person?
If I'm excited about something, I am very selective of who I share my excitement with. The comments here verifies that choice.
/genuine am i missing something or are a lot of people taking the hyperbole a little too seriously?? like I agree but god forbid someone uses hyperbole??
Welcome to Germany, a country of 80 million worst types of people.
She's right. That said, constructive criticism is very important as well sometimes, and it can be tricky to navigate when to be positively supportive and when to be critically supportive
It's also mean if you add up some measure of everyone's excitement and divide it by the number of people
No, no. This is one where offense can easily be intended.
I mean, I dunno if I'd support someone being like "Yay, meth!"
Compared my buddies collection of Funko vinyl POP figures to Beanie Babies...crap of self realization.
That may be true but it's also important to have self resilience against useless criticism. I mean, it's not your fault your excitement has triggered someone else's defences, causing them to attack you. Best thing to do is walk away and only engage again when you're calm, if you want to still engage with them.
What if they are excited about the dumbest things like labubus? Or AI image generation? It's just not that black and white. Labubus are stupid and you are stupid for liking them.
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