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[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 99 points 2 months ago

Ok, as a man, I can see that these are two different hairstyles. Visually, it's obviously the same person but with slightly different configurations of hair. Where I'm lost is that this meme seems to imply that one is better than the other. Which is the superior look? I don't know. That doesn't mean I cannot differentiate between the two, it means I am out of touch with whatever is stylish at the moment. There's nothing objectively more or less beautiful in these photos. Maybe one style is easier to maintain, and the difference is supposed to sugest that one of them takes better care of their hair? Or maybe they are too fussy and vain to a fault? This is specialized knowledge that can only be shared via communication. You cannot discover it on your own like some scientific truth. You must learn it from someone else who knows.

The people who are snarky about people not knowing something like this are the worst sort of snobs. Not only are they mocking people who haven't been included in the secret, they are wasting an opportunity to share knowledge to do it.

[-] Zagorath@aussie.zone 77 points 2 months ago

My read of the meme was that the similarity is the point. "You vs the girl he cheats with", if one was significantly more attractive than the other would probably imply that it's the woman's fault for not being more attractive. But by showing them both basically the same, the message is "if he's a cheater, he's gonna cheat, no matter what you do. It's on him."

But maybe I'm putting too much thought into it.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 44 points 2 months ago

That's an interesting take. So basically a cheater isn't being drawn into anything because of a specific desirable trait that you lack, it's just that he's a piece of shit who wants to cheat.

[-] noseatbelt@lemmy.ca 4 points 2 months ago

Yes the point is that they're similar, but with the added layer that you're supposed to prefer the left because it looks more natural whereas the right looks like they tried too hard to achieve the same look and failed.

[-] undefinedValue@programming.dev 27 points 2 months ago

Hah, this guy doesn’t get it

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[-] Plum@lemmy.world 89 points 2 months ago

I am a biological woman. I identify as such. I don't know what the same person plus 30+ minutes with a curling iron has to do with cheating. Effort? Vanity? This is far, far beyond me somehow. I am also very old so there's that.

[-] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 23 points 2 months ago

I am a biological woman. I identify as such.

Do you mean a cis woman?

Or are you trying to separate yourself from robot women?

[-] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 15 points 2 months ago
[-] DoubleSpace@lemm.ee 4 points 2 months ago

That's good enough for me. Congrats!

[-] nednobbins@lemm.ee 8 points 2 months ago

I assume she meant exactly what she said.

[-] owsei@programming.dev 13 points 2 months ago
[-] match@pawb.social 9 points 2 months ago

oh, no, a lot of pesticides are involved

[-] anzo@programming.dev 3 points 2 months ago

Good take. Jokes aside, to me it only sounded like a terf or an ignorant. All women are women. Plus, the detail didn't add to what they said in the next sentences..

[-] tankplanker@lemmy.world 21 points 2 months ago

I think you helped me crack it, i think it's saying that the person who looks like you but puts in more effort to their appearance on the regular is more attractive. That makes sense to me, and would be true in the main for most people, it's one of the most common things said to people who are struggling to find partners.

You could take negative connotations from that about that person being vain but really it should be on the cheater for being a fucking cheater.

[-] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

I agree with you, but don't like that the interpretation puts the onus on the person being cheated on. Like, people will cheat even if they're with the most gorgeous, totally out of their league person. Cheating has nothing to do with how attractive or how attentive to themselves your partner is. If you're a cheater, you're gonna be a cheater.

[-] Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

I actually think what you said is the real point of the image. To me they are saying that they will cheat with a girl that looks just like you, because that's how guys be.

[-] Phoenix3875@lemmy.world 40 points 2 months ago
[-] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 40 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

the actual answer is that the curls are brushed which is essentially a minor thing that make some people feel like they're better than others, hence why the unbrushed version is the version that the guy would cheat on (worse) and the main girl is "better"

the different ideas in the comments are KILLING me though. I think the 'tight curls = tight grip on dick' theory is the funniest one

[-] Saprophyte@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

I got the idea that the woman on the left took a little more care in her personal appearance and the one on the right was a little more trashy, which made this song pop in my head.

[-] essell@lemmy.world 39 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I suspect the hidden meaning is that guys apparently cheat on people who are fundamentally no different to the person they're cheating on.

The implication being that guys cheat for the sake of it, rather than because there's a difference in the person they're with.

For clarity, I'm not saying I believe any of that. I think it sounds like utter nonsense. No doubt it's true for some people, but I think applying it to a wider group isn't very reasonable.

[-] angrystego@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

Well, people do tend to have a type, right?

[-] HikingVet@lemmy.ca 31 points 2 months ago

What in the Victorian over complicated aristocracy social rules is this bullshit?

[-] PotatoLibre@feddit.it 5 points 2 months ago

I feel like it doesn't mean anything, it's just trolling.

[-] HikingVet@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 months ago

Then the troll is a shitty human.

[-] CaptainBlagbird@lemmy.world 24 points 2 months ago

No clue.
But it looks better on the left imo.

[-] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 16 points 2 months ago

My guess: Guys don't give a fuck about who looks better. They will cheat on you with anyone, even if there is no perceivable difference between you and who they are cheating with. The point of cheating is to cheat.

[-] ICastFist@programming.dev 10 points 2 months ago

I won't even pretend I know where to begin. Same girl, different hairstyle, that's all I can gather, no clue on possible hidden meanings

[-] sheepishly@fedia.io 9 points 2 months ago

I'm a woman and I don't understand this My immediate thought is something about the tighter curls on the right implying she has a tighter grip on his dick

[-] lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 months ago

Maybe it's boys cheat with women similar to their actual girlfriend?

[-] angrystego@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

That actually sounds logical.

[-] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

I'm betting that in the image on the right she's wearing hair extensions.

[-] Haus@kbin.earth 3 points 2 months ago

There does seem to be a lot of hushed discussion about hair extensions.

[-] thoughtfuldragon 6 points 2 months ago

I think it's the tightness of the curls

[-] molotov@feddit.org 4 points 2 months ago
[-] thoughtfuldragon 8 points 2 months ago

It's the same person at different stages of styling. They're both the same level of artificial/natural, however you measure that.

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[-] N0t_5ure@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

I saw this a while ago on reddit, and the explanation in the comments was something about brushing the curls out for a more "natural" look, with the one on the right being worse for not doing it.

[-] MadMadBunny@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

He will cheat with a cheaper-looking, tackier wannabe of the girlfriend/spouse.

The cheaper tackier girl had to try emulate the look of the original in order to attempt to be on the same league, which she’s never be.

Since he’s not cheating with a "better version" of yourself, it’s a bit reassuring for a woman’s ego; it’s just "sex" and he’s not gonna leave you for that slut.

The man’s still a stupid idiot for cheating though.

[-] humorlessrepost@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Oh so it’s a meme bragging about a coping mechanism. That’s fun.

[-] CidVicious@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 months ago

I dunno anything about styling longer hair, but I'm going to guess that the tighter curls on the right look less messy. But it does seem like a pretty toxic attitude displayed.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago

My take on this is that Jaz k is gaslighting all of us.

[-] CobblerScholar@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

Looks like natural curl pattern vs manually hand twisted curls maybe?

[-] atro_city@fedia.io 4 points 2 months ago

The joke is for the in group and we're not in it.

[-] TomMasz@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

I'm not gay and I do see a slight difference between the two, but the difference is pretty minimal IMHO. What this person sees, I have no clue. It's significant for them, though.

[-] DrBob@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 months ago

In this thread: men who don't understand women or hair.

[-] random8847@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

The point is that the other girl is not that much better looking and he still cheated.

[-] Phineaz@feddit.org 3 points 2 months ago

I assumed that "he" is cheating on his partner with this girl. Like, it's the same person, because this is the person he's having an affair with.

[-] yaroto98@lemmy.org 2 points 2 months ago

Obviously if I don't understand the joke then it's crossposted engagement bait. And I'm sticking to that mindset.

[-] ieatpwns@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

The curls on the left look natural and fluffed up, the curls on the right look stiff and like they were done in a hurry.

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[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Honestly it just looks like before sex hair and after sex hair. Or someone with straight hair immediately after curling it vs. 5 minutes later. So if he cheats on the somewhat touseled hair person with the I Just Did My Hair person, he'll just end up with a somewhat touseled hair person again. Maybe even if he goes to coffee with the picture #2, when she leaves she will have the hair in the first image.

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