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[-] Draegur@lemm.ee 129 points 5 days ago

When my best friend transitioned it was like watching someone begin to exist. Nothing was lost when she came out. She became MORE. More vibrant, more alive, more enthusiastic, more driven, more creative, more HERSELF. It was like the one who was there pre-transition wasn't even a whole person but just a shell or a mask. I'm so fucking proud of her ;~; <3

[-] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 7 points 4 days ago

Can only confirm this. Since I had to finally acknowledge, that I'm trans life really does feel different. For the first time in literal years I have been able to feel true happiness. Prior to my realisation life kinda sucked. It was more like a monotonous stream of time where nothing really happened.

[-] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 74 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Maybe its the psych nurse in me who already likes watching people come out of a depression but that's what it most looks like with (most) of the people I've known, especially those that need hormones / surgery to improve their mental health. Like the ones that look bony or bloated or ashy or greasy with circles under their eyes and matted beadhead and uncontrolled acne everywhere from not wanting to look at themselves in the mirror or touch their own naked body in the shower. It's not everyone's story but watching the ones who do come out of that is one of the most satisfying things I've ever seen! How do you watch that and not be hyped by it? Like I get that not everybody is willing to wash another person's butt to get there but you can't even admire the result?

[-] lath@lemmy.world 17 points 5 days ago

Like I get that not everybody is willing to wash another person’s butt to get there but you can’t even admire the result?

It's a mindset thing. To give an example, think of the "meat is murder" vegans. A hamburger is a marvel of ingenuity considering its worldwide success, yet to the people who vividly picture how it's produced from start to finish the end result isn't something to be admired.

The disgust is self-inflicted because their set of values cannot reconcile with the method used or the whole process itself.

[-] Dadifer@lemmy.world 37 points 5 days ago

Did you just compare transitioning to making hamburger?

[-] moonlight@fedia.io 19 points 5 days ago

It's a pretty nonsensical analogy. I think they just wanted to complain about vegans.

[-] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 days ago

I understand the analogy it's just a bad one. It references a second set of moral values that are largely unrelated but that people can also have strong yet varied opinions on. That muddles the meaning significantly for most people.

The point being made is that people can't appreciate the progress of someone's journey towards peace with their own physical body -> even though they have very little to do with the messy internal parts of the process -> because they find the entire concept morally objectionable.

Which isn't actually wrong; that is what's happening. People are letting their very narrow and rigid set of morals interfere with being able to see the beauty of the metamorphosis in front of them. They're too stuck on whether or not the concept itself relates to what somebody told them the bible means in Sunday School at 8 years old instead of critically evaluating... anything and everything? about those beliefs and how they relate to the well-being of the humans they actually share the world with.

I've met annoying vegans and I've met annoying "carnivores," but I've also met a lot of other people who are annoying for a lot of different reasons and it doesn't really benefit this discussion.

[-] lath@lemmy.world 6 points 5 days ago

That's what drew your attention? It's not the example itself that matters, but what it tries to convey. Still, let me try with another example and if it's not good enough, then you're more than welcome to bring your own.

In the above comment, that I'm replying to, the commenter's set of values cannot reconcile with the method used or the whole process itself and as such is more likely to express disgust towards the end result.

Hope it's better, else, please partake.

[-] logos@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 days ago

Good point, and well illustrated. Sorry so many people got hung up on the metaphor.

[-] lath@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Thanks. And it's fine, we all have our differences so disagreements are bound to happen.

[-] erin 8 points 5 days ago

Is the argument that because there is a manufacturing process involved in making a hamburger that the suffering is worth it? I didn't torture anyone to transition.

[-] MummysLittleBloodSlut 3 points 4 days ago

So you think hambörger is more beautiful than a cow's life?

[-] lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Did you just compare being trans to being vegan?

[-] Test_Tickles@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

I think they compared transphobic people to vegans.
Trans people were compared to hamburgers... but you know, not fastfood hamburgers. More like really good burgers. You know, like where their buns are toasted and slathered with avocado. Maybe topped with grilled onions, and then you slide a piece of bacon in there, you know? And then you just shove it right in your face.
And then after, they can both go for burgers...

[-] SuperNovaStar 1 points 4 days ago

I mean it's a great comparison, just not for any of those reasons

[-] Lumidaub@feddit.org 36 points 5 days ago

I'm sorry, what? Do people actually say that?? Wtf?

[-] carotte 43 points 5 days ago

yea, they say that, or what I’ve seen often is "im grieving the death of my son!!"

like, why not celebrate the birth of your daughter instead?

[-] huppakee@lemm.ee 12 points 5 days ago

To be fair, especially to parents I get the part of grieving of someone you love not being there anymore. But if that person isn't really dead but just a different (better) version of the person, I don't really get how you can believe you are greaving while you're simultaneously not keeping that person close to you? I mean, that will only make the loss worse, right?

[-] AlexisBlackbird@lemmy.ca 24 points 5 days ago

They're grieving the loss of who they expected their kid to be

[-] huppakee@lemm.ee 1 points 5 days ago

But I think that's not a weird thing for a parent (not saying it is normal to not want to speak to your child because they are different then you expected, or to dislike them for being who they were born to be).

[-] AlexisBlackbird@lemmy.ca 14 points 5 days ago

Yeah, the phenomenon isn't unique to trans people if viewed through the lens of expectations for their child. It just takes on a much more extreme reaction/framing when transphobia is involved.

I don't begrudge my mom for feeling sad about realizing I'm not who she wanted me to be, but those aren't feelings you should voice to your child who is already struggling.

[-] huppakee@lemm.ee 5 points 5 days ago

No totally fair, it's not your fault she had those expectations as well. Any parent should be supportive of their child and I agree you are not the one she should bother with those feelings. Wish you the best.

[-] hovercat 14 points 5 days ago

Both my partner and parents said that, it's quite common.

[-] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Watch that Elon Musk interview with Jordan Peterson. Elon seriously says that his "son" died to "the Woke Mind Virus". (His daughter Vivian is trans and is happily living far away from her father in Japan.)

[-] Emerald@lemmy.world 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Elon seriously says that his “son” died

To which Vivian responded "i look pretty good for a dead bitch". What a queen.

[-] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I watched her interview with Hasan, and the thing that surprised me the most is she's just a normal-ass 20-year-old. I never would've expected one of Elon's kids to be that well-adjusted.

[-] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 9 points 5 days ago

Relatives usually

[-] lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network 1 points 5 days ago

If it's just relatives saying that, you might have a good social circle, because relatives are the only ones you can't choose.

[-] squirrel 24 points 5 days ago

I pity the guy. He tried really damn hard (without much success) and then I had to murder him.

[-] brown567@sh.itjust.works 15 points 5 days ago

I think it's more like seeing someone hatch XD

[-] lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network 6 points 5 days ago

OH THAT IS WHY TRANS PEOPLE IN DENIAL ARE CALLED EGGS OMG I NEVER SAW THAT BEFORE!

[-] MummysLittleBloodSlut 5 points 4 days ago

When my egg broke, I became a chick

[-] lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network 1 points 4 days ago

Okay, that was funny. That got a good "forced breath out of my nose" from me.

[-] brown567@sh.itjust.works 5 points 5 days ago

Actually it's kinda the other way around, I chose the hatching metaphor because of the egg terminology 😅

[-] silasmariner@programming.dev 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Yeah but the egg terminology exists because that's what it's like -- hatching

[-] lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network 2 points 4 days ago

Guys... This is becoming a chicken and egg problem..!

[-] lugal@sopuli.xyz 1 points 5 days ago

Maybe insects turning from larvae to imago is a better metaphor

[-] kittenzrulz123 13 points 5 days ago

Sure somebody died but that somebody was never me, sorry (not) that the actural me exists now and the actural me is a silly catgirl :3

[-] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 7 points 5 days ago

"You know that friend that you loved? He was a piece of shit and so are you for caring about him"

[-] erin 5 points 5 days ago

Yeah basically. The person is still there. You should celebrate, not mourn, that the person you love is taking a step towards who they want to be. Acting like you lost something is incredibly hurtful, because the person is still right there, they're just changing. If their gender expression is the only thing that made them important to you then yes, you're a piece of shit.

He was a piece of shit and so are you for caring about him

The friend is not gone. This implies that you cared about who they were and not who they are. Any mourning is just an indicator that you don't actually love this person, you love who you thought they were and don't actually care about their happiness. Abusive behavior.

[-] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 4 points 5 days ago

I'm not philosophizing. I'm interpreting what the person in OPs screenshot was saying, which seems to be "fuck you for caring about the person I was when you got to know me".

[-] erin 3 points 4 days ago

That person still exists. Mourning their loss shows you don't actually love them as they are.

[-] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 5 points 4 days ago

I don't think that's fair. You can be happy for what someone achieved and mourn what you used to have at the same time. I have friends who got married and had kids. They're happy and I'm happy for them. I'm still sad the old days are over when we could just drink beer in the back yard whenever we felt like it.

[-] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 days ago

How is that analogous to transitioning, though? You can do the same things with your trans friends as with your cis friends, right?

[-] erin 3 points 4 days ago

What do you lose when someone transitions? They're still the same person, just happier and expressing themselves truly. You lose nothing. The only loss to be mourned would be a relationship that's no longer compatible. It's a change, but it's a positive one, and expressing any form of loss to someone going through such a difficult and scary time is incredibly hurtful.

[-] T156@lemmy.world 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Though, you generally don't tell that to their face, not in that way, and certainly not when they're confiding in you about/celebrating finding themselves. That's simply hurtful, and beyond rude.

You generally won't go up to your friends on their wedding day, and say the same phrase. You're more likely to put it as "I'll miss drinking with you in the back yard, but I'm happy you're happy", and not as a seriously-spoken "It's like watching my friend die!".

[-] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 days ago

No, it's about the person they thought they were. You don't magically transform into a different person when you transition. You just become more authentically the person you already were.

If your "friend" has a problem with you because they find out you're trans, they're a bigot.

[-] coherent_domain@infosec.pub 6 points 5 days ago

Sorry what is the context? I am kind of out of the loop.

[-] AlexisBlackbird@lemmy.ca 18 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

When trans people transition, some people, especially parents, experience a period of grief for the person they knew. Especially transphobic ones describe that as "my son died".

And they're right. He killed himself so that I might live.

[-] AlexisBlackbird@lemmy.ca 1 points 5 days ago

Topical song

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