Join a club. There's fliers everywhere.
Wow, college has turned rough, to many anxieties, I had fun in college, met new ppl, met my college gf of 3 years no fraternity needed not even socialmedia...and I'm just 44, already someone is calling anon a creep without any prior knowledge of the person or any context, it's that easy now to to judge people and call anyone a creep ...and they are wondering why are ppl lonely, single and anxious
A boomer told me that he observes younger generations as being stand off-ish. I don't disagree. I suppose having grown up with "stranger danger" message being drilled into us made us that way. I don't want to start a generation fight and blame boomers, but who are the parents of millenials who taught us the message that made us hypervigilant? The stranger danger message has merit, but if older generations are complaining why we behave that way, you reap what you sow as the saying goes.
Another consideration is that if Anon is Gen Z, it is very likely that his peers grew up with constant attention to online and digital presence, which makes them socially awkward. It didn't help either that much of Gen Z spent two years cooped up in their own homes during the pandemic. It does not take a genius to figure out what those two phenomena does to an entire generation.
You may be interested in reading https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bowling_Alone
There's a lot to blame - dual income households, suburbanization, religion declining in popularity (religious communities are communities)
Decline in local communities sounds like a natural result of mass communication and globalization, imo
Eh there are a lot of factors, including how your city is designed. Car centric cities usually have less sense of community than cities with good transit or walkability. This is because nobody chats with the person next to them in traffic but some people will chat on the street or on the train. But on the flip side, car centric small towns can have a lot of community, mostly because the place is so small everyone kinda knows everyone and most people rely on the same businesses.
Well, posting green-texts is a fair indicator IMO (I mean it's fake but let's pretend).
It's funny how this post is just a greentext story about a guy trying to talk to a girl in class. But some of the comments are negative or have such divisive vote ratios: assume bad hygiene or "Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women"
Am I the only one that's surprised that the comments are so negative? The interaction from the greentext seems like a somewhat "standard" thing to happen in one's life
It does seem to be a very 21st century thing to treat an unwanted romantic conversational overture as a form of assault.
I suspect it's even more so with terminally online people who are too socially awkward to be able to just brush someone off and move on, without being haunted by it for the next four decades.
I get that sometimes there are men who go too far and make a situation untenable, and absolutely fuck those guys, but overall I think we're going in the wrong direction in society where people just don't talk to each other any more.
assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
I gotta say, I never had any of these problems in college. And I won't even pretend I had great hygiene or particularly good social skills. The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn't have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Let's set aside the fact that OP is probably lying. When one guy gets ostracized by an entire classroom of other students, it's safe to assume one of two things:
The classroom is full of bigots who hate This One Guy for a very particular cultural reason (maybe you made a mistake going to South Confederacy Technical College as a black guy looking to meet white chicks)
The guy is so universally obnoxious that he can't get the time of day from the second biggest loser in the room
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative?
If it was posted on anything but 4chan, maybe. But anyone who knows the reputation of the average 4chan user can come up with a host of reasons why people are avoiding him like the plague.
Honestly, I have seen many classrooms in which no one was talking to anyone. There would be a break in the lecture, and the lecture hall would be absolutely silent for 10-15 minutes until the lecture resumed. Other classes were a bit more chattery, or even way more. As a teacher now, it seems anecdotally that the problem is getting worse, but that’s what every teacher always said (“these younger generations!! Mumble mumble”)
The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn't have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Brother, ain't this the truth.
I didn't make any friends with my same-age classmates just by casually talking.
Then I went to night classes with full grown adults and i was invited to dinners and birthday parties immediately.
The post says that people weren't avoiding him specifically, but no one was talking to one another at all.
as a man who went to university, and had women in my class, never had a negative reaction like that when trying to talk to girls about whatever is relevant.
never tried to pick up girls in class either.
in my first three years of college i spoke to maybe ten students, pretty much all of them because we were assigned a team project together. only one guy talked to me because we were sitting next to each other at the same class and i started a few short-lived conversations with whoever was next to me before exams if the teacher was taking too long to come.
besides that, many people (almost everyone it seems) came into the college as friend groups from high school. they spoke to each other, but you're not within that friend group and it feels awkward to butt in a conversation where everyone's already highschool friends and you're a stranger.
ya if you want to meet people, join a club.
I only ever speak to people I don't already know in the same class when there's class assignments that requires us to.
Also, when people say meet others at college they don't mean in the classes, especially not in the lecture halls lol. They mean in the social events...
I was pretty shy when I started college and have always disliked social events. I skipped a few years in highschool so I was young when I started. Combined with working 30+ hours a week to pay for college and my social life was pretty dead.
My junior/senior year I decided to sit next to the most beautiful woman in class on day one. I would then smile, say hello, and leave them alone. Then smile, say goodbye at the end of class and leave.
A few weeks of this and most of them started talking to me a bit before or after class. By mid-terms I was friendly with a few beautiful women and had a couple dates. The last quarter of my senior year, I sat down next to my now wife.
I did get called out by my wife on knowing so many beautiful women when we were dating. She was a bit annoyed but I did sit down next to her after all.
Generally, yes, but if you're a pleasant person to be around you can easily get things going from lectures as well. You just need to strike up a conversation like a normal person and be friendly. The problem most of these people have is they treat women like something to be won, when instead they're just people.
Don't they? The culture might be different in different schools or different generations, but I've made quite a few friends just by chatting with people in the lecture halls before class.
Would this attract someone just like the anime stickers?
You need to wear the Fedora, not run it.
Eww, no, it's not Arch
quite likely, but it's not as effective as arch
I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time. Insta-ghost. Idk if that was a fixable personality trait but it wasn't my responsibility anyway.
Not quite as bad, but I went on a date with someone that just explained video games I hadn't played. He would ask about a video game and if I hadn't played it he'd speak about it uninterrupted for 10-20 minutes explaining the levels. Not even interesting lore or anything. It would be like listening to someone explain a speedrun, but their speedrun is just playing the game normally. I like video games and play with my partners and friends, and I even watch videos about video games I haven't played and I could only stand 3 of these rounds before ending the date. He was completely uninterested in talking about anything else and didn't even want to talk about games I had actually played. Only games I knew nothing about. Totally bizarre. It felt like a prank. Would make a great greentext from his perspective though.
You literally describe my fear with my 10 y/o. He is a talker. He's pretty quick witted and can even make jokes that adults can appreciate. But hell if he can't just talk at you.
We are slowly engaging it. I hope he becomes an interesting, empathetic young adult who gives space and shows real interest in others. I'll do my best, but I didn't get better at this till my late twenties.
I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time.
Based.
I wonder if he'll have a moment of clarity in a decade or so about how weird that was?
Nah, he'll blame it all on wokism.
I smiled at a girl in college once. A day later she infodumped everything she knew about Capgras syndrome on me out of the blue. 11/10 would recommend.
...and then you got replaced by a lizard person and she never spoke to you again?
Live in the dorms and go to parties. The first week before classes start is magical for making friends.
Ah yes, shroom week.
Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women
Especially if he doesn't bathe
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