This statement captures a huge part of the shitty, negativity first, punching down, and adversarial nature of the conservative white american culture that I was born into.

It is so incredibly pervasive that I think most don't even realize they're doing it. Even thinking of relatives who I have totally good personal relationships with -- I can hang out with them any time, but I am not going to sit around in the living room with everybody because within minutes it turns into non-stop complaining about entire other person on the planet.

It's almost like that "Darmok" episode of star trek, except on this conservative planet the locals only speak in the form of complaints.