They're not scary, they're awesome. At least I don't find them scary. Maybe some people might be intimidated, but once you get to know some trans people that'll go away.
I suppose I'll just have to get to know myself
I'm afraid of them because they are all so beautiful and hot and I wanna hold their hands
Gay :3
Same
I’m afraid of their power. The onion told me some can be in every bathroom everywhere all at once. I totally support them in that, but it’s also scary because what if I have to use the bathroom really bad!!
Thankfully, most trans people aren't even at the breaking laws of physics level yet. Bad news though, once a trans person reaches space-time bending levels of transness, they become completely invincible.
Maybe they'll evolve to achieve the powers faster, like megafauna that grow faster to become basically immune to predators.
The gap between doublejumping and wavedashing is already quite large, reaching spacetime bending is quite out of most of our reach
I have met a couple of people over the years that are scared of interacting with trans people because they don't know how to act.
I mean, they do, because you just act like you would with anyone else. But they worry about fucking up, or how/whether to address transness. So they get all tense and awkward, and then they fuck up and say something dumb and get even more scared the next time they meet a trans person.
It isn't just for trans folks! There's people that get specific social anxiety around people of other races, gay people, even just people from a different part of the country or world. It's the whole "I don't wanna say/do the wrong thing".
I mean, I'm not an expert in dealing with trans people, but these kinds of "awkward rare person type" interactions have a really safe way of dealing with it : don't fucking mention it until they do, then be polite about it and ask if you can "learn more".
I really shoved my foot in it once when I worked with someone who was a drummer , where I had problems with my left hand playing at home on my kit, and they were interested in joining a jam. "Oh you're a drummer, how do you deal with having your weaker hand being slower? I really suck at it".
Then much later that day (or week) I realised they had ectrodactyly, and I died of shame, I am now a ghost.
Oh yes! I used to be like that.
But one day I met a friend of a friend that already knew some stuff about me and liked me
I've misgendered him several times on accident that day, but basically never since :)
Ngl, I'm relatively active with the local LGBTQ community and have been since the nineties, and I still sometimes screw up. Rarely for sure, but still. Luckily, everyone knows I'm just an idiot, not a jerk.
Yep that's me. To be honest I only know one trans woman, but I knew her since she was like 14 and she's only transitioned a few years back. I sometimes accidentally used her old name or gender which was met with anger, leaving the room and slamming the door most of the time.
She's doing better now the transition is over, but I mainly stick with silence or safe topics now. I definitely don't talk about the past anymore because that is like walking through a minefield.
That's my worst failing too. It's harder to reprogram the way our brains process names and identity than is even fair. I meet someone during or after transition, it's easy peasy. Meet them before, especially long before, and it can take a year or more to be certain I never screw up. Yeah, after a month or so, it becomes rare, but sure as hell something about the past will come up and my brain slips a gear.
It would be nice if the brain (mine in particular) was a wee bit easier to repattern things like that
I hear they attract lions :(
Don't worry, I have this rock that repels ~~tigers~~ lions.
Women fear me. Fish fear me. Men turn their eyes away from me as I walk. No beast dare make a sound in my presence. I am alone on this barren earth.
Jk the men aren't that polite, they just stand there and stare at me. The rest is true tho
But you're so pretty and/or handsome, how can they not?
Okay who of you jumpscared this little guy?
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How are you afraid of Trans folk?
Simply present fearlessness, and your life will be better. Roll unafraid in every situation and be set free.
People fear what they don't understand or are not used to. I have had a number of acquaintances and even a few friends that are. I support them. Do I understand it, hell no. Does it make me a bit uneasy, yes. But I'm a bit ASD so all social interaction tends to do that. That's a me problem and I don't take it out on others.
Wouldn't surprise me if this was literally true for someone. Phobias aren't rational by definition. I'm mostly over it now, but I have a phobia of buildings with high ceilings. I'm guessing it happened because I was in a scary situation as a toddler inside a theatre and my dumbass brain was like "CEILINGS = BAD". Thanks brain, I really appreciate your help in saving me from the dire threat of seeing Cars 2 in theatre.
A few years back a known guy from a game I play said something similar on twitter. Though he said it was specifically because he has had only bad experiences with transfolk so as a result he's now literally scared of them/instantly gets a bad feeling interacting with a transperson.
Sooo many people cancelled him for it but I never saw the issue, you don't control your fears and if anything it's just confusing that we use the suffix -phobia for bigotry but in some cases it's a literal phobia. If you interact only a few times with members of a small group and it's always negative you're almost guaranteed to end up with that reaction, and no one but the person themself can know how bad the fear is.
In theory someone could agree that trans women are women and trans men are men, but at the same time be against the idea of transitioning. Not sure why, but it's not impossible.
I guess it's the same as someone not believing that other races are inferior or otherwise different in any way other than appearance and still be racist.
Some doctors are transmedicalist and deathly afraid to help trans people transition in case they aren't trans enough™ so that is indeed a thing.
i mean, there are many transphobic opinions one may have which aren’t in conflict with "trans people are the gender they say they are"
it’s often what comes after the dreaded BUT
examples of transphobia (and enbyphobia) where this applies
imo opinions like these are even worse than blatant bigotry, cause the people who say them often present themselves as safe and "allies", so they’re much more pervasive and harder to ignore
I must make two honest confessions to you, my Christian and Jewish brothers. First, I must confess that over the past few years I have been gravely disappointed with the white moderate. I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: "I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action"; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a "more convenient season." Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.
"how can i be racist if i hate ALL of them EQUALLY?"
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