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It's a very personal choice, and alcohol is ingrained into a lot of our society. Do you drink and if so how much?

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[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 4 hours ago

Yes only one drink, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and sometimes half a glass of wine on Wednesday. So overall maybe 5-7 "units" of alcohol a week? I take months off in July and October though.

I quite like having a drink, and it's part of food culture to me, but as others have said, don't like being very drunk, or not often, and never go to bed with any level of inebriation because that is a migraine trigger.

[-] Keyboard@lemmy.world 3 points 7 hours ago

Not every month but yea I like to drink and a lot

[-] Waldelfe@feddit.org 3 points 8 hours ago

I don't drink. I've tried all kinds of different alcoholic drinks over the years and they are all just so disgusting to me. Luckily my husband doesn't drink either.

[-] ChexMax@lemmy.world 6 points 12 hours ago

I'll drink at get togethers, whether it's a house party or a wedding, a pool day or a birthday. Once in a rare while my husband and I will have a couple of glasses of wine on a date, but usually it's a group activity for me.

I see a lot of people saying they don't like to feel out of control or that they don't like being around drunk people. I like both! I think it's very fun to be a little less inhibited, I think it's fun to feel a little wobbly, I think it's fun to get a little grabby and goofy with my husband. I also like being around drunk people! Idk, all the people in my life who drink all just get more fun to be around, not less. More likely to play a game, or do something spontaneous, or spill a secret. It's all fun! It's like the difference between going for a walk and going to a carnival! I guess carnivals aren't for everyone. There have been years of my life where I couldn't drink (medications, pregnancies, breastfeeding) and I still liked being around people who drink. I have friends who don't drink, and they can be fun too, but idk. My buddies playing music or seeing who can cartwheel best or playing truth or dare drunk is more fun.

[-] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 4 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

I tried alcohol a couple of times but the taste is just soo bad. Like I can hardly make it through 1 cup so I don't experience the effects, so it's aken to drinking bad tasting water for no reason.
The most I've ever done is a bottle of Soju, but that just made me kinda wobbly with no other fun effects.

My grandfather was addicted so I don't really wanna push my luck.

weed is fun though, I get really bad panic attacks if I eat edibles for some reason, but inhalation is fun :)

[-] weariedfae@sh.itjust.works 3 points 14 hours ago

Very rarely. I've grown to like the taste of alcohol (not beer though) but I hate drinking culture. Especially since it is a HUGE part of my profession. Like not officially, I'm not a sommelier or anything, but my profession is obsessed with beer. And drinking.

I was locked out of a ... long story short let's call it a promotion, because I don't go out drinking with the group every Thursday. EVERY Thursday. I went while we were in the field and I thought we all connected very well but apparently not.

4 out of 5 gatherings I'll go and drink soda and it makes them uncomfortable. Bitches I'm a lightweight and I'm driving. They're all driving too though :|.

Ugh I hate beer culture.

[-] heyWhatsay@slrpnk.net 3 points 14 hours ago

I drink beer most days, I stay away from hard alcohol, and while I would like to drink more wine, the sulfites give me headaches.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 6 points 20 hours ago

I drink. About on average, say, three "servings" (a shot, a glass of wine, or a mug of beer) per week. On special occasions I'll drink more. I avoid being actively drunk, however, because while I enjoy the sensation of having a drink inside of me, I can't stand the feeling of being drunk.

Personally, however, I don't care if or how much you drink as long as it isn't leading to destruction (yours or someone else's). What I do care about is people moralizing. If you don't drink, that's fine. We can get along great. If, however, you start lecturing one of is is on the way out the door. (Same rule for vegans.)

[-] Zorsith 9 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

I don't. I find the blindspot society has for alcohol to be alarming and stupid. Far too many people outright require it to enjoy themselves at an event like a wedding, will decline an invitation if its not going to be present, and somehow don't see how that's an addiction. There's serious cognitive dissonance about how its somehow different than "needing" any other drug; if anything its worse, as alcohol withdrawal can actually kill you.

I never really picked up a taste for it and I'm glad for that, drunk people concern me. I'll cook with it, but i don't drink any beyond maybe a thimbleful to know the flavor I'm adding to a meal. Anything more than that and the only thing i can taste is straight alcohol.

[-] PrimarilyPrimate@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago

I don't drink at all. I never picked up a taste for it and I don't want to spend my money that way. I am 62.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 3 points 15 hours ago

Perfectly valid. I teetotalled for a decade and can understand the appeal without question.

[-] hildegarde 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Wine! Wine is wonderful! Grapes are a special fruit that are incredibly variable. There are so many possibilities, so many different flavors and aromas. There is always something new to find in wines. Tasting wine is a literal academic discipline.

I usually have a glass or two with one meal a day some days. Wine interacts and pairs with foods, and you can even put it in the food!

I've grown as a person in the past few years. I've suffered many pints of beer trying to fit in with those around me, to not stand out. Beer is their thing, it's not my thing. I know this now. I know myself now. I know who I am and what I like, and what I like is wine. Also I'm trans. These two things might be related.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 4 points 15 hours ago

I have the same thing happening here with baijiu and huangjiu culture. There is so much variety. Even within the broader styles (like "strong scented") you can take five bottles from five different distillers in neighbouring villages and have five entirely different experiences. The terroir of the base starch (usually sorghum, but can be almost anything including mixed grains and even sweet potatoes or the like), the precise composition of the "qu" (hard to explain, but basically the part that causes saccharification to occur simultaneously with fermentation), and the nature of the aging process (which again, bizarrely, includes a form of terroir) leads to more diversity than seems plausible for hard liquors.

I'm currently working through this bottle:

A shot glass with a transparent liquor displaying ethanol tears in abundance in the foreground with the bottle it came from behind it in the background.  The bottle's only non-Chinese text says "500ml" and "50%vol".

It's a small-distillery (let's be honest: farmhouse distillery) rustic baijiu from Shandong made of the aforementioned sweet potato with a bit of sorghum to round out its flavour profile a bit, using a primarily wheat-based "big qu". (Again, hard to explain. If you know what "koji" is for sake, you've got the idea, only it's far, far, far, far, far more convoluted in China.) When I say "rustic" here I mean it. It compares (favourably) to some of the better moonshines I had back in the days when I would go to the USA. When you drink it there's a pretaste that's just a little bit sweet and fruity before the main body of it punches you in the palate for a knockout blow of fiercely terroir-driven ethanol and sweet potato. When your palate recovers there's an interesting, pleasant nutty aftertaste that comes straight from that little bit of sorghum they add. This is a powerful little firebrand (the style is amusingly called "coal gas" in local patois: literally called this on the label!; sort of the Shandong local version of calling something "firewater" or "white lightning") that you drink neat and chilled, ideally with spicy foods both to help counter the spice (ethanol is great for flushing capsicum from your tongue), and for the spice to help rein in that right hook the main body of the flavour brings.

(Most Chinese liquors are not "sipping" liquors. They're meal accompaniments and you get truly rewarded if you drink them communally at meals, not alone sipping.)

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

Do you have a recommendation for an entry level baijiu available in the US?

[-] hildegarde 3 points 14 hours ago

That sounds lovely. I've never tried any Chinese liquors, but I have enjoyed sake on the occasions I've tried it. Its probably mostly convenience. Its much easier to find good wine bars and wineries where I tend to be.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 2 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

Well as the old saying goes: if you've tried a Chinese liquor, you've tried ... ah ... that specific ... Chinese liquor.

It's crazy how much diversity there is here. I mean there's 12 official styles of baijiu alone. And that doesn't even begin to rein in the craziness of classification. Thousands of years of booze culture with a society that is VERY strict on tradition leads to fractal complexity.

(Irrelevant side note: I brought a dear friend in Canada some "Luzhou" style—more properly termed "strong scented" in modern classification, but this was from Luzhou proper—hooch. This friend, like me, has a long history of trying different liquors from different places and has an equally broad palate as a result, but by virtue of my location I have access to stuff he's never heard of. His description of the Luzhou style stuff was "it tastes exactly like I would imagine diesel would taste like if diesel tasted really good".)

[-] hildegarde 1 points 4 hours ago

I'm going to try some... specific... Chinese liquors some day. I always enjoy trying new things!

[-] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

According to my medical charts, I'm a social drinker.

Which just means I drink a glass of something like once a month.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 22 hours ago

I drink at social events, family events, and occasionally at home with my wife. Sometimes I take a month or so off though when I feel I should.

[-] Beebabe@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I do not drink. It smells sour and bad to me. Intoxicated behavior really bothers me. So in sum, nope.

I ferment my own 'wine' (fancy hooch) that i enjoy a bit of every couple weeks. Yesterday I had some strong stuff I made from organic strawberry lemonade and it's really the best batch I have ever made. Nobody else I know really likes to drink and I feel weird drinking alone in my house so the one gallon batches I make last a long time.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 4 points 15 hours ago

I'm investigating the possibility of buying a home still and making my own baijiu. It's actually legal where I live, and I have connections all over the production side of things so I can source some fascinating ingredients and "qu" styles.

Of course I have no experience in distilling so ... ah ... my first few attempts are going to be dire.

[-] violetsoftness@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 13 hours ago

oh that would be so neat making actual liquor! One thing that has surprised me is how much cleaner home brew is, at moderate levels it gives me very few ill effects compared to store bought alcohols even the nicer ones.

Good luck on your baijiu!!

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 3 points 13 hours ago

A lot of commercial alcohols add stuff that ... ugh. Really shouldn't be there. Making up for lost craftsmanship when producing in bulk by chemical means.

I drink almost exclusively from small distilleries here. Ironically, unlike the same thing being done in Canada, it's cheaper this way. People go for brands, so the big name distilleries have a huge price premium. In the meantime the small producers are putting out stuff that's just spiffy and keen!

[-] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 9 points 1 day ago

I don't drink at all. Me and alcohol don't mix, so I don't drink. Personally I don't like being round drunk people so I avoid activities where that'll happen

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I don't. At all. I have very specific sensorial sensitivities and the way I taste things makes it so that pretty much all alcohol tastes the same. I feel like my taste buds somehow like individualizes the alcohol and that's all I taste. It's weird.

But also, and I guess that's the main thing, I have a traumatic history of alcohol. An abusive parent. I almost lost someone who I was very close with due to how much they drank one night and had to go to a hospital after they fell in a coma because of it. I've been around too many drunk people in my life.

Alcohol is expensive, it's literally poison, and it makes people act in a way that I find very unpredictable and scary. I've been harassed, threatened, borderline assaulted, touched in inappropriate ways, and so on by way too many drunk people. I don't ever want to do that to someone.

I see alcohol as the elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about. I genuinely believe, without a shadow of a doubt, that our cultures would be far better without it.

I think I'm quite judgmental on this issue. I recognize that, but I genuinely don't understand the people who feel the need to have alcohol and to get drunk to have fun. I don't understand the point of going somewhere and just drinking. I don't understand that. I really don't.

Like, I'm going to some kind of like party organized by friends or whatever and I'm like cool we're gonna get there, we're gonna get to sit around, chat, talk about stuff, play around, and just have fun and when I get there I realize oh, it's just an excuse to get drunk with loud ass music, again.

I've been the shepherd puppy for parties in my home organized by someone I live with acouple of times and that was already too many times. It's obnoxious being the only non-drunk person at a party. You feel like you need to babysit everyone because you don't want them to damage your apartment, which has happened! I have probably irreparable damage in a part of my apartment. That's probably going to cost me a lot the day I move out of it.

I've had to kick someone out of my home because the dude was just too drunk, kept sexually harassing people. Intimated me. Said fucked up shit about my then partner to my face. And was like on the verge of like sexually assaulting someone in my home. The victim who was also too drunk out of their mind to even realizing what was happening and even defended him. People treated me like I was crashing the party. Fucking hell. I don't want to ever leave that again.

Fuck alcohol. It's so fucking weird that we have normalized microdosing poison just for the hell of it.

[-] celeste@kbin.earth 1 points 2 hours ago

I don't understand that. I really don't.

If you're curious, getting drunk or otherwise modifying your mental state with alcohol or drugs is an "experience." It's like a small adventure contained within your person. The world looks and feels different. I don't recommend it but that's the appeal of being drunk or high or going on a trip when you aren't an addict or using it as a bad way to treat mental illness. Lots of people have curiosity about how altered states feel, or know they enjoy it from previous experience.

[-] Pipster 7 points 1 day ago

I drink at home occasionally, less than a few units a week and not every night. Usually g&ts or similar and, whilst im not really 'into' wine like some people are, i do have my moments where all I want in life is a whole bar of chocolate and most of a bottle of red wine.

Social drinking i have a few drinks with friends but i rarely go all out any more.

[-] DearMoogle@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I drink everything lol beer, wine, cocktails, whiskey neat. Not everyday ofc. But yeah it’s nice to keep stocked for when I’m winding down after my workweek ends, for movie nights, for pairing with a nice steak or pasta, etc etc. I treat drink like I treat food lol they are some of the finer things in life that I intend to enjoy😁

[-] nuzzling@feddit.dk 3 points 23 hours ago

In social settings, can wary from a couple of times per month to two months between. Just having or two drinks/glasses of wine. I feel I get more easily hangover with age, and I don’t want to waste the next day - and I don’t feel comfortable/safe loosing control when out.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 2 points 20 hours ago

I've never had a hangover and I'm not even sure what they're meant to feel like other than "very bad".

[-] hildegarde 2 points 14 hours ago

Its not an experience worth having. You feel sick, hangovers can include most of the being sick symptoms. Its around the discomfort I had from a moderate flu. Nothing crippling, but not worth feeling that level of unwell for a day when its easily avoidable.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 2 points 13 hours ago

I'm not sure why I'm immune to them. I suspect it's because I hydrate like crazy at the best of times. I gather the hangover is mostly just lack of water turning your blood into a sludge of salts.

[-] hildegarde 1 points 5 hours ago

Before I had my first "hangover" I assumed I never had one either. It wasn't that I never had one, it was that I never dunk enough at a time to have one that was bad enough to identify as a hangover. Plenty of times after a late night of drinking I'd feel a bit bad in the morning, but I just assumed it was from the sleep deprivation rather than the alcohol.

If you never drink too much at one time you won't get hangovers. I don't think the mechanism behind it is fully understood.

[-] pleasestopasking@reddthat.com 5 points 1 day ago

do I drink? used to.

how much? too much. hence my answer to question one.

it seems like more people are becoming aware of the idea that alcohol can be really harmful even when there's not a physical addiction. It seems like increasing use of terms like alcohol abuser, alcohol use disorder, etc. helps change the idea that there's this one type of alcoholic, they wake up and start drinking to function and they get the shakes if they don't. regular binge drinking doesn't look like that at all, but it's still really physically and mentally harmful. I feel like we have really normalized unhealthy alcohol use in a way that is dangerous to society.

there are of course people who use alcohol responsibly and like it for loosening up a little, the taste, the process, whatever. I don't think everyone should be sober or anything. but man for a lot of people it can be real bad and it's easy to be in denial by telling yourself it's like like you're addicted, you could stop if you really wanted to, you hold down a good job, you never drink before 5, etc.

[-] switcheroo@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

None. I am extremely cheap and alcohol is too pricey for my cheap arse.

Once in a blue moon (see like, every five to seven years), I may have a margherita or some warm sake.

I like fruity drinks (mai tais 🤤) but my cheapness will win every time.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 1 points 19 hours ago

The current bottle I'm working through at the moment is a 52%ABV (104 proof) liquor made of sweet potato at the base and that cost me about the equivalent of $2 for a 500ml bottle.

[-] sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I really shouldn't drink for medical reasons (even though I really enjoy it) - but I recently have gotten into mocktails. They satisfy my need for extreme garnishes in my drink and are delicious.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

If you are willing to take some hands-off time with making it, the Friend Zone non alcoholic cocktail is amazing and complex and satisfying.

https://imbibemagazine.com/recipe/friend-zone-a-zero-proof-strawberry-drink/

[-] celeste@kbin.earth 3 points 1 day ago

I drink a couple times a month, usually a whiskey drink these days because that's what i have. Sometimes in the summer I'll have a hard lemonade. Wine at dinner, on some holidays. The circles I'm in now are more into weed, tbh, so there isn't just a bunch of booze in the fridge on dnd nights.

[-] xpey@piefed.social 2 points 22 hours ago

I very rarely drink with my friends (they drink a lot), but I never go overboard because I have emetophobia lol

[-] klemptor@startrek.website 3 points 1 day ago

Yup, two drinks once a week. I used to drink a lot more but as I've gotten older, my body doesn't handle it as well as it used to.

[-] oftheair 4 points 1 day ago

No, we don't.

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